jimbo wrote: no worries i would not want to intrude
i thought you had though . most of the kind nice people i know seem to have gone through some tragedy or other
its almost like they have lost someone and that makes them care sooo much more for everyone else your thoughts on the the matter please no details just thoughts
You're right. Hubby he has lost his father (who was 55) and his first wife (she was 33) and was left to bring up two girls aged 6 and 8. She didn't have cancer or anything like that, there was no time to prepare for it - she had a massive asthma attack and nothing could be done.
Since then we have lost some very dear friends, our best man and our daughter's godfather. Her godmother was nearly killed by her estranged husband.
I don't think that you have to experience bereavement to be compassionate and caring but it allows you to empathise and understand the grieving process.
Jimbo, the compassion and care that you show for others is probably something that was in you anyway but your experiences have made you able to bring that out and I'm sure that you help people far more than you realise.
Now this is getting mushy, I'm going to have to get back to (trying) to wind you up!!
Helen x