Are you happy?

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 6:31 am

Nice topic.

I am really happy with my life.

Yes. I think about it first and then about others' life. I try to be nice to them and feel happy when they have a happy life. I pray to God to give happy life to one and all.

There may be occasions when I am not happy but I take those situations in a positive manner and work to derive maximum benefit out of such situations. In other words I try to convert unhappy momemnts in to happy moments. God has been very kind to me in this respect.

No, I am not one of those people who act happy all the time but when they are alone and the lights are out they think life stinks. Life is a struggle no doubt but it never stinks.

I believe love and compassion for others make people happy. Money, family, Job help in making people more happy.

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 6:36 am

Yes, Canann...interesting question.

I am happy now...very happy. I think spring, summer, and fall make me happy. Winter was making me a little crazy. Around Jan. I was suffering from severe blahs! I thought I was turning into the biege woman (personal reference of a very boring woman I once knew). It felt like everything in my life was the color beige...difficult to describe. It was like I had a case of the Mondays...all week long. At least I think it was winter that was doing it to me.

I think money helps...sweating bills is no way to live. For the first time in my adult life I don't have to be so careful with my money. (Although I should...just to have more.) I am not rolling in money...but I don't have to sweat it like I did when I was in college...that makes me happy. Everyone in my family is well...or, at least, pretty well...and that makes me happy. Health is a major key to happiness...family health included!

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 7:20 am

My daughter makes me happy.

I think that I am happy when I have a vision of where I am going and what I want to do. On occasion, I lose the vision (or it is stolen from me) and I am not as happy until I come up with a new one. I guess that makes my general happiness goal dependent.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 7:55 am

canaan wrote: Are you really happy with your life?

Do you have to think about it first?

If you aren't happy, do you know what needs to be done to change that?

Are you one of those people who acts happy all the time but when you are alone and the lights are out you think life stinks?

What do you think makes people happy? Money? Family? Job? 2 for 1 coupons?

Yes I am really happy with my life (finally)

Some things make me unhappy at times, and it will take time to change that (mostly finances)

No can't say even in my darkest moments did I think life in general stunk, just some situations.

What makes people happy, guess first and foremost they have to love them selves, then love those immediately around them, and work out from there.

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 8:35 am

actually, I was quite happy...until I read this thread...and started wondering if I am truly happy...and then I got a little sad. :-3

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 10:15 am

hotsauce wrote: actually, I was quite happy...until I read this thread...and started wondering if I am truly happy...and then I got a little sad. :-3

Oh Hot, Big Huggs to you and cheer up ok

gmc · Post by **gmc** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 11:41 am

No I'm not one of the seven dwarfs.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 11:48 am

gmc wrote: No I'm not one of the seven dwarfs.

Real funny

can u name em all???

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 1:12 pm

Generally speaking, I am a happy person. There are things that could make life easier, but not necessarily happier. I am happy with the man I have chosen to spend my life with, I am finally employed again, my son is a wonderful young man, my parents are becoming less annoying the older I get, and I have what I need to be comfortable. Anything else is just gravy.

Positive attitude makes all the difference in the world and I believe that people who aren't happy, have the power to make themselves happy but just don't have the guts to do so.

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 3:16 pm

canaan wrote: Are you really happy with your life?

My wife's medical problems have bankrupted me. I get paid the salary of a McDonald's manager. My RA makes me feel like I have battery acid running through my veins on good days...bad days, I don't get to walk. I have to deal with emotional children all day, and upset parents all night.

And I'm undeniably, ecstatically, amazingly, astoundingly, unbelieveably HAAAAAPPPY!

What do you think makes people happy? Money? Family? Job? 2 for 1 coupons?

Fulfillment in life. I've led the life of adventure, I was a bachelor for 34 years. I've learned thousands of things,(three college degrees) been hundreds of places,(All of the US, Canada, Mexico, the Bahamas, Great Britain, France, Greece, New Guinea, Alaska, all of the nation Parks in the West, new York, Chicago, L.A.) seen sights that other men can only dream about,(the Earth from near space!) been places no other men have ever been.(Lost lake in the Bob Marshall Wilderness) I've had a wealth of experiences, 157 jobs, 3 careers, and a good dozen hobbies.

Now I have a family, a wife, a son, and two beautiful grandchildren. I can sit with my family on my deck which I've built, after a long day of making people's futures better, and relax while I watch the sun set over the mesas.

Life just doesn't get much better than this.

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 3:18 pm

Oh...Did I forget to mention what I do now?

