So I gave the ex a call...

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sat May 20, 2006 9:45 pm

It is amazing what time will do. I wish I could say the same for an ex of mine. Good you can still chat.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sun May 21, 2006 12:12 am

flopstock wrote: Nicest guy in the world, BTW..:-6 so this is not a rant..:p

Talked with his lady first to make sure she wouldn't mind ..then asked him for some honest reflections on how I behave in relationships..this 'shut down' thing, I seem to do..

He's gonna ponder it overnight and we'll talk tomorrow..

Who woulda thought that 10 years later I would value anything he had to say, eh?:D
I have an ex from about 12 years ago. Just an ex-boyfriend, (as opposed to ex-husband), that I am dear friends with. He will be at the reception, Flops!! You'll get to meet him!

We went out for a few months, and then figured out that we were much better friends than we were a couple. And we have been ever since. He's seen me at my worst and my best and everything in between. I even dare say that he knows me better than Bullet. (Geeze, here's one time I'm really glad he is banned from here. :yh_blush )

I think it's great when exes can stay friendly, although that's not usually the case, is it?

Oh, one of the best things about my ex? He beat up the psycho once when psycho came after me. It was really fun to see that!!

I'm babbling. I'm slap-happy after work.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun May 21, 2006 4:32 am

flopstock wrote: Nicest guy in the world, BTW..:-6 so this is not a rant..:p

Talked with his lady first to make sure she wouldn't mind ..then asked him for some honest reflections on how I behave in relationships..this 'shut down' thing, I seem to do..

He's gonna ponder it overnight and we'll talk tomorrow..

Who woulda thought that 10 years later I would value anything he had to say, eh?:DYou kind of toss this out like it's nothing much - your actions, I mean - but I am really impressed. :yh_clap

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun May 21, 2006 6:44 am

What you did was a huge thing. For yourself that is. Self reflection isnt easy. Some people never grow. I think very highly of you for doing this. We all have sides of ourselves that need tweaking or maybe even a complete makeover, but its never too late and its good for everyone ! Rock on foops ! Nice !!!

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Sun May 21, 2006 7:59 am

Wow your a very strong person to ask this of your ex. I hope the answers he gives you help ya out with whatever you've been thinking.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun May 21, 2006 10:54 am

Flop your amazing self reflection as Nomad said is very hard to do. Bravo lady I hope what you hear is a mix of good and bad and helps you grow from it. Criticism no matter how gently put is hard to take and hard to work from. I know you will do just fine..