Why do we do this to ourselves??

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 1:23 pm

We do it.. ( I do it) because it is great tranquilizer... a great social tool.. a great uninhibitor. It is also a quiet monster. Its effects are insidious. It can be dangerous. Alcoholism runs in my family. I married an alcoholic. The cruelest curse is that one of my sons has inherited the disease of substance abuse.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 4:04 pm

Hamster wrote: Weeder..is alcoholism gentically inherited?

Hi Hammi,

I think that they do say it can run in familys, but i've seen friends that have kicked one bad habit and moved on to another, i think some people just have more addictive personalities, for some it's drugs, other's it's gambling and for some it's SEX. What a bummer eh

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sun Oct 08, 2006 4:34 pm

SuzyB wrote: Hi Hammi,

I think that they do say it can run in familys, but i've seen friends that have kicked one bad habit and moved on to another, i think some people just have more addictive personalities, for some it's drugs, other's it's gambling and for some it's SEX. What a bummer eh

i resent the implication

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 6:49 am

Hamster wrote: I am proud of you :-6

Me too Pinkster

Best of luck, my friend :-6

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 7:30 am

Bit late on in the thread, but I thought I would give my take on the subject:)

I do enjoy a drink, sometimes to excess. but I don't do it every day (can't afford to). I used to go out drinking with my dad most nights, used to sit in the pubs, with the same group of people, just chatting about life and things. It just became a habit, an addiction.

Then I met my wife, Archie came along and I stopped drinking so much. Lifes priorities changed. If I can't afford a drink, I don't drink. simple as that.

I use alcohol as a means to relaxing, especially after a week of being completely wound up at work. It just helps me wind down.

I am aware of the fact that children do pick up on their parents life styles, so if I am drinking at home, I avoid drinking when Archie is around, and wait untill he has gone to bed.

Would I give up drinking? If it was Affecting Archie or Carrie then absolutely, yes. Definately. I would never let my drinking hurt my family.

Just my take on the subject:)

Ocnbrz · Post by **Ocnbrz** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 7:49 am

For myself I see no problem having a drink or two in the evenings. For me it is wine. Having grown up on a farm and growing grapes for wine it was a natural thing. Many nights I don't indulge at all then there are the occasional celebrations with friends throughout the year that can leave me half snockered.

I went through that "get falling down drunk" stage in my younger years hanging out with my friends on Friday night. But life changes and so do we hopefully. I can't remember the last time I got drunk. It's when we lose control of ourselves and can't stop night after night that it becomes a problem. Having a drink or two with dinner isn't a problem, at least for me.

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 7:58 am

Hamster wrote: What a great person you are and a great father!:-4

thank you!

)

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 8:24 am

Hamster wrote: What a great person you are and a great father!:-4

That's our Wopster for you :-4

Ocnbrz · Post by **Ocnbrz** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 8:29 am

Hamster wrote: That's the social side I was referring to earlier...if you grow around alcohol like that it seems to be easier to partake in moderation...

It was for me Hammy. I guess the main thing is just take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. Easier said than done I know.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 2:56 pm

Hamster wrote: Weeder..is alcoholism gentically inherited?
Absolutely... My dear Hamster.

Ocnbrz · Post by **Ocnbrz** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 7:31 am

Hamster wrote: Isn't that the whole thing with alcohol though? It makes you not think about the consequences of your actions??

Yes it does. It is a great relaxer for many people, myself included. For each generation life seems to become more complicated, faster paced, trying to escape those pressures is natural. It's easy to lose control and indulge too much sometimes. Knowing when to stop is easy for some and hard for others. Wish I could say I have always known when to stop.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:15 am

Hamster wrote: Yes there is a tendency to "self medicate" (I think the term is) with alcohol isn't there?

or food, drugs, or anything else that helps you 'zone' out for awhile :guitarist

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:17 am

Hamster wrote: And in some cases..all of the above....:-3

So why do we *want* to escape from our lives?

Are they *that* terrible? :-3

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:21 am

Hamster wrote: Thats a whole new thread Cher..but for me I would have to say its the routine that drives me batty.....Up dressed, school run, work, school run, tea , bath , bed for kids, work, bed....and then all over again...

I love to be spontaneous and you can't always do that with small kids around...

I agree.

I think it *helps* us to stay within the routine that our lives are.

Letting loose helps you to keep control at other times in your life

It's a balance of some sort, isn't it? :-6

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:32 am

Hamster wrote: Balance is the key in my opinion...I love to do spontaneous things with the kids at the weekend...But then the whole culture of "living for the weekend" just gets me down during the week..And you dont get the most from your week when you are thinking of the weekend all the time...

That's true, too, Hammie :-6

It's hard to love what you do seven days a week.

But as long as we don't *hate* it, I figure we're ahead of the game :guitarist

It's that 'expectation' thing again

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 9:47 am

Hamster wrote: Oh wise and wonderful Cher!! :yh_worshp

(And that's not flirting..its idolising)

wow thank you little furry one :p