I am miserable

[camelot]

This hasn't been a good week so far. Not at all. First of all, I don't know why I can't just end a relationship and leave it alone...I always have to take it one step further and either **** someone off or hurt their feelings.

For the last 5 months I've been seeing a guy. I wasn't attracted to him even on our very first meeting but he was funny and easy to talk to so I kept going out with him. I thought that in time I might develop an attraction but it never happened. I couldn't have sex with him because he didn't turn me on in the least and I could never get in the mood. Needless to say he became more and more irritated because nothing was happening.

Let me insert here that one of the reasons I wasn't attracted to him is that he is 43 years old and still lives with his mom. He makes good money and he and his mom are both in great health, he just lives with her because he's never been able to break away. When I first found out it didn't bother me too bad, I just figured he was doing it to save money and that was it. The more we went out the worse it got, EVERYTHING was "me and my mom". Me and my mom are going to the beach. Me and my mom went for a long walk today. Me and my mom ate out and had the chocolate volcano for dessert. Then he started calling me ahead on nights we had dates planned to tell me to go ahead and eat because he was going to eat with his mom. One day we went to the park and I asked if he would like to get some lunch. He said "just let me call my mom and tell her to have lunch without me". One night he said he had to leave and I told him to stick around. He said "I told my mom I'd be home by 11". There was also several occasions when we would be talking on the phone and his mom would say "are you watching the time" (meaning he had to go to work) or "you better start getting ready now", or most often "supper's ready".

So let's just say that bothered me but I kept seeing him anyway. I should also add that he did a lot of very nice things for me during the time we were going out.

Anyway I decided about a month ago that I should go ahead and end it, and I attempted to through e-mail. He wrote back and begged me to see him in person and not to just end it through e-mail. So I let him come over and he begged for more time, and I told him that as long as he understood that we were "friends only" and there would be "no sex" that we could continue going out.

He agreed to this but must not have taken it seriously because he continued to push for sex equally as bad afterwards. I finally sent another letter and was a little more firm. This time he got the point and stopped the sex talk, but after that he was no longer fun to be around. He wouldn't come near me, hardly said anything, it just wasn't the same. After that I ended it for good, I told him that it just wasn't working out and it was best to just end it now before there were hard feelings.

This time he agreed and we hadn't talked for a week, but for some reason I guess I felt cheated that I had let the whole thing go by and hadn't complained once about the way he acts over his mother, which was a primary reason it didn't work out. This weekend we had a rainy day, the worst type of day for sitting around causing trouble online, and I ended up writing him a letter and telling him just how much of a mama's boy he is.

I'm sure he was hurt by it and I'm feeling really guilty because he did a lot of nice things for me when we were going out, probably more things in the 5 months we dated than my other boyfriends did for me in years. There's no turning back, the words have been spoken, but I regret it and have learned a lesson from it.

To make bad matters worse, some of you might remember me as the person involved in the lawsuit with Mr. noisy vehicles. Well, over the weekend he found my best friend since jr. high school on myspace (who is very desperate for a date) and sweet talked her into going out with him!!! I am very hurt by it, it makes me look so bad to have my best friend for the last 20 years going out with my arch enemy. The worst part is that he has her convinced he's interested in her, but it's so obvious he's just doing it to get back at me. She doesn't care either way as long as she gets sex.

So that's my week so far. Thanks for listening.

[Patsy Warnick]

Don't worry about your so called friend and her/his relationship - let the out come be the out come..

As Far as this mommys boy - let that realtionship be done..

Patsy

[RedGlitter]

You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

If there's no chemistry you can't make it happen.

I won't fault the guy for anything but I doubt you can make a friendship out of this.

There's someone better to come down the pike.

[nvalleyvee]

Give it up....or try to make it work......

This is your choice.

[Patsy Warnick]

Camelot

this guy the 43 yr old living with his mother - well dear, his mother is his main source of companionship, and always will be - you and no one will be able to compete with that, and you don't want too..

You deserve better - you want & need to be the main focus,as you'd make your companion the main focus. This relationship will not work.. move on

As far as your concern with why one is dating another out of revenge - let them work that out - it doesn't concern you - don't let that suck you into the petty BS.

What is it that you really want? What is it that you really want to know?

Patsy