I'm a teacher! It's the most fulfilling job around! :wah:

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue Apr 19, 2005 4:15 pm

Jives, wish you were my principal. I have one close to retirement...doesn't like children...she really doesn't...thinks kids with disabilities are difficult...thinks special ed teachers have it easier...because they have small classes. She had to give directions to a grandma the other day (to get to a classroom) and said..."I just hate old people"...as she walked away. Just a mean old nasty woman!!

ilona17 · Post by **ilona17** » Wed Apr 20, 2005 4:04 am

Well to be onist with you on the happiness one i can say that in my v short life i have never beign comletely happy and the way i feel at the moment dont think i ever will!! And yeh i'am one of thoses people that pretneds to be happy all the time that's why my friends and family can never tell im sad or upset. i just dont think its fair to bother them with my problems when they have got their own. So thats it and to be onist because i've never beign completely happy i cant say what makes people happy. sorry. see ya x

cars · Post by **cars** » Wed Apr 20, 2005 5:52 am

Others Gardners have already said it, happiness is a state of mind. You can make your own happiness if you choose to do so! By focusing on and looking for the "good" things in one's life, instead of always looking for the "bad"!

Cars :driving:

Valerie100 · Post by **Valerie100** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 7:37 pm

I believe that happiness is a state of mind. Your conditions can be the worst, and you can still be happy;you always have the choice to be happy. It all depends on how you view things. :-6

Alfred · Post by **Alfred** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 2:35 am

canaan wrote: Are you really happy with your life?

in a word No. but i got a long way to go yet.

canaan wrote: Do you have to think about it first?

i think about most things first.

canaan wrote: If you aren't happy, do you know what needs to be done to change that?

absoultely...but only time and maybe some courage can fix that.

canaan wrote: Are you one of those people who acts happy all the time but when you are alone and the lights are out you think life stinks?

well i don't act happy all the time, why should i, like everyone i have my moments but they don't last forever and sooner or later i find myself in a dark room by myself trying to go to sleep.

canaan wrote: What do you think makes people happy? Money? Family? Job? 2 for 1 coupons?

hmmm tough one.

i think it's a reaction to hormones being introduced into your blood stream to give a type of high which our sensory system inturprets as happiness.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 5:32 am

People always ask me "how can you be so happy all the time?" The comment surprises me because it is not something I think about. I just am. Life is not always good, bad things happen, there is sorrow and grief, but through it all, I have a sense of peace in my life -- a state of mind as so many before me have posted.

Chase it and you can't catch it. Sit quietly and patiently and it finds YOU.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 5:45 am

Jives wrote: and a good dozen hobbies.

That's a lot of hobbies............ what are they?

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 5:46 am

Yup. It's all in yer head. :rolleyes:

I'm in a good mood every single day. It's a decision. I've found that just as one's mood influences one's behavior (frowning & moving slowly when in a bad mood), one's behavior influences one's mood. Pick up the pace, say "screw the mood, I'm smiling anyway." You'll find your spirits will quickly improve. Then everybody will ask you "why are you in a good mood all the time?"

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 6:07 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Chirpy people really bug me, especially early in the morning.

Seriously, I wouldn't describe myself as happy... I think that's a state that would be impossible to sustain for any length of time. Happiness is best served sparingly, so you can appreciate it. However, I count myself as a contented person that appreciates how lucky she is for all she has. And don't you hate people that talk about themselves in the third person?:rolleyes:I get special joy from bugging people like you first thing in the morning. :yh_hugs

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 6:45 am

I find it hard to 'make myself' happy if I'm in a 'blue' state of mind, but certain things have the ability to switch my mood very quickly....when one of my kids contacts me, when I see or hear from my grandchildren or my brother...just a text message or an e-mail can do the trick. At the moment there is 'stuff' in my life and in the new year I need to make some life changing decisions and hopefully I will be back to my normal state of being HAPPY.

This time of year affects me too because I can't spend my leisure time in the garden.....maybe I need to move to 'southern climes'...now there's a lifechanging thought !

CountryDweller · Post by **CountryDweller** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 8:20 am

Happy as two peas in a pod!

CountryDweller · Post by **CountryDweller** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 11:43 am

flopstock wrote: ah, split personality?

Floppy baby, which pea in the pod are you referring to as split? :wah:

Alfred · Post by **Alfred** » Mon Nov 28, 2005 3:23 pm

CountryDweller wrote: Floppy baby, which pea in the pod are you referring to as split? :wah:

perhaps its the pod that's split, how else would we know that there are 2 peas in there.

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Wed Dec 07, 2005 5:52 am

SOJOURNER wrote: People always ask me "how can you be so happy all the time?" The comment surprises me because it is not something I think about. I just am. Life is not always good, bad things happen, there is sorrow and grief, but through it all, I have a sense of peace in my life -- a state of mind as so many before me have posted.

Chase it and you can't catch it. Sit quietly and patiently and it finds YOU.

I can only agree with you.

Valerie100 has also explained it nicely - "I believe that happiness is a state of mind. Your conditions can be the worst, and you can still be happy;you always have the choice to be happy. It all depends on how you view things. :-6".

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Wed Dec 07, 2005 9:55 pm

tmbsgrl wrote: I am happy. Took me along time to get here but I am now. Thanks to my husband. :-4

Very nice. May God give you and your husband more and more happiness.