I can't be here for a while

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Jan 20, 2007 9:20 pm

part of why I love this forum is because we are there for each other.

don't ever think you are a burden, Pinky. You've brought a lot of cheer and good advice to others. If it's your turn to need then take it.

Sometimes a day or two helps clear your head.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Jan 20, 2007 9:25 pm

If we can help Pinky we are here for always. :-4 If you need time away, so be it take care of you first that is most important. If you need anything let us know. :-6 You are a big part of why I come to FG your a shining star and I respect your opinion always.

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Sat Jan 20, 2007 10:01 pm

Pinks...((((((hugs))))))

Insomniac · Post by **Insomniac** » Sat Jan 20, 2007 11:03 pm

Sorry to hear that you're down in the dumps. Hope the next few days bring positive changes your way and that you're feeling better very soon. Take care of yourself.

Sue

theia · Post by **theia** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 12:48 am

Pinky;523993 wrote: So much has happened, both to me and friends tHat I don't feel strong enough to be here for everyone else. That sounds like such a copout, trust me, it does to me! I just feel like I can't be here making everyone else miserable with my black moods, even my friends are losing patience so it seems, which I don't blame them.

Everyone expects someone like me to have a shedload of guts, but i just don't sometimes. I've been so busy with others that I've lost track of what I should do.

I dunno...I just don't know.

Pinky, your black moods are making way for better things. Though it can't be easy for you at present, have trust in your self, for she knows what she's doing.

With my love...theia

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 1:10 am

hey my pink piggy pal , if you can put up with my black moods and feelings of utter hopelessness at times what makes you think i dont deserve the chance to return the favour buddy i love your post your big heart , your fun sense of humour , and the thought of when i tell a funny and you say you are PMSL... i can imagine the pig like snorting noises that go with ... no else makes me think like that .... your my fav monster .. do what ya gotta do but i'm here if you need a morons advice :-4 :-6

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 3:59 am

Hamster;524147 wrote: Ok I am gonna say this like it is and if it is too blunt then I am sorry. I cannot sit and watch you living an unhappy life anymore. You deserve so much better. If this damages our friendship then so be it-sometimes friends have to say things that are uncomfortable. I love you loads and I mean this to help.

You need to get out of the situation you are living in. Hoping something will happen doesn't work. You need to make things happen.

You must love and respect yourself first and that means for once putting yourself first. You are always there for me and others but I get the feeling that is easier than dealing with what is bothering you.

You must be very brave now and really look at what you want and how to make that happen. I'm sorry if this is blunt but I should have said it a thousand times by now.

Remember..relationships in your life reflect aspects of yourself...if friends aren't respecting you that means YOU must respect yourself first!

I have this old phrase going round in my head.."You can't help anyone else if you are on your knees yourself".

Remember on the airplane drill? They tell you to put YOUR oxygen mask on first before helping others? Why do you think that is?

Helen xxx

I have to agree with my bud here Pinky.

You have to sort out you, first and foremost. :-4

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 4:54 am

Pinky, you are one of the brightest sparks here. You are a source of inspiration and joy and we love you for it.

We're always here for you, Pinks. Look forward to seeing you back. In the meantime, do what makes you feel good. Give yourself some good ol' fashioned pampering.:-4

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 4:55 am

We are here for you always!:)

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 5:22 am

Pinky it makes me very sad to hear you talking like this, you have to take care of yourself now, and please don't ever think that anyone here (including me) would ever not want you to say how you feel, however upsetting it is. You are a lovely young girl and you need to be happy, if you have to take time away then do that, but don't retreat away from people. Listen to what hammy is saying, you know she is correct in what she says, and don't think that anyone would believe that you are not courageous or would think less of you because you are having a very hard time in your life. You probably won't read this for a while, but I want to say it here, if you do read it, talk to me because I am here for you to talk to.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 5:31 am

Hey Pinks, I can understand the need to have some time out, but we are all here for you and don't ever think that you can't accept support and help from us, that's what we are here for. The offer is always open, we have a spare bed with your name on it if you need a change of scenery, but be warned you'll be fighting for the puter :-5

You are one of the reasons that i log on, hurry back :-4 :-4

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 5:47 am

Ive got this famous saying I save for women comrades who are suffering. God didnt put anyone on this earth to be destroyed by anyone else. You are someones daughter, or sister. You are someones friend. Your a fidhter. Fight for yourself. Set yourself free. All the good and happy things you deserve, will be able to come your way, and they will.

Shweet tatersalad · Post by **Shweet tatersalad** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:01 am

I can't say much more than what everyone else has said.

If you need head time,thats cool,You know where we are.

Life gets twisted sometimes and you lose sight.

I can relate, everyone wants everything all the time from me,and there is no time for me too be me.

Go get better.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:08 am

Hey Pinks

We all understand -- most of us have been there before and will probably be there again

You take all the time you need, love :-4

The most important thing is for *you* to feel good about *you* :-6

Love to you babe :-4

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:18 am

Can't add anything that all of your friends here have not already have said & wished for you! But I'll just wish you the very best of everything, anyway!!!

(Take care of yourself pink!!!)

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:43 am

Pinky;524255 wrote: I just wanted to pop in and say thanks to everyone for all the lovely messages, phone calls and just being there.

Last night I was in a pretty dark place, but I've done a lot of thinking and I'm making a start on finding somewhere else to go. I can't just sit around wishing the situation would go away because I know that I'm the only one that can change things, so I have to just get on and do it.

Half term is coming up, which will give me time to make a move, plus a couple of weeks in the meantime to prepare, so at least I have a plan!

Anyway, I'm going to stop whinging and start putting the first things into motion.

Thanks again, I'm so lucky to have such great friends!

I have to go and walk me dog pinky, I will talk to you later. Take care of yourself.

chrisb84uk · Post by **chrisb84uk** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 8:45 am

Glad to hear that you have sorted some things out last night Pinky, sometimes it just takes a deep look at life and yourself, and for you to be honest and true to yourself to help guide the way forward. I wish you all the best, and you take care ok!! :-6 :-4

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 11:29 am

Pinky;524506 wrote: Thanks you guys.

As you can tell, I've pulled myself up again and am getting things going...I can't allow myself to sit around feeling sorry for myself, because it will affect everything else and then I'll be really screwed.

It helps that I can come up here and have a laugh with you crazy bunch!

Hey I know !!! Ill start a snooze thread :-6 :-6

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 11:42 am

start a nap thread.

a place for those of us who live here to go for a few ZZZs now and then.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 12:40 pm

What a lovely girl you are... Following through with your plan will invigorate you. Life is an adventure. Moving on is always good. You sound better already!!

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 12:45 pm

YEAH PINKSTER! :guitarist

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 1:14 pm

Pinks, I'm so looking forward to meeting you next weekend. But if you need someone to whinge to in the meantime I'm here. You always give so much love, support and fun to everyone here don't feel guilty when you need some back.

Helen xx

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 1:35 pm

Hamster;524712 wrote: Tee hee you are gonna be hugged by two Helens !!!!:-4 :-3

Scary thought - Pinks, you're going to get squashed!!!!:D

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sun Jan 21, 2007 1:46 pm

Pinky;524729 wrote: Bring it on...hugs are the best thing in the world!!:-4

I'll second that.:-6 :-4 :sneaky: