So this woman I met....

Lorca · Post by **Lorca** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 2:30 pm

I met a woman, she has two children from a previous relationship. No drama there, it seems. Things were going along fine, I met her kids and they seem great. There's one problem though. She's recently started acting very erratic.

It started last week. She started sending me text messages like crazy. Once she sent me a text message saying, I'm outside. By the time I get to the door, I get another one saying "You took too long, I left." I talked to her about that and she said her daughter was sick and she had to go. Then when I'd call her, she'd say she couldn't hear me and would hang up and start sending me text messages again. At this point I'm starting to get weirded out and don't want to be bothered, so I stopped responding to her text messages.

Yesterday, was the last straw. She had one of her daughters call me to tell me they were at the park and was I coming.

Now I definitely see no future in this relationship. I just want some thoughts as to what in the world could possibly be going on in this woman's head?

sofkeli · Post by **sofkeli** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 2:34 pm

she's not right, she's damaged.. and you may never understand her so i wouldnt try to bother unless you wanna get involved with her

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 2:37 pm

Sounds like a 'boil your bunny' kinda girl

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 2:44 pm

Step away, but also be curious to what she is showing you. When we meet people they are generally showing us something within ourselves. They may be a mirror or they may be showing us something about ourselves we dislike that is buried deep within us.

Lorca · Post by **Lorca** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 3:11 pm

Betty Boop;602828 wrote: Step away, but also be curious to what she is showing you. When we meet people they are generally showing us something within ourselves. They may be a mirror or they may be showing us something about ourselves we dislike that is buried deep within us.

Usually, I'd agree with that. But I'd never call someone for a pop in, then leave and try to blame them. Nor would I (if I had any) use my children as a way of getting someone to see me. That's lame.

Like I said though, I'm already creating distance. I was just curious about other's thoughts.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 3:30 pm

ThePheasant;602818 wrote: Sounds like a 'boil your bunny' kinda girl

Well put, oh feathery one.

I see where you're coming from Betts, but some people are just genuinely loopy all by themselves.

I had one of those Lorca At the end of our first date I kissed her goodnight.

The next morning I had sixteen voice messages of her procliaming her deep love for me. The seventeenth was her asking me to look up prescriptions her psychciatrist gave her and what were they for?

The only way I could get rid of her was to tell her she was crazy and to get the 'f out of my life.

That kinda stuff only happens to me after sex! Not just a kiss!

:-2

Sweet Tooth · Post by **Sweet Tooth** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 3:32 pm

she sounds kinda nuts- no need for that kind of drama- shes been hurt and there seems to be something thats getting at her- I would stay away too!

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 4:09 pm

ThePheasant;602818 wrote: Sounds like a 'boil your bunny' kinda girl

never trust a women

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 4:23 pm

whoh, she sounds nuts.

I'd back out now while you can.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 4:29 pm

What's the big deal here?

Maybe she's been screwed over by men so many times that she's a little unsure and does stupid things. Y'all are being a little harsh I think. We can't all be perfect.

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 4:53 pm

we can't all be perfect, but even if we've been hurt there is no reason to take it out on a normal guy that comes into our lives.

trust me.

I've been screwed over, royally. But I would choose to be by myself before I chose to run someone normal away by acting crazy.

maybe she should spend some time to work on her issues personally before she gets involved with someone new.

just my .02

Lorca · Post by **Lorca** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 5:35 pm

RedGlitter;602976 wrote: What's the big deal here?

Maybe she's been screwed over by men so many times that she's a little unsure and does stupid things. Y'all are being a little harsh I think. We can't all be perfect.

This is along the lines of what I was looking for. In hindsight, she did say something about me having a "girlfriend." And she did say the guy that she had the two kids with cheated on her. So, I kind of got the feeling that she was acting goofy because it was going in a serious direction, but she unwittingly killed it.

But again for the record, I'm totally leaving this one alone.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 5:58 pm

Lorca;603008 wrote:

But again for the record, I'm totally leaving this one alone.

Smart move.

I have a philosophy for dealing with such matters.

Goes like this.

"Next!"

:-6

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 6:05 pm

JacksDad;603019 wrote: Smart move.

I have a philosophy for dealing with such matters.

Goes like this.

"Next!"

:-6

you know, that's actually a dating game show on MTV. embarrassed, yes, but I have watched it

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Sun Apr 29, 2007 7:21 pm

Hah!

I'm ahead of my time.

:-6

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 5:43 am

Lorca;602806 wrote: Things were going along fine

It started last week. She started sending me text messages like crazy. Once she sent me a text message saying, I'm outside. By the time I get to the door, I get another one saying "You took too long, I left." I talked to her about that and she said her daughter was sick and she had to go.

Then when I'd call her, she'd say she couldn't hear me and would hang up and start sending me text messages again.

Yesterday, was the last straw. She had one of her daughters call me to tell me they were at the park and was I coming.

Now I definitely see no future in this relationship. I just want some thoughts as to what in the world could possibly be going on in this woman's head?

Perhaps something is lost in the translation... putting a positive light on matters, and point by point above:

Have things been going fine for a day or two, or a week or three?

She should use the door bell! Seriously, though, perhaps it really was just what she said! Maybe she was just being terse (as is general with text messages).

Perhaps her telephone was on the blink.

If it was at the weekend, maybe it was just a spontaneous invitation on a nice day.

If you don't want anything to do with her, then *tell her*, rather than by just not answering texts!

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:05 am

Lorca;602806 wrote:

Now I definitely see no future in this relationship. I just want some thoughts as to what in the world could possibly be going on in this woman's head?

I have to agree with RedGlitter about everyone being a bit hard on this woman. We don't even know her and yet the majority of us are bashing her as though we've had personal dealings with her. And even though you've decided to step away from this one, I'm wondering if, just as you've asked all of us our opinion, have you asked HER what's going on?? Have you told her your concerns and why you're backing off or are you just ignoring her? I recommend you ask the next time someone's acting weird. Not all of us have the guts to come right out with our issues or what's bothering us, and women can be quite complicated creatures. I'd ask her what's up. If you don't like the answer, then by all means, run.

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:06 am

neffy;602959 wrote: never trust a women

Oh... and never trust someone who can't spell!!! :rolleyes:

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:21 am

laneybug;603421 wrote: Oh... and never trust someone who can't spell!!! :rolleyes:

And never trust someone who feels the need to point out others mistakes! :rolleyes:

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:27 am

Betty Boop;603448 wrote: And never trust someone who feels the need to point out others mistakes! :rolleyes:

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Apr 30, 2007 11:32 am

Bill Sikes;603146 wrote:

If you don't want anything to do with her, then *tell her*, rather than by just not answering texts!

^^^

yeah, that.

you could make her more obsessive if you just stop responding. If you tell her not to text you anymore and she keeps doing it then ignore her but unless you make it clear she'll probably start texting more for a while. And it's cruel to leave her wondering.

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Tue May 01, 2007 4:00 pm

Betty Boop;603448 wrote: And never trust someone who feels the need to point out others mistakes! :rolleyes:

Just a little tease, Betty Boop. Should have just come out and said that I don't feel a woman is untrustworthy simply because of her gender, joke or not. Instead, I made a snide little comment about the spelling of woman altogether. Eh, my sarcasm never gets me anywhere.