thanks every one

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 11:42 am

thanks for your kind words I'm really not that good on the PC I'm better in real life where if people don't get my humour i can laugh enough for both of us . my partner was a bit worried about me joining this forum talking to fellow grieving parents especially at this time of year 9/11 and the anniversary of my daughters death is not far away but just talking to you guys has helped me a lot , though i must admit I've shed a lot of tears reading some of your stories the problem is I'm 6'1 and weigh in at 245 pounds and big guys are not allowed to cry but i do and behind the safety of my PC i can bear my sole and only nice king human beings can see it thanks guys

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 11:47 am

jimbo wrote:

thanks for your kind words I'm really not that good on the PC I'm better in real life where if people don't get my humour i can laugh enough for both of us . my partner was a bit worried about me joining this forum talking to fellow grieving parents especially at this time of year 9/11 and the anniversary of my daughters death is not far away but just talking to you guys has helped me a lot , though i must admit I've shed a lot of tears reading some of your stories the problem is I'm 6'1 and weigh in at 245 pounds and big guys are not allowed to cry but i do and behind the safety of my PC i can bear my sole and only nice king human beings can see it thanks guys

Everyone is "allowed" to cry.

Welcome to FG. Post away and don't be afraid of what others may think. It's a step towards healing.

Cheers

Minks

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:12 pm

you know i've always been my own man i've never followed the crowd , i'm ceartanly not afraid to cry . the only thing i'm scared of is dancing yup dancing i'm like balloo the bear and my partner used to run her own dance school but i really make her look good ha ha

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:28 pm

jimbo wrote: you know i've always been my own man i've never followed the crowd , i'm ceartanly not afraid to cry . the only thing i'm scared of is dancing yup dancing i'm like balloo the bear and my partner used to run her own dance school but i really make her look good ha ha

:yh_rotfl

A 6'1" Baloo. I can just see it in my mind's eye.

You're gonna do fine here Jimbo.:-6

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:38 pm

minks wrote: Everyone is "allowed" to cry.

Welcome to FG. Post away and don't be afraid of what others may think. It's a step towards healing.

Cheers

Minks

What Minksie said. :-4

FG members are friends and as the hymn says:

Your creed and your colour and your name won’t matter

Because we're always here for each other.

When I needed a neighbour

When I needed a neighbour, were you there, were you there,

When I needed a neighbour, were you there?

And the creed and the colour and the name won’t matter,

Were you there?

I was hungry and thirsty, were you there, were you there....

I was cold, I was naked, were you there, were you there....

When I needed a shelter, were you there, were you there....

Wherever you travel, I’ll be there, I’ll be there,

Wherever you travel, I’ll be there,

And the creed and the colour and the name won’t matter,

I’ll be there.

I’ll be there.

© Stainer & Bell Ltd

http://www.billysloan.co.uk/songs/when_ ... there.html

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:20 pm

Jimbo

May I say that it's a pleasure having you in our Garden :-6

Many ideas and friendships grow here

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:27 pm

welcome jimbo! :-6

hope you love it here as much as we do, we really are like a family here. :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:56 pm

I've never really been on a forum before so i don't really know how to post properly , i joined really just to talk to other parents who had lost their children and to try to offer some hope and to tell people that are suffering really badly as i once did that there is light at the end of the tunnel . pain grief guilt and sorrow are mighty foes and i believe that you and only you can fight them with help from a few good friends a great sense of humour honesty a big heart and a sense of self worth are your weapons to fight back with but fight back you must for i know happiness will not come to you it has to be met at least half way . well what do you think guys how would you guys tell people to find thier lives again i'd hate for people to waste years of their lives like i did

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:02 pm

PS going back to the baloo the bear thing i stated going bald at 15 yup 15 it used to really bother me when i was young now though if i could grow hair i would not honest my head is shaved most of the time and I'm just naturally pretty big I'm a cross between vin diesel and shrek ... but shrek probably has nicer ears any way as i got older at least i never had to worry about losing my looks ha ha

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:18 pm

Jimbo

Your doing great, it sounds like you have found peace / calm Jimbo.

I've been a member here for quite some time, but never posted until recently.

I needed to find that calm, that peace.

My sister lost her son at the age of 27, in May '05. We now appreciate the time we had with him. We can now laugh with volume.

Thank you for sharing, and welcome

Patsy

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:30 pm

i think that is it really trying to let go of the pain , then being thankfull for the time you did have with your loved ones that are no longer with you , the next thing after that is just trying to be happy for if there is an after life and they are looking down i'm sure they would hate to think their deaths had ruined your life' just my thoughts i want my daughter ,mum, 2 brothers , cousin ,my uncle fred and my grand parents to look down and see that i am a strong proud good man doin the best i can for me and everyone else ' i'm living life to the full and i'm happy i'd want them to look down and feel proud ... good night all ...jimbo

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:54 pm

That is so very true

Letting go of that pain is a individual process, and a timely one, it's a hurdle and your right.

I stated appreciating the time with that loved one, to calm my sister and myself as well I suppose. We will always have some bad days - but , it took some time to feel ok to live and have a good hard laugh.

1988 my husband went to work at the age of 30 and died of a heart attack.

I have several loved ones looking down on me also.

We now enjoy eachother, life, and laugh alot.

Thank You

Patsy