Goodbye from Hamster

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 7:01 am

OK, Hamster asked me to post this for her, she doesn't want to come back even to say goodbye because she doesn't want to personally be involved in another round of snide bitching, whatever the excuse is, but I don't mind because I am not pregnant or in a difficult life situation, so if you want to say unpleasant or loaded things, you can say them to me if it pleases you. Anyway, thats enough of the melodrama, here is what hammy wants to say:

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I asked Gal to post this for me because I couldn’t do it yesterday; it would have turned into one of those threads again. I also wanted it to come from someone other than Pinky who seems to be getting a lot of criticism for standing up for a friend. She admitted things on here about my life that I could never have done on an open thread. She made things move for me-who knows if I would even have been able to enforce the deadline of the 20th for OM to move out on my own. Now I sit here on my own and sad but at least not in fear anymore. I want to say that I support Pinky’s actions fully and thank her for it.

I felt that leaving this way was cowardly but I have to put myself first for a while. A goodbye thread would have had people bitching again as I see is happening already. I really don’t want this to turn into a fight-please. My reasons for leaving?

Firstly I felt that my flirty style upset people and I seemed more often than not to take that from people. I have had private messages and comments on threads about it.

Secondly I came here to have fun and be a part of a family. I had that for a while but all the fighting is just ruining that. I could feel the stress in my own life affecting my baby and I couldn’t get a release form that anymore on FG.

Lastly I felt that being around FG was forcing people to see issues in my life that became very public-that may have happened because Om and I met on here and maybe not. I feel that to move forward with my life I have to move on from here.

I am sorry to all the people I let down by going. I don’t know what to say except for the fact that I hope you can forgive me sometime? Pinky, Gal and Betty can give you my email address for those that want it.

Galbally-you have been a friend and given me support when I needed it most.

Flopstock- I only hope you can forgive me. I owe you more than most here and I want to say thank you for everything you have done.

Betty-I just don’t know what I would have done the last few months without you. A life long friend and soul mate.

Pinky-We are so alike it is untrue. I thank you for everything you’ve done for me.

Carla-What an amazing woman. Strength and support for me in times of need.

Minks-A true friend who says what I need to hear and not what I want to hear.

Nomad-A tormentor and a friend rolled into one. THANK YOU.

Redglitter-A good friend and the guts I wish I had.

Cher-The most warm hearted person I have ever met.

Wendybird-Your laugh and sense of humour kept me smiling when I should have cried.

WW3-A new friend so alike in our humour!

Accountable-thoughtful and kind always.

Jimbo-An honour to meet you and to call you a friend

SuzyB-You’ve been there through thick and thin for me.

Guppy-My true friend and amazingly caring woman.

Imladris-My true friend and co-conspirator in humour.

Novelty-you gave me the strength to see what was really happening here-a deepest thank you. Don’t ever stop caring.

Aussie Pam-a good friend who makes me smile!

Spot-you always tell it like it is and thank you for that and your hospitality.

Koan-a true thinker and a wise friend. You said what I needed to hear yesterday-thank you.

Clancy-You dirty saucy bugger! Just like me! Thanks you for letting me be myself.

K Snyder-somebody I can have fun, laughter and series debate with. Thank you for that!

Marie-You made me smile and you made me happy.

Uncle Kram-An amazing deep hearted man who keeps me laughing.

Cars-a true gentleman.

Fisher-you make me laugh and you make me think. Thank you!

Helefra-one of my first friends here. Shame we never got to meet up-stay as special as you are?

YZGI-So much humour and heart in one special guy!

Rapunzel-Your support to me was vital at times and your heart is so full of love for others.

Elvira-you are a strong woman who I admire!

Pantsonfire-We shared a special friendship for a brief moment. I wish we could have kept that.

Raven and Voodoo-I am proud to call you friends and I know we will stay in touch!

Chonsigirl-The most amazing spirit and kindness I have ever seen.

Diuretic-Thank you so much for your friendship and wisdom.

Shweet-Your strength and friendship is inspiring.

Rain-I will get around to sending those recipes soon!

Snooze-A good friend to me always and true to herself!

LC-I never had a cross word from you-always concern for me.

I am sorry if I forgot people but my head is in a mess at the moment. And to those missing: Zinky and Cheshire Cat. Thank you for all the memories I carry in my heart.

You have all affected my life in so many ways. Please take care of yourselves and stop the fighting from turning the Garden into a weed patch!

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So, another decent, well-loved person leaves FG, any questions?

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 7:38 am

Great post - eloquently put.

Sorry, but I don't forgive you though, and won't until you come back! :-4

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 7:54 am

:-4 Hammie

May she find the happiness she so truly deserves :-4

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:16 am

ouch ... that kinda hurts:-1 :-1

good bye for now hamster, me and the suze will visit you i promise:-4 :-6

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:23 am

Thanks Dr. G your a friend and a great human being.

Your friend Pink is amazing she is someone I admire greatly.

