Are you affectionate....

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 9:59 am

...or do you prefer people keep their distance??

I'm a really touchy- feely, huggy, kissy sort of person!:D

I worked with a guy who said nobody was ever allowed to touch his hair, not even his wife (they were divorced at the time!:rolleyes: ) that was so weird to me!

chrisb84uk · Post by **chrisb84uk** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 10:07 am

Well I can't say I really like all the hugs, kisses treatment. I do prefer to keep my distance from that sort of thing, at least for the moment.

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 10:07 am

Very affectionate. I believe in the power of human touch.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 11:33 am

People can be affectionate with touching, I think that distinction needs to be made.

Some people need to maintain their personal space, and it doesn't relate to inter-personal relationships.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 11:37 am

sunny104 wrote: ...or do you prefer people keep their distance??

I'm a really touchy- feely, huggy, kissy sort of person!:D

I worked with a guy who said nobody was ever allowed to touch his hair, not even his wife (they were divorced at the time!:rolleyes: ) that was so weird to me!Touchy, feely, huggy, kissy person here also.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 11:49 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I don't like casual acquaintances touching me... unless its just a gesture during conversation where they might touch my arm. That's okay. Sometimes.

Touch. Touch. Touch. Poke. Touch. :yh_kiss

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 11:55 am

SnoozeControl wrote: You're asking for it, you!

LOL!:D

(poke)

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 11:59 am

MY hubby and best friend are both very affectionate so I'm affectionate in training. I'm learning to loosen up a bit but it's hard if you weren't raised that way.

pina · Post by **pina** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 1:02 pm

I love big hugs, its one of the best things about living here in Spain. Its always two kisses and if you know them its a hug as well. :-4 :yh_hugs :-4

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 1:56 pm

I'm not very affectionate to people outside my family. And then sometimes with my family I catch my self running and hiding, espicially from my nanaw. Yikes that little lady can crack a rib or two if your caught off guard.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:10 pm

:yh_hugs I'm a hugger! :yh_hugs

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:23 pm

Accountable wrote:

:yh_hugs I'm a hugger! :yh_hugs

Group hug everyone!!:D :yh_hugs

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:40 pm

i used to be a major hugger...my husband has made me more of a distance person! that is so sad! his mom smothered him in toooooo many kisses when he was a child. he has a difficut time letting go of a lil personal space.

i did, however, get a hug from my dad the other night that lasted about three minutes. it was about the best feeling i have had this year! i guess it just depends on who is wanting to get their hug on. sometimes i feel it...sometimes i don't.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:40 pm

I'm constantly touching Bullet. I love feeling close to him. Anyone else? STAY OUTTA MY SPACE!!!!

I get enough goofballs trying to touch me when I'm working, they learn real quick not to try it again.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 2:43 pm

BabyRider wrote: I'm constantly touching Bullet. I love feeling close to him. Anyone else? STAY OUTTA MY SPACE!!!!

I get enough goofballs trying to touch me when I'm working, they learn real quick not to try it again.

in your space :p

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 3:24 pm

Depends on the nature of the relationship. Love giving and receiving hugs from my partner, close mates get a hand across the shoulders, but if I haven't seen them for a long while, they'll get a hug too (but no kisses). Close female friends and female family get a hug and a peck on the cheek (male family get a handshake or the same as a close mate if we're close). The rest will get a handshake on first meeting.

Punching and slapping workmates is a form of male affection.

Personally, I think that looking a person in the eye is the closest form of contact.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 3:50 pm

I touch people when I speak with them. I found out that when I do this they almost always respond in a positive way. The conversation becomes more interesting. I do this with men and women. Quickly on the shoulder with men and usually very briefly on the arm with women. Ill do this after a few minutes with someone Ive just met and the response is interesting if you keep your eyes open.

I look for signs of acceptance or alarm and almost without fail the eyes light up, I get a smile and I think more involvement in the interaction.

People seem to like it.

Try it.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 3:58 pm

One positive thing I learned from my ex was to be tactile. I'm like it at work without crossing any boundaries and it is accepted. I think it makes you more approachable at a time of crisis. I've had male colleagues crying on my shoulder when they've heard news of a death, and my boss gave me a big hug when we thought my daughter had cancer. Without sexual overtones, a human touch is what we all need.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 4:08 pm

I am very selectively affectionate. And I like being that way. All that kissy huggy nonsence annoys me.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 4:11 pm

If I shook Nomads hand, would it kiss me?

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 7:36 pm

flopstock wrote: Imagine when he puts his hand in his pocket...

Now your getting it ! :sneaky:

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 8:50 pm

It depends on the person and the situation. I'm pretty good at reading people so I know when to approach or not. I have worked all my life in the healthcare field in some form or fashion and touch is a big part of communication with people of any age but it has to be acceptable for both parties.

I agree with OM and NOMAD eye contact is the first and most direct form of communication and affection there is.. :-4 :-4

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 9:14 pm

Am I affectionate? Yes, but only when I want to be.

Wolverine · Post by **Wolverine** » Tue Feb 28, 2006 9:18 pm

Galbally wrote: Am I affectionate? Yes, but only when I want to be.
DUDE!!! where the heck you been????

Gillz · Post by **Gillz** » Wed Mar 01, 2006 5:47 am

I'm failry affectionate with loved ones, although friend wise I need my space.

Bridget · Post by **Bridget** » Wed Mar 01, 2006 10:08 am

I'm right in the middle of the road on this one. I was raised to be stand offish, married into a family that was all huggy. So I pick and choose who gets a hug and no kisses. My grandkids all get goodby hugs and kisses, the older ones are beginning to act like they could do without them. I have one son and daughter -in-law who always hug us when they leave. Love it. The other six just walk out with a bye. I have a close friend whom I see only occassionally. When we part we always hug big time. Here in the midwest there is a habit of hugging all family members,even if you do not know them,at a wake. I find this very difficult and usually just put out my hand for a handshake. Weddings, everyone hugs everyone, sometimes I am hugged by the bride who I have never seen before. I hug her because a handshake would seem out of place. :-2

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Mar 01, 2006 10:16 am

I feel that way with the upper-crust "air kiss", where the lady puts her cheek near yours and you both make smoochie sounds. :wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Wed Mar 01, 2006 10:29 am

weeder wrote: I am very selectively affectionate. And I like being that way. All that kissy huggy nonsence annoys me.

Why is it nonsence to express what you're feeling in a physical way??

Unless you're a virgin I'm sure you've expressed your feelings in a physical way at least a couple of times in your life!;)