Ive been a zombie for awhile. Yesterday at work I couldnt think or function, people would talk to me and they sounded like flies buzzing around my head.
The move is getting me stressed out. Work is increasing expectations and Im whipped. My knees and back are fighting against me.
The one person in my family Im close to wont talk to me, my sis thinks I abandoned her because Ive been concerned about the pain killers shes been taking for 3 yrs. Im sick to my stomach all the time because Im worried about her marriage and family. If I get involved he gets upset, if I dont she thinks Im abandoning her. She wont take my calls or answer e mail anymore.
And I dont really feel like a part of FG anymore, I just dont feel connected.
I wont have a breakdown though, Ill just get each thing sorted out one by one the best way I know how.
I was thinking about having a good old fashioned break down
I was thinking about having a good old fashioned break down
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I was thinking about having a good old fashioned break down
Nomad wrote: Ive been a zombie for awhile. Yesterday at work I couldnt think or function, people would talk to me and they sounded like flies buzzing around my head.
The move is getting me stressed out. Work is increasing expectations and Im whipped. My knees and back are fighting against me.
The one person in my family Im close to wont talk to me, my sis thinks I abandoned her because Ive been concerned about the pain killers shes been taking for 3 yrs. Im sick to my stomach all the time because Im worried about her marriage and family. If I get involved he gets upset, if I dont she thinks Im abandoning her. She wont take my calls or answer e mail anymore.
And I dont really feel like a part of FG anymore, I just dont feel connected.
I wont have a breakdown though, Ill just get each thing sorted out one by one the best way I know how.
Oh Nomad of course you are part of FG we have all adopted your keen sense of humor and feel together we all can conquer the world Don't give up trying buddy we know it's just a rough patch ... go on lean on any of us here, well not me cause I am on vacation, actually could you hold off on that breakdown till I get back so I have more time to offer councelling.
The move is getting me stressed out. Work is increasing expectations and Im whipped. My knees and back are fighting against me.
The one person in my family Im close to wont talk to me, my sis thinks I abandoned her because Ive been concerned about the pain killers shes been taking for 3 yrs. Im sick to my stomach all the time because Im worried about her marriage and family. If I get involved he gets upset, if I dont she thinks Im abandoning her. She wont take my calls or answer e mail anymore.
And I dont really feel like a part of FG anymore, I just dont feel connected.
I wont have a breakdown though, Ill just get each thing sorted out one by one the best way I know how.
Oh Nomad of course you are part of FG we have all adopted your keen sense of humor and feel together we all can conquer the world Don't give up trying buddy we know it's just a rough patch ... go on lean on any of us here, well not me cause I am on vacation, actually could you hold off on that breakdown till I get back so I have more time to offer councelling.
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:yh_hugs :-4 Things will settle. Give it time.
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minks wrote: Oh Nomad of course you are part of FG we have all adopted your keen sense of humor and feel together we all can conquer the world Don't give up trying buddy we know it's just a rough patch ... go on lean on any of us here, well not me cause I am on vacation, actually could you hold off on that breakdown till I get back so I have more time to offer councelling.
Ok thats it Im jumping ! Lean on someone just not me, Im busy having fun. :rolleyes: :wah:
Ok thats it Im jumping ! Lean on someone just not me, Im busy having fun. :rolleyes: :wah:
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Nomad wrote: Ok thats it Im jumping ! Lean on someone just not me, Im busy having fun. :rolleyes: :wah:Have you tried walking, hours of it until your thoughts clear and your surroundings disappear and you suddenly get a perspective on how to move everything along? The only way I can deal with zombie moments like that is to walk away until I refocus.
Thinking that you're disconnected from FG is all part of the same deal, I think. From out here looking in, you're still part of the core and it wouldn't normally occur to me that you might not recognise that.
Thinking that you're disconnected from FG is all part of the same deal, I think. From out here looking in, you're still part of the core and it wouldn't normally occur to me that you might not recognise that.
Nullius in verba ... ☎||||||||||| ... To Fate I sue, of other means bereft, the only refuge for the wretched left.
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Who has a spare two minutes to play in this month's FG Trivia game! ... My other OS is Slackware.
When flower power came along I stood for Human Rights, marched around for peace and freedom, had some nooky every night - we took it serious.
Who has a spare two minutes to play in this month's FG Trivia game! ... My other OS is Slackware.
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Hi Nomad
I’m new to the garden and don’t really know people here yet but I am always saddened when I hear of others suffering. I’m sorry you are feeling this way and I really do hope that it is only a short term interruption and that normal service will be resumed again shortly.
When I read your analogy of people talking to you as being like the sound of flies buzzing around your head I could immediately relate to that and could sense somewhat how you must be affected. There have been times in my life too when I have felt zoned out to everything going on around me and felt a bit like I was drugged and sometimes couldn’t care less and at times panic stricken. It does get better though as things start to improve.
You obviously have a lot going on in your life right now and it sounds like you could do with a bit of time out. This is not always possible though so I wondered if you would perhaps be able to find at least 10 minutes or more a day to yourself to relax and unwind, perhaps to do some relaxation exercises. You could pop some relaxation techniques onto an iPod etc. that you could listen to privately or some relaxation music to help soothe you.
Is there any chance of you taking some time off work, even just for a day so that you can pamper yourself? Being both physically and mentally exhausted has taken its toll on you and it really does sound like you need some time to recharge your batteries.
Could you write to your sister? Sometimes having an actual letter in your hand means it is not as easy to ignore as perhaps an e-mail or phone call, and explain to her how fatigued you are with everything going on in your life at the moment. She is your sister and she loves you and will care about how you are feeling inside. Maybe you could arrange to meet with her and talk openly, just the two of you, and get things off your chest. Perhaps you could suggest that she got in touch every so often just to reassure you that she is ok. She understands the depths of how much you care for her and you could arrange a time, maybe once a month say, that you only talk about troubling subjects like her taking the painkillers etc. and promise each other that all other contact in between those times will just be general. That way it could take the pressure off your conversations and give you both a chance to relax a little more hopefully.
I do not know your personal situation so I apologise in advance if I am way off line here.
When our minds and bodies are temporarily burnt out it is very easy to loose our sense of belonging. Your own personal circumstances too are adding to that mix taking your feeling of being in control and ‘in the moment’ away from you and this can often leave us feeling quite lost and empty. This feeling of detachment is only temporary and I really do hope that in this current frame of mind you do not make any life changing decisions that you could possibly regret once you are refreshed and feeling back in control and on top of things again.
I do hope things work out well for you in the end.
You sound like a very caring person and you deserve some caring back.
I’m new to the garden and don’t really know people here yet but I am always saddened when I hear of others suffering. I’m sorry you are feeling this way and I really do hope that it is only a short term interruption and that normal service will be resumed again shortly.
When I read your analogy of people talking to you as being like the sound of flies buzzing around your head I could immediately relate to that and could sense somewhat how you must be affected. There have been times in my life too when I have felt zoned out to everything going on around me and felt a bit like I was drugged and sometimes couldn’t care less and at times panic stricken. It does get better though as things start to improve.
You obviously have a lot going on in your life right now and it sounds like you could do with a bit of time out. This is not always possible though so I wondered if you would perhaps be able to find at least 10 minutes or more a day to yourself to relax and unwind, perhaps to do some relaxation exercises. You could pop some relaxation techniques onto an iPod etc. that you could listen to privately or some relaxation music to help soothe you.
Is there any chance of you taking some time off work, even just for a day so that you can pamper yourself? Being both physically and mentally exhausted has taken its toll on you and it really does sound like you need some time to recharge your batteries.
Could you write to your sister? Sometimes having an actual letter in your hand means it is not as easy to ignore as perhaps an e-mail or phone call, and explain to her how fatigued you are with everything going on in your life at the moment. She is your sister and she loves you and will care about how you are feeling inside. Maybe you could arrange to meet with her and talk openly, just the two of you, and get things off your chest. Perhaps you could suggest that she got in touch every so often just to reassure you that she is ok. She understands the depths of how much you care for her and you could arrange a time, maybe once a month say, that you only talk about troubling subjects like her taking the painkillers etc. and promise each other that all other contact in between those times will just be general. That way it could take the pressure off your conversations and give you both a chance to relax a little more hopefully.
I do not know your personal situation so I apologise in advance if I am way off line here.
When our minds and bodies are temporarily burnt out it is very easy to loose our sense of belonging. Your own personal circumstances too are adding to that mix taking your feeling of being in control and ‘in the moment’ away from you and this can often leave us feeling quite lost and empty. This feeling of detachment is only temporary and I really do hope that in this current frame of mind you do not make any life changing decisions that you could possibly regret once you are refreshed and feeling back in control and on top of things again.
I do hope things work out well for you in the end.
You sound like a very caring person and you deserve some caring back.
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I feel guilty for using up so much of your energy bubble but your right, your perspective is dead on. Thank you for your insight. Soon I will be tormenting and terrorizing the members here. They need it and its my lot in life. 
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Nomad wrote: Ive been a zombie for awhile. Yesterday at work I couldnt think or function, people would talk to me and they sounded like flies buzzing around my head.
The move is getting me stressed out. Work is increasing expectations and Im whipped. My knees and back are fighting against me.
The one person in my family Im close to wont talk to me, my sis thinks I abandoned her because Ive been concerned about the pain killers shes been taking for 3 yrs. Im sick to my stomach all the time because Im worried about her marriage and family. If I get involved he gets upset, if I dont she thinks Im abandoning her. She wont take my calls or answer e mail anymore.
And I dont really feel like a part of FG anymore, I just dont feel connected.
I wont have a breakdown though, Ill just get each thing sorted out one by one the best way I know how.
I know how you feel Nomad. Sometimes, the stress seems endless. Just remember, it does end eventually. As for your sister's marriage, it is HER marriage, she CHOOSES to stay in it. While you would love to see it change, chances are it won't. Don't let it make you physically ill. Accept the fact that she chooses to stay and just be there for her when she needs you.
You are a major player in the game we call the FG. You are loved and respected. I do know the feeling of not feeling connected though. This too will pass.
I'm here if you need an ear, need to vent, or need a shoulder to cry on.
The move is getting me stressed out. Work is increasing expectations and Im whipped. My knees and back are fighting against me.
The one person in my family Im close to wont talk to me, my sis thinks I abandoned her because Ive been concerned about the pain killers shes been taking for 3 yrs. Im sick to my stomach all the time because Im worried about her marriage and family. If I get involved he gets upset, if I dont she thinks Im abandoning her. She wont take my calls or answer e mail anymore.
And I dont really feel like a part of FG anymore, I just dont feel connected.
I wont have a breakdown though, Ill just get each thing sorted out one by one the best way I know how.
I know how you feel Nomad. Sometimes, the stress seems endless. Just remember, it does end eventually. As for your sister's marriage, it is HER marriage, she CHOOSES to stay in it. While you would love to see it change, chances are it won't. Don't let it make you physically ill. Accept the fact that she chooses to stay and just be there for her when she needs you.
You are a major player in the game we call the FG. You are loved and respected. I do know the feeling of not feeling connected though. This too will pass.
I'm here if you need an ear, need to vent, or need a shoulder to cry on.
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My respects, Bubblegum. I don't think I've ever seen anyone do something quite that well before on a sixth post.
What on earth is a relaxation technique on an iPod?
What on earth is a relaxation technique on an iPod?
Nullius in verba ... ☎||||||||||| ... To Fate I sue, of other means bereft, the only refuge for the wretched left.
When flower power came along I stood for Human Rights, marched around for peace and freedom, had some nooky every night - we took it serious.
Who has a spare two minutes to play in this month's FG Trivia game! ... My other OS is Slackware.
When flower power came along I stood for Human Rights, marched around for peace and freedom, had some nooky every night - we took it serious.
Who has a spare two minutes to play in this month's FG Trivia game! ... My other OS is Slackware.
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spot wrote: My respects, Bubblegum. I don't think I've ever seen anyone do something quite that well before on a sixth post.
What on earth is a relaxation technique on an iPod?
Hi Spot....are you worn out yet ??
You can buy relaxation CDs or just 'mellowing out' music and download to your IPod. It's really good because you can listen ANY time rather than having to be near a CD player or computer. Sometimes just 10 minutes is enough to take the tension away, 30 minutes is total relaxation and 1 hour.....zzzz fast asleep
Bubblegum...that was an excellent post as spot has said. You've got an excellent insight into 'people'. Look forward to more of your posts
What on earth is a relaxation technique on an iPod?
Hi Spot....are you worn out yet ??
You can buy relaxation CDs or just 'mellowing out' music and download to your IPod. It's really good because you can listen ANY time rather than having to be near a CD player or computer. Sometimes just 10 minutes is enough to take the tension away, 30 minutes is total relaxation and 1 hour.....zzzz fast asleep
Bubblegum...that was an excellent post as spot has said. You've got an excellent insight into 'people'. Look forward to more of your posts
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Nomad, Im here on Theias computer... I thought I would share with you... I just cried my eyes out with Jackie on her couch. The trip HAS been great fun. But there is stress associated with every single thing we do in life. And for people who feel things deeply... who excercise insight daily... there seems to be tremendous emotion bubbling under the surface of our very being, most of the time. Yesterday, travelling in the car down to Cornwall... I was very tired, my whole body was hurting from running around for 2 days like a teenager. and it hit me. Here I was thousands of miles away from home... on my own. The cars are different... liscence plates different... highway signs different...I made an emotional connection with people who I may never see again... Ive been anxious about what they think of me....And I had a Stephen King moment. It was sickening and frightening. I thought Im not in England at all. Im really dead and this is all a dream. Think about it.. London, the rain.. 15 new faces, Big Elephants, An unexpected evening in the hotel lounge (you dont know this story) with 6 more wonderful strangers.... one being a good looking Jamaican Englishman , two high powered business men from Spain, drinking tequilla, an elderly couple... madly in love celebrating their 50th wedding anniversery and the bartender leaving for the US the following day to meet someone he'd met online.... And, I was offered a position as an au pair,,,,
What was in the water man!!!!!! And when did it all start????? Skype?? Skype???? Do you have any idea how weird that is to me????? I am not a technological brain.
Any way... yeah at any given moment.. ask me if I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown.... and I will very matter of factly tell you, why yes I am. So hang on buddy those of us who live life.... rather than just observe life will always suffer tremendous stress, whether its buying a new home... or taking a trip.. or letting our hearts connect with a loved one.. or investing a piece of yourself with the people here, as you have. Ill be home in 5 days. I want you there waiting for me!! I am going to meet you someday also. I certainly wouldnt let you get off the hook from meeting a wacko like me either. Youve got to see it to believe it:
love Weeder
What was in the water man!!!!!! And when did it all start????? Skype?? Skype???? Do you have any idea how weird that is to me????? I am not a technological brain.
Any way... yeah at any given moment.. ask me if I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown.... and I will very matter of factly tell you, why yes I am. So hang on buddy those of us who live life.... rather than just observe life will always suffer tremendous stress, whether its buying a new home... or taking a trip.. or letting our hearts connect with a loved one.. or investing a piece of yourself with the people here, as you have. Ill be home in 5 days. I want you there waiting for me!! I am going to meet you someday also. I certainly wouldnt let you get off the hook from meeting a wacko like me either. Youve got to see it to believe it:
love Weeder
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Hey Nomad, you are still THE MAN !
Top sausage:yh_hugs
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I am sending you my love NOMAD!! I hope you can feel it...:-6 Hang in there---breathe deep, and just relax. I know - easier said then done...but if you concentrate on one day at a time...by the weeks end-- you will be back to your normal CRAZY-MAN self.......and lean on us...Thats what we are here for!!!:-4 Love ya Nomad!
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Nomad, you are going through a period of change. You are becoming a home owner-a time of stress in itself. FG is going through a time of change, it effects us all. And you miss the darling ones who are together over there.
Stress is endles at times, just hang on there Nomad. What can I say for advice? I live through stress everyday, and am here the next. If I can do it, you can too.
