Alright I have to sound off somewhere

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Fri Jan 28, 2005 8:28 pm

Well, that just sucks! It's hard to find TRUE friends who will stick with you through good AND tough times. People are too concerned with themselves, and not concerned enough with others. At least you know now who you can count on! Yourselves!

My sister has a good saying that she uses in instances like this: "Karma's a b!tch." You get back what you put into friendships, just like anything else in life. I know...very "cliche" and easy to say when your friends have let you down. It just plain sucks. Go punch the hell out of a pillow, you'll feel better! :yh_beatup

Cass · Post by **Cass** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 8:09 am

Awwww.... what a bunch of losers

If I was in Tuscon, I would have helped you move

minks · Post by **minks** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 8:43 am

I'm with Cassie.

What a pity your friends can't stick to their commitments. Time to move on and try some new ones.

I really do not understand folks these days who say they will do this do that ask for your time and then just brush you off.

Sorry you had to go throuch that

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 12:10 pm

You are in a rut, get out and have some fun...sometimes making a real fool out of yourself can make you feel much better! EXPRESS Yourself. :-6

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 12:43 pm

BabyRider wrote: "Karma's a b!tch."

lol. We have the same saying in my town, only it goes, "Comes around, Goes around."

Seriously, I'm with minks. Time for some new friends. My wife had teh same problem with her friends just a few years ago. I told her, don't worry, time changes all things. You'll get some new friends.

Sure enough, she met up with a girl that's her age and now they're just about inseperable. They are our best friends now and we are really there for each other. When her husband got cancer, my wife was her shoulder to cry on. When my wife had a stroke (no, she's not old, just bad genetics.) they were here for us.

Just like relationships, good friendships seem to show up the most when you are looking for them the least. Go figure. :rolleyes:

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 1:01 pm

>>^..^ Awwww.... what a bunch of losers

If I was in Tuscon, I would have helped you move

Ditto! I have helped friends move a lot... I kinda like it, because it's not

MY stress, just theirs, plus I enjoy the calorie burn.

Sorry you had to have flakes. Yes, it's happened to me before. Makes

ya feel icky.

But we're all here, and we'll give virtual box lifts, how's that?

:yh_star

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 3:29 pm

Bunch of lazy losers..!!

You have learned a valuable lesson in life.. !! WHEN IT COMES TO MOVING DAY, COUNT ON NO ONE.. UNLESS YOUR PAYING THEM TO SHOW UP.. :-5

Seems when friends, and sometimes family here your moving.. they scatter to the far corners of the earth.. Never to be seen again till your all settled in..!!

I have two people I can count on to help with moving.. My two sisters, we can move you in 1/2 day depending on the distance to the new place.. We have done it so many times.. we are experts.. Had to move my younger sister out once, from her violent X-husband( this was about 25years ago). We took everything out the bedroom window, while he slept in the living room..

SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS, YOUR OLD ONES ARE LACKING IN CHARACTER, I WOULDN'T GIVE THEM THE TIME OF DAY..

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Jan 29, 2005 3:58 pm

I would be thankful at least for them to have messed up bad enough that you can end the relationship with no qualms. People like this hang out and take from you for as long as they can get away with it. You've lost less than if they stayed in your life for another year or more.

I packed my friend's house up for her one year. She finally was relieved from caring for her elderly mother and was so emotional she lost it. She could think of where to start or how to pack. They lived in that house for over 40 years. Imagine how much stuff they had accumulated. By the time she told me that they weren't packed they had two days left. I packed the entire house in two days. Not to make a big deal out of who I am...just to point out that there are lots of people like me and the others on this forum. You will meet good people.

shibee · Post by **shibee** » Sun Jan 30, 2005 11:07 am

Yeah, I have friends like that too. Kinda sux because when you depend on them to be there and support you, they just bail and give you this lame sob story excuse. I just had something similar happen to me the other day, and i'm still kinda peeved about it. But life goes on...if they're not going to be there when you really need them, they're really not your friend. Guess i should be listening to myelf too, huh?

samanthaguy · Post by **samanthaguy** » Sun Jan 30, 2005 6:50 pm

sorry to hear, you can really only count on yourself and most of the time your spouse, let em go. settel in and be happy.. these days people dont know what friendship is anymore,just a word, hope you have better luck. there are still a few good people out there youll find one soon good luck

cars · Post by **cars** » Tue Feb 01, 2005 7:45 am

ScoupeSlave wrote: It is a hard thing to hear and to accept. the people that you care about don't care about you!!! but i guess what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

-SS

Sounds like these people were more like acquaintances, not true Friends! True friends are always there for each other no matter what! They find a way to make it happen. Like others have said you will find new friends, and the good ones will shine through. (And be there for you when needed) :wah:

Cars :driving:

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue Feb 01, 2005 11:06 am

I heard something once:

"A good friend will bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be in there sitting next to you."

lol. But seriously, You can tell whose you real friend by who comes to see you in the hospital. That's the thing that separates out the best.

I grew up with a great guy in the 70's . We were inseperable, but then I went away for a couple of decades. Strangely, when I returned, he had turned froma nice guy into a jerk and a racist.

I finally got sick of hearing his racist tirades and told him, "I'm not going to come over anymore,until you stop acting like this." Well, it took a year, but he finally called me one day and admitted that he had been terrible to me. It seems that someone else wsa feeding him that stuff. Once he realized what he had become, he kicked that guy out of his life and became a much better person. The person he used to be.

(I don't know if this fits, but it's a friend story so.... eh!) :rolleyes: