there is an undercurrant of nastyness

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:05 am

:-6 Please guy's can we all take a deep breath :-6 ............we all have opinion's and different kind's of humour and no one is perfect and in an ideal world we would all love and respect each other and to steal a another person's phrase.. it's only the internet people , so surely it does'nt make us bad people if we laugh when someone fall's over or walk's into a lampost or post's a silly picture. Thing's have improved so much over the last couple of week's and it's a pleasure to have the opportunity to be able to come here and have fun . I just feel like we are still walking on eggshell's.... i know there is still a long way to go but like a work in progress let's look forward not back...:yh_bigsmi :yh_peace

No one is perfect and i'm no one

Post by **spot** » Wed May 03, 2006 7:11 am

Sorry Pants, I've been letting my verbosity run away with me again, I'll rein myself in. It'll be hard, but that's rarely difficult to get to grips with. Blame Snooze!

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:11 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Sorry Pants, I'll try to stop mocking Spot and Arnold. It'll be difficult though (notice how I didn't say "it'll be hard"? I'm nobody's fool.)

I was talking about you.. not to you... you ald boot :yh_hugs :yh_hugs

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:15 am

spot wrote: Sorry Pants, I've been letting my verbosity run away with me again, I'll rein myself in. It'll be hard, but that's rarely difficult to get to grips with. Blame Snooze!

Bloody big word's again can't you just insult me normally like most people do ..it's not the same when i have to rummage around looking for the dictionary.

:wah:

Post by **spot** » Wed May 03, 2006 7:16 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Sexual innuendo again, Spot?:rolleyes:That's very kind of you, young miss. I'll have a squeeze of milk with mine if I may, and two lumps.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:22 am

Clancy wrote: Snooze inspires wrongness. *I think I'll make that a sig*

.....I'm very, at home with that

I think snoozer and Spot would make lovely children ...maybe a bit odd but lovely all the same .:wah:

Post by **spot** » Wed May 03, 2006 7:25 am

pantsonfire321@aol.com wrote: I think snoozer and Spot would make lovely children ...maybe a bit odd but lovely all the same .:wah:Pants, if you're offering to adopt the two of us, I WANT THE TOP BUNK.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:27 am

spot wrote: Pants, if you're offering to adopt the two of us, I WANT THE TOP BUNK.

Mother say's no fighting or i'll bop your head's together

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:34 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I think you two should meet when Spot's in London!

But i'm not allowed out after dark .

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 7:57 am

Clancy wrote: Is anyone else immagining, pants, doing the deep breathing bit, like she said in the first post

if i breath in to deep me boob will fall out

Post by **spot** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:04 am

Spot cues the applause machine...

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 8:23 am

Clancy wrote:

WHAT ..I DID'NT DO NUFFINK...

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 8:35 am

Clancy wrote: ....I know, I know, I wos 'appliy finking of sumfink

*time for me to get me skates on now, and get the dinner on*

I do hope you were'nt being a PERVE .....................

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:37 am

pantsonfire321@aol.com wrote: :-6 Please guy's can we all take a deep breath :-6 ............we all have opinion's and different kind's of humour and no one is perfect and in an ideal world we would all love and respect each other and to steal a another person's phrase.. it's only the internet people , so surely it does'nt make us bad people if we laugh when someone fall's over or walk's into a lampost or post's a silly picture. Thing's have improved so much over the last couple of week's and it's a pleasure to have the opportunity to be able to come here and have fun . I just feel like we are still walking on eggshell's.... i know there is still a long way to go but like a work in progress let's look forward not back...:yh_bigsmi :yh_peace

oneone is perfect and i'm no one
So what the hell's happened now??? Sheesh, I go to bed for an entire 4 1/2 hours and there's controversy AGAIN??? WTF people????

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:43 am

BabyRider wrote: So what the hell's happened now??? Sheesh, I go to bed for an entire 4 1/2 hours and there's controversy AGAIN??? WTF people????

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Don't feel like The Lone Ranger!!