Hammy I'm so very proud of your kiddo. You have done the right thing your well being and mental health is all that matters now. :-4

I'm will be in touch always must have my baby update....

We will miss you greatly and if you decide to come back in time that would be wonderful.

You have many friends here. Please if you need anything at all let me know I would move heaven and earth to make it happen you and children deserve a warm safe home..:-6

xoxoxo

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:30 am

I truly hope that in some way, Helen will see this outpouring of genuine affection for her.

We've let her into our hearts and we intend to keep her there. :-4

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:34 am

Hammy:-4

In my best Bob Hope voice:

Thanks for the memories

Da da da da da da

da da da da da

da da da

Thanks for the memories.

Sorry thats the only words I know. See ya in the future girl.

I hope.

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 8:39 am

Novelty;551785 wrote: Don't worry FG is like a picture in Hammys photo album, she will turn the page and see us once again :-6

I would like it if all of the members on FG would be so brave to post a thread entitled : Who I Am

Not your history, but the present and beyond...

Share your deepest fears, the things that you love and the things that you hate,

your beliefs, your hopes and what you yourself wishes to become.

I would like you to use words, video and pictures,

I would also like you to paint or draw a picture,

your favourite colour, number and the explanation...

I am just thinking out aloud here, so just ponder this proposal please, i will make a template for this suggestion

B-E-A-Utiful!

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 9:15 am

Hammy :-4

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 9:38 am

I have a lot of love and affection for Hammy.....even if she doesn't call the baby "Kram". I'll get over her choosing another name soon enough. Getting over her departure?...not so soon. Toodle pip old chum :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 9:58 am

Sure will miss her wisdom on the "Ask Hammy Thread"!! I admire her for taking this route to healing for herself and only wish the best for her and baby, and children that need a "healthy" Mommy.

:-4

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 11:42 am

Hammy - :-4 , I'll be in touch but this is a sad day for me.

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 11:46 am

Hammy i do hope you come back one day.....

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 11:48 am

Pinky;552042 wrote: I've been avoiding posting in here...obviously Hammy is a mate in RL as well as online. Our friendship will always be there even if she's not here anymore - I'll just go elsewhere as well when I feel like having a laugh with one of my partners in crime, so to speak. I do feel like it's left a little Hammy sized gap in FG for me personally though.

It's a big gap for me Pinks.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 11:54 am

Pinky;552051 wrote: That's kinda what I meant, but I didn't want to imply that Hammy's big or anything!

Well, getting bigger:wah:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 11:58 am

Pinky;552061 wrote: Well, yeah, hehe!

I got to hear the heartbeat over the monitor thingy!!!

First time I've ever heard anything like it - how amazing!

The nurse laughed when I said it sounded like Rolf Harris with a metal sheet.

I hope when it arrives no-one asks 'Can ya tell what it is yet?':wah:

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

It's just the best thing to hear the heartbeat.

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 12:02 pm

This was the most thoughtful, eloquent and tactful goodbye I've seen on a forum.

You are a very wise woman Hamster.

I hope you will feel at home here again one day. In the meantime, enjoy your pregnancy. We will all be waiting anxiously for news of the birth.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 12:05 pm

koan;552070 wrote: This was the most thoughtful, eloquent and tactful goodbye I've seen on a forum.

We can only hope for an "I'm Back!" thread that is equally eloquent :-4

cars · Post by **cars** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 12:16 pm

koan;552070 wrote: This was the most thoughtful, eloquent and tactful goodbye I've seen on a forum.

You are a very wise woman Hamster.

I hope you will feel at home here again one day. In the meantime, enjoy your pregnancy. We will all be waiting anxiously for news of the birth.

What koan said!

And You will be sorely missed in our Garden!!! Do consider returning one day!

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 2:14 pm

I shall miss you very much, Hammy. But I respect you must do what is best for you and the baby and all concerned. I am lighting candles for you and tha baby, and sending you beams of love.

Thank you Dr. G., for posting Hammy's farewell to us.

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Fri Feb 16, 2007 2:22 pm

chonsigirl;552181 wrote: I shall miss you very much, Hammy. But I respect you must do what is best for you and the baby and all concerned. I am lighting candles for you and tha baby, and sending you beams of love.

Thank you Dr. G., for posting Hammy's farewell to us.

Its alright CG, it was the least I could do for any FG friend, and I will miss her too.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:12 am

Pinky;552042 wrote: I've been avoiding posting in here...obviously Hammy is a mate in RL as well as online. Our friendship will always be there even if she's not here anymore - I'll just go elsewhere as well when I feel like having a laugh with one of my partners in crime, so to speak. I do feel like it's left a little Hammy sized gap in FG for me personally though.
I'll be your krHammy (I was going to say to fill your gap but thought better of it

), but unlike Hammy, I've lost a stone since Christmas. Having said that, I'm still bigger than Hammy cus she's only a dot isn't she? :yh_hugs

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:33 am

Uncle Kram;552554 wrote: I'll be your krHammy (I was going to say to fill your gap but thought better of it

), but unlike Hammy, I've lost a stone since Christmas. Having said that, I'm still bigger than Hammy cus she's only a dot isn't she? :yh_hugs

nah krhammy no way ... how about the kramster thats better buddy , i too have lost a stone in weight this year ha i mock your weight loss and challenge you too lose another half a stone 8 pounds usa :sneaky: :sneaky: i shall endever to do the same

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:36 am

I will miss you hamster, and please take care!

