Confidence or arrogance?

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:22 am

i for one would not like to look like her

Sweet Tooth · Post by **Sweet Tooth** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:23 am

i would say that was pretty arrogant- I would have said something like- not me! I like the way I look better! ha! Pinky, I would love to be a fly on the wall of your brain!

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:24 am

well i look like a million dollers all green and crinkerly

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:26 am

well I don't have either, so I dunno.....

but when I hear people make comments like that I have to roll my eyes, or I do in my head if they're right in front of me...........

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:30 am

I worked with a Woman that would say things similar to that...and I got to the point where I was very blunt about my eye-rolling. I do think that there is a fine line between the two.

Confidence is something I lack, but arrogance I hope to never ever obtain.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:48 am

Ughh people like that always make my stomach turn over and I end up vurping alittle.

what's sad is that one day her little bubble will burst and she'll have to face the fact she's been living her own little world to actually belive something like that.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:52 am

my sister in law is like that :rolleyes:

I never know how to respond to those kinds of comments.....usually a very bored/distracted sounding "that's nice" and then they leave me alone.....mwahahahaha

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:57 am

sunny104;605539 wrote: my sister in law is like that :rolleyes:

I never know how to respond to those kinds of comments.....usually a very bored/distracted sounding "that's nice" and then they leave me alone.....mwahahahaha

hehee try this one.

So where ya stashing the crack pipe?

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu May 03, 2007 9:58 am

When it comes across as blatant bragging and horn tooting, that is arrogance in my eyes.

I mean all the power to anybody for their own successes but to be a braggart about it... I too would tune it all out and walk away. :-5

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Thu May 03, 2007 10:28 am

Funny you should bring up this topic. I just had an almost identical experience this past Tuesaday. Ive worked for THIS woman for almost 10 years. Id call her attitude superior. She made some comments to a young man who was working for me at her house that day, He was really upset. He felt he couldnt reply the way he felt, because he was being paid to work there. I wanted to ring her neck. With her it comes from believing she has al of lives spiritual answers, and that she is like a chosen messenger. Im going to have a talk with her this week. Annoying me is one thing, I swallow it and deal with it. But upsetting him, I will not tolerate.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu May 03, 2007 10:34 am

I am confident that she is arrogant.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu May 03, 2007 10:35 am

Unless of course she shows me her boobs then I would just say she was fun.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu May 03, 2007 10:36 am

Showing boobs can make up for alot of character flaws.IMO

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Thu May 03, 2007 10:50 am

Pinky;605514 wrote: Something someone said today got me thinking about where confidence stops and arrogance begins. I work with someone a couple of years older than me that I've known for around ten years, in fact I used to date her brother when I was about nineteen or twenty.

She's always been fairly confident, but today she came out with an absolute classic - she and a few others were talking about diets and figures and other stuff that I usually tune out of when I heard her say 'Well, everyone I know says they'd love to look like me.'

My immediate thought was crikey, how arrogant do you sound? Second thought was biting my lip really, really hard in case I came out with the fact that she's actually got a face like a bag of spanners (see what I mean about biting the lip?) and lastly, I wondered if I was being a bit harsh, and is it just that she has the confidence to say that she thinks she's great?

I think there is a fine line between the two.

Oh where does she get off?? I would have told her to get over herself:wah:

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Thu May 03, 2007 11:05 am

Pinky;605640 wrote: Hehe...I just watched everyone else give each other that look that says 'here she goes again...I'm so great, look at me...':wah: :wah:

You're very good - I don't know that I could have kept quiet

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Thu May 03, 2007 11:13 am

Pinky;605650 wrote: Trust me, it took a lot! If I was to be a total bitch and let rip, I'd have probably have said that not only have you got a face like a bag of spanners, but a set of teeth that the ancients could have used as a place of worship

Nasty, nasty bitchbag Pinky!:D

Go girl:wah:

I like your styly:D

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Thu May 03, 2007 11:44 am

That was definately arrogance. I would have gone, "Ewww WHY?":wah:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu May 03, 2007 11:46 am

I would have put her in her place. People like that deserve it.

911 · Post by **911** » Thu May 03, 2007 1:16 pm

Pinky;605700 wrote: We all just kind of rolled eyes at each other!

In truth, people who go on about themselves like that all the time just come across as trying to convince themselves...it's a bit sad really.

Gross, I work with someone like her. She thinks everyone is jealous of her because she's pretty. (She's not. She's got more tracks on her face than Rand McNally's got roads!)

She actually said that looks matter and that she would never consider going with anyone that wasn't good looking. Of course, her first two marriages were to wife beaters. But, hey, they were good looking!

911 · Post by **911** » Thu May 03, 2007 1:26 pm

Pinky;605768 wrote: The funny thing is, whenever I've been out with her, she won't approach anyone and no-one goes near her...she can't understand that being aloof does her no favours whatsoever!

Maybe she knows, deep down, she's not 'all that' and turns her nose up so people don't approach her. That way she doesn't get turned down and get embarrassed.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Thu May 03, 2007 1:34 pm

Confidence has no mask.

Arrogance is a mask of insecurity, jealousy and vanity.