Everybody talkin' 'bout Pants and boobs and sexuals and who knows

WHAT!!

(Gonna start a store... Pants'n'Boobs'n'Stuff...)

:-6

Post by **spot** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:46 am

BabyRider wrote: So what the hell's happened now??? Sheesh, I go to bed for an entire 4 1/2 hours and there's controversy AGAIN??? WTF people????I was there, I saw. It wasn't BabyRider.

Partly it was me, of course. I was the undercurrent. I tried hard, I didn't point out anyone's spelling errors, but their logical inadequacies were just magnets, my very core shuddered, who can blame me after such inducement. I fell, I typed, I posted, civilization itself tottered before I drew back aghast at what I had wrought. Wrote. Written. Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:49 am

spot wrote: I was there, I saw. It wasn't BabyRider.

Partly it was me, of course. I was the undercurrent. I tried hard, I didn't point out anyone's spelling errors, but their logical inadequacies were just magnets, my very core shuddered, who can blame me after such inducement. I fell, I typed, I posted, civilization itself tottered before I drew back aghast at what I had wrought. Wrote. Written. Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.
Yeah, well, I'm starting to get the story and it seems people are running around trying to act like moderators, when there aren't any. You know what guys? If any wrist-slapping needs to be done around here, it should be admin that does it, not other members. We have no moderators and people should not assume to take that position.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 03, 2006 8:51 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Back to the topic...

I posted this in another thread, but I think its worth repeating:

If you don't like my posts, then don't read them. I'm getting a little tired of the Polite Police and the Nice Nazis following me around from thread to thread.

I agree that's why i started this thread there does seem to be a element of do as i say but not as i do.... there are thing's i don't bother to read because i know by the title it just would'nt be my cup of tea so to go in anyway have a read and just critisize someone would make me look foolish . I think on the whole thing's are much better it's just one or two comment's that could of maybe been worded differently . Let's not let past habit's stop us having debate's and serious topic's as long as personal attack's are left at the door ..let's all make the effort .

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 8:58 am

pantsonfire321@aol.com wrote: I agree that's why i started this thread there does seem to be a element of do as i say but not as i do.... there are thing's i don't bother to read because i know by the title it just would'nt be my cup of tea so to go in anyway have a read and just critisize someone would make me look foolish . I think on the whole thing's are much better it's just one or two comment's that could of maybe been worded differently . Let's not let past habit's stop us having debate's and serious topic's as long as personal attack's are left at the door ..let's all make the effort .
I think that's where we've been headed, Pants. Until someone comes along and has to be judgemental and assume a position they no longer hold. My dad always said, "If you can't find something nice to say, keep your damn mouth shut."

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Wed May 03, 2006 9:26 am

I think there are ways of saying something and then there are other ways...

I've tried to do a search but I couldn't find it... if I eventually do I'll

post a link... but Tombstone posted something I didn't see the humour

in and I posted as such. He, being the man he is, offered to remove

it and I said thank you but no. Many other posters enjoyed it.

Now I have known Tombstone for many years, and I had no qualms

at all about voicing my opinions. They were different from most if not

all others here.

That doesn't mean my disagreement was done in a nasty way. It

wasn't. And it was very definitely not regarded as such.

I don't think we need Polite Police, but maybe just a little thought

put into some posts, even while disagreeing.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed May 03, 2006 11:35 am

quote valerie

I don't think we need Polite Police, but maybe just a little thought

put into some posts, even while disagreeing.

well said valerie, anything else can be taken to p.m's

nastyness to me is when people make innuendo's & cannot talk directly to the person, im sure all members here are approachable, at least i have always found them to be so whenever the occasion has come up where strong feelings one way or another are to be addressed

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Wed May 03, 2006 11:41 am

FOUND IT!! (Damn, I'm good!!)

:-6http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4166

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Wed May 03, 2006 11:41 am

SnoozeControl wrote: If you don't like my posts, then don't read them. I'm getting a little tired of the Polite Police and the Nice Nazis following me around from thread to thread.