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:39 am

almostfamous;552531 wrote: Yes, one if I may, how can we make it stop?

A couple of suggestions:

When someone backbites you, take it to PM and leave it there.

Don't be spiteful, you only make yourself out to be an arse in the end.

Sympathize without pretending to know all (something i have been guilty of)

Empathize by putting yourself in their shoes for 5 seconds before bumping your gums in ill will.

Use the manners you would use in front of your real-life friends and when you say something you know may be misconstrued, use the handy-dandy edit button.

I know I'm not perfect and I've probably ruffled a few feathers here and there, but the thing that makes me spat out so quickly is disrespect and lack of manners. I, myself, will choose to be a bit more careful with my words, but staying true to myself and the opinion I offer in the same breath.

Now, somebody help hold me to this :-4 :wah:

Anyway, that's just my 2cents worth. I hate to see Hammy go, she was very likeable but hopefully ours paths will cross elsewhere.

And Gally, if you will, extend her my best wishes:-6

Good post AF, and I agree with you, I also accept that I have been guilty of all those things myself as well. I will certainly extend your best wishes to hammy at some stage, she will be glad to see that people think well of her I am sure.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 3:54 am

jimbo;552566 wrote: nah krhammy no way ... how about the kramster thats better buddy , i too have lost a stone in weight this year ha i mock your weight loss and challenge you too lose another half a stone 8 pounds usa :sneaky: :sneaky: i shall endever to do the same
I snort in a derisory fashion at your challenge young man. It will be like taking candy from a baby. I spoke to a dietician about my weight. It seems that the problem with the vast amount of food I've been eating is that I've only got one arsehole.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 4:32 am

Uncle Kram;552579 wrote: I snort in a derisory fashion at your challenge young man. It will be like taking candy from a baby. I spoke to a dietician about my weight. It seems that the problem with the vast amount of food I've been eating is that I've only got one arsehole.

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 4:58 am

I remember your first day here gerbil. Your life has gone through some changes since then. I wish for you happiness and peace on the road ahead. You leave a part of you behind....thanks for that. It was nice.

Delilah · Post by **Delilah** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:09 pm

I didn't really know Hamster or much about her or her life, but it is still sad to see her leave.

I truly wish you and your baby all the best in your future together.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:19 pm

Uncle Kram;552579 wrote: I snort in a derisory fashion at your challenge young man. It will be like taking candy from a baby. I spoke to a dietician about my weight. It seems that the problem with the vast amount of food I've been eating is that I've only got one arsehole.

unlike an arsenal fan who has 11 :wah: :wah:

Red · Post by **Red** » Sat Feb 17, 2007 12:20 pm

Uncle Kram;552579 wrote: I snort in a derisory fashion at your challenge young man. It will be like taking candy from a baby. I spoke to a dietician about my weight. It seems that the problem with the vast amount of food I've been eating is that I've only got one arsehole.

snort factor of 10 :wah:

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:15 pm

Uncle Kram;552579 wrote: I snort in a derisory fashion at your challenge young man. It will be like taking candy from a baby. I spoke to a dietician about my weight. It seems that the problem with the vast amount of food I've been eating is that I've only got one arsehole.

Actually it has been said & acknowledged, that married women have TWO arseholes. They sit on one, & send the other one out to work! :wah: :rolleyes: :p

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:20 pm

Pinky;553944 wrote: Someone asked me if I had a knob the other day!:-3

I said yeah, but he's not here at the moment!:wah:

:-6

Red · Post by **Red** » Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:20 pm

Pinky;553944 wrote: Someone asked me if I had a knob the other day!:-3

I said yeah, but he's not here at the moment!:wah:

tsk tsk :wah:

hmm now of course im wondering why they were even asking you this...

Red · Post by **Red** » Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:34 pm

Pinky;553952 wrote: It was someone online, they didn't realise I was a girl!

Ahhh now it becomes clear...

OzBoy · Post by **OzBoy** » Mon Feb 19, 2007 8:32 am

Not been here long hammy but I will miss your input in the FG and all our crazy discussions!

Best wishes to you and your family :-6 :-6

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Feb 20, 2007 1:47 am

Diuretic;555023 wrote: It says a lot about someone who can find time to compose some very kind thoughts in the midst of sadness and turmoil. Not to put pressure on Hammy but there's plenty of time for things to settle and for her to come back when she's ready to do so.

That would be my wish as well, and I don't really think anyone here holds her in ill-will, so although I don't think she wants to come back, later on in time I will try as I am sure other people will, to get her to come back. Whether that will happen I am not sure, as she thinks that her style of posting and being on FG is frowned on by a few people and she feels uncomfortable.