(sorry, I am a hard head about it, you know what I go through. I wake up each day and run to my husband's bed, to see if he still lives. Then I go off to work my 3 jobs, to keep him as comfortable and well taken care of as possible)
Hold your Laser close to you, take her out tonight, and be happy for what you have ahead of you in this beautiful life. If that doesn't lessen the stress, I don't know what else to tell you. You are a lucky man, count your blessings. The rest of the strange feelings will slowly go away, and you will be the happy dancing guy we know and love.
Stress is endles at times, just hang on there Nomad. What can I say for advice? I live through stress everyday, and am here the next. If I can do it, you can too.
(sorry, I am a hard head about it, you know what I go through. I wake up each day and run to my husband's bed, to see if he still lives. Then I go off to work my 3 jobs, to keep him as comfortable and well taken care of as possible)
Hold your Laser close to you, take her out tonight, and be happy for what you have ahead of you in this beautiful life. If that doesn't lessen the stress, I don't know what else to tell you. You are a lucky man, count your blessings. The rest of the strange feelings will slowly go away, and you will be the happy dancing guy we know and love.
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Nomad, take a break from everything. Why don't you and Laser go and do something this weekend, just the 2 of you. Go hiking, fishing something that ya'll enjoy. No talking bout the house, family problems, or work; just both of you having fun and relaxing.
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I think it has all been said, Nomad. We're all here for you and we love you :-4
Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answers...Rainer Maria Rilke
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I really can't add anything but I'm sure my husband won't mind if I give
you lots of these:
(And Bubble, the American Judge gives you a: )
you lots of these:
(And Bubble, the American Judge gives you a: )
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:yh_hugs (((Nomad))):yh_hugs
Maybe we need a group hug too! It's been a while!
(((HUGS))) to all of you!!!! :yh_hugs
Maybe we need a group hug too! It's been a while!
(((HUGS))) to all of you!!!! :yh_hugs
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We all love ya Nomad :-4
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I think if life was perfect all of the time we would never really get the chance to appreciate the experience's that mould us and make us what we are and if you want to have a dam good nervous breakdown you bloody well do it ......some time's you have to do whatever it take's to get you though the day .
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yep, this bitch bites back .
Smile people :yh_bigsmi
yep, this bitch bites back .
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and just what would we do without the mad scientist around here...
get bored thats what, who else can make us laugh, cry. groan and smile in a single post..
we all would miss you very much nomad..and dont worry about the move, it will all turn out ok and then you get to start making some brilliant new memories in YOUR new home:p
get bored thats what, who else can make us laugh, cry. groan and smile in a single post..
we all would miss you very much nomad..and dont worry about the move, it will all turn out ok and then you get to start making some brilliant new memories in YOUR new home:p
take a bite out of life it's there to be tasted!!
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Care about you Gonad you big lug
I was thinking about having a good old fashioned break down
Ok Nomad, you got some excellent advise in the all the other previous posts from your FG family. Do what they say, take some time for yourself & your wife, and do something special that you always wanted to do! And do hang in there Nomie, as the saying goes: And this too shall pass. And it will, it just does.
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Wow...you should be feeling a million % better after reading these replies...how can you NOT feel 'connected' with all these warm thoughts and wishes flying your way.....take one day at a time and vent here when the going gets tough...:yh_hugs
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Thanks guys, each of you are like, I dont even have the right words. Your all way way cool.
I would have loved to have been in London to meet the ones who could make it. All of you guys are just unbelievable. Thank you.
Im ok, just need to take on what I can handle and let the rest be. Besides being a mad scientist if I had a breakdown there would be green goo everywhere and stuff exploding, I dont want to "soil" FG so your all safe.
I would have loved to have been in London to meet the ones who could make it. All of you guys are just unbelievable. Thank you.
Im ok, just need to take on what I can handle and let the rest be. Besides being a mad scientist if I had a breakdown there would be green goo everywhere and stuff exploding, I dont want to "soil" FG so your all safe.
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Nomad wrote: Thanks guys, each of you are like, I dont even have the right words. Your all way way cool.
I would have loved to have been in London to meet the ones who could make it. All of you guys are just unbelievable. And not the ones that could'nt?
I would have loved to have been in London to meet the ones who could make it. All of you guys are just unbelievable. And not the ones that could'nt?