Then again, this thread is about the "tone" of the board. That tone is contributed to by everyone. Respect would dictate that it's a bad idea to be crass just to be crass, gross just to be gross, and sleazy just to be sleazy. Everything everyone does here effects the overall tone of the boards.

Perhaps the "polite police" (your fellow posters) and the "Nice Nazis" (Again, those are your fellow members you are denigrating) are trying to deliver a message to you that you are affecting the tone of the boards.

I suggest that the answer to the undercurrent of tension here is nothing more complex than respect and civility. Perhaps we should all consider oursleves in "polite company" with the courtesy and respect that go with that.

Just a theory.

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Wed May 03, 2006 11:46 am

buttercup wrote: I don't think we need Polite Police, but maybe just a little thought

put into some posts, even while disagreeing.

I couldn't agree more!:)

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:11 pm

Jives wrote: Perhaps the "polite police" (your fellow posters) and the "Nice Nazis" (Again, those are your fellow members you are denigrating) are trying to deliver a message to you that you are affecting the tone of the boards.

But can you also agree that while members post things that some find offensive, or rude or in poor taste can be funny and appreciated by other members?

You can't please all the people all the time.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:20 pm

BabyRider wrote: But can you also agree that while members post things that some find offensive, or rude or in poor taste can be funny and appreciated by other members?

You can't please all the people all the time.

thats very true br but all members should be entitled to post how they feel on the subject, afterall it is a forum

as val said - a little thought into posts

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:22 pm

BabyRider wrote: But can you also agree that while members post things that some find offensive, or rude or in poor taste can be funny and appreciated by other members?

You can't please all the people all the time.

True enough! But I think that we are all pretty close to the same page on what is offensive. For example a racist remark is usually offensive across the board to everyone here, as is "cyber-sex" (two posters talking explicitly about having sex in detail):-2

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:24 pm

I'll give an example: One poster here posted a cartoon that had the "C" (profanity for female genitals) word in it. I'm betting that not very many people found that agreeable.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:24 pm

buttercup wrote: thats very true br but all members should be entitled to post how they feel on the subject, afterall it is a forum

as val said - a little thought into posts

Sure they should. As I have learned lately it's not what you say, but HOW you say it. :-6

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:25 pm

BabyRider wrote: But can you also agree that while members post things that some find offensive, or rude or in poor taste can be funny and appreciated by other members?

You can't please all the people all the time.

Exactly. And I have to add I think its personal. Snooze puts up something she thinks is funny. She gets berated by certain someone who doesnt think laughing at the overweight is funny. I didnt see certain someone get on BR for makeing a joke about the Arabs and air landing or Sheryl for posting a picture of a "nerdy" person for everyone to laugh at. Does certain someone just pick and chose who he/she defends? Absolutley not. She jumps on Snooze and that is it. That is what makes me think its personal. Let them work it out, yes I will, but I thought a spade should be called a freaking spade.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:28 pm

who's certain someone & if certain someone irritates you so much why would you carry on the undercurrent of nastyness on the board by posting this rather than p.m certain someone directly?

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:30 pm

You cant please all of the people all of the time.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:30 pm

Well, when someone zeroed in on me, I just started reporting the nasty, stalking posts and eventually admin took action after giving this person a couple chances to correct their behavior. If you're getting harassed, let admin handle it.

DesignerGal · Post by **DesignerGal** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:31 pm

buttercup wrote: who's certain someone & if certain someone irritates you so much why would you carry on the undercurrent of nastyness on the board by posting this rather than p.m certain someone directly?

Fine. I will PM you later.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:36 pm

Am i the only person on this board that's confused as to what's going on?

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:37 pm

DesignerGal wrote: Fine. I will PM you later.

now that wasent so hard was it, im more than happy to discuss it with you dg

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Wed May 03, 2006 12:41 pm

abbey wrote: Am i the only person on this board that's confused as to what's going on?
Nope. I'm as confused as you are!:-2