just come back from dropping the kids off at school they have spent the whole jourey fighting i am at my wits end trying to stop them they are 13 and 11 does anyone have any good tips i would triy gagging them but fear i would be in trouble
Firstly, try not to worry too much about it yourself. Sibling rivalry and scrapping is part of normal childhood behaviour and in no way reflects on you as a parent. If I had a pound for every time my 3 had fought or argued, I would have long ago retired on the proceeds! There is one simple thing you could do - refuse to take them to school; I mean it; just say they can walk / bus / cycle until they learn to behave. However, if you think that`s too extreme or desperate, you could attempt to distract them, eg, play soothing music on the car radio, engage in discussion with them about school work or something they`re interested in, devise quizzes which pit their wits but discourage shouting and arguing, etc. Above all, don`t worry too much - it does end, sometime! And good luck............
john8pies wrote: Firstly, try not to worry too much about it yourself. Sibling rivalry and scrapping is part of normal childhood behaviour and in no way reflects on you as a parent. If I had a pound for every time my 3 had fought or argued, I would have long ago retired on the proceeds! There is one simple thing you could do - refuse to take them to school; I mean it; just say they can walk / bus / cycle until they learn to behave. However, if you think that`s too extreme or desperate, you could attempt to distract them, eg, play soothing music on the car radio, engage in discussion with them about school work or something they`re interested in, devise quizzes which pit their wits but discourage shouting and arguing, etc. Above all, don`t worry too much - it does end, sometime! And good luck............Failing that, send for Super Nanny
My kids, ages 15 and 17, fought almost 24/7. We're talking fist fights and all. Darn near drove me insane! No advice, just know, they DO outgrow it. I thought I'd never see it happen, but in the last 6 months, life is much more peaceful.
Mine are the same way - they are so mean to each other with their mouths..Yesterday - I was trying to nap..I hear" Shut - up brace face", yeah ok "J-Lo butt"......" I hate you" - "really , not as much as I hate you" Blahhh Blahhhh blahhhh...
We do a lot of write your sibbling a letter thing...Tell them their good points..They can not leave their room until they do..We also- beleive me or not, STILL make them stand next to each other with their nose on the wall.. For almost 30 minutes some time..By the time they are done, they are normally laughing - The other day, I was not feeling to hot, and all they could do was bicker...so I lined them up down the hallway, and said - "good no talking, I am going to take a nap..." - BUT mom how long do we have to stay here?? I said-- when I wake up!! They were freaking out!! LOL
IF you ask my kids which one do you want - a spanking or a time out...LOL They say - Spanking, cuz mom you;ll never be able to spank like dad..! :-5
We also use 123 Magic.. Look it up on line.. It seems so simple that it won't work - but it works well..Or the plan ol' You just lost your bike, tramp, friends...They can barely begin and I am yanking away their favorite things..but it stops them cold when its a Friday!
Good Luck to you.every kid is different - I for one am sure I have not seen the worst yet..but I am blessed that my kids do not argue with me anymore - or raise their voice to me...RESPECT - it goes both ways I told them..
Siblings may fight and argue amongst them selves....................but don't let an outsider demean the sibling. The other siblings will be on the ousider like "white on rice."
I always took the firm stance, stepped in the middle of them and quite simply said, if your wanna fight like this you have to go outside in the back yard and doe it, get out of the car and do it, step out of the store and do it. My girls quit right away when they realized they did not want to scrap where others could hear them. It worked often, but there was always stuff I couldn't stop. They learnd to get along finally when my oldest moved away. Now it is bliss hehehehehe
Don't get to worked up about it, it is just kiddy nature.
My aunt used to kick her offending child (usually my middle cousin) out of the car and make her walk to where ever they were going, some days poor cousin walked over a mile. (this was over 20 years ago, on the small quiet island of Vancouver Island so she was quite safe)
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