Dress and behaviour is important!
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Bill Sikes
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Dress and behaviour is important!
Doesn't it make a difference when dealing with people, if you are very smartly dressed, and are nice to them!
Dress and behaviour is important!
Bill Sikes;632412 wrote: Doesn't it make a difference when dealing with people, if you are very smartly dressed, and are nice to them!
I couldn't agree more. I was in Sales & Marketing most of my working career.
I couldn't agree more. I was in Sales & Marketing most of my working career.
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RedGlitter
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Dress and behaviour is important!
Watch me start rambling on this one.
It depends. On the situation, the people and the degree of dress we're talking of.
First, treating people nicely and speaking well to them is always preferable regardless of what you have on.
As for dress, I personally prefer people to look more approachable than formal. Too much fancy dress except for certain events, puts me off a bit. That's one reason why I don't get along with bankers, lawyers, etc; because even though I shouldn't judge them by their clothes, if they're all trussed up and looking like they are somehow better than me, there's a wall that goes up.
I even like my doctors to dress casually because I want to be able to speak candidly to them and feel they're on my side, rather than feel I've been called in by the school principal.
I like nice clothes and I like to look good but I also don't want someone judging me on my dress. I know some will so I dress approachably.
Exceptions to this would include funerals. I know it's stupid but I learned that acceptable colors for funerals were black, gray, navy and purple. And if I'm at a service and see someone in a flowered party dress, I make a mental note of it. Like really, who cares? It's not a fashion show but at the same time, it should require respect for the dead and the bereaved and clothes is one way we do that.
Weddings require dressing up. Parties, some dates, obvious stuff like that.
I feel there are certain instances where a woman should only wear a dress.
Little things stick out in my mind when I consider your question, Bill.
We shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Yet we know we do. I remember being in school and the other kids thinking my family was dirty and poor, not because of my clothes or because I was unclean, but because they would see my dad picking me up and he would have on torn jeans and greasy work boots, a shirt with grease stains or coal dust on it and coal dust all over his face and hair. They didn't know he came straight from work from the auto shop or the coal plant.
When I was first in animal rescue, when we'd work at the kennels or take the dogs out to adoption, I'd have on an oversized t shirt and jeans and sneakers. I thought that was okay for what we were doing and I was always clean, no holes, no stains. A woman who had a little more money than I did and worked with me told me out of the blue one day that if I needed money, she would give me some; that she knew I didn't have a lot. And I could see she was looking at my clothes. I was pretty insulted by it. She on the other hand wore skirts and heels, even to clean the kennels which was ridiculous.
So I guess your dress should be appropriate for the occasion.
And as far as anything else goes, a sincere smile and kindness trumps fancy clothes any time in my book.
:-6
It depends. On the situation, the people and the degree of dress we're talking of.
First, treating people nicely and speaking well to them is always preferable regardless of what you have on.
As for dress, I personally prefer people to look more approachable than formal. Too much fancy dress except for certain events, puts me off a bit. That's one reason why I don't get along with bankers, lawyers, etc; because even though I shouldn't judge them by their clothes, if they're all trussed up and looking like they are somehow better than me, there's a wall that goes up.
I even like my doctors to dress casually because I want to be able to speak candidly to them and feel they're on my side, rather than feel I've been called in by the school principal.
I like nice clothes and I like to look good but I also don't want someone judging me on my dress. I know some will so I dress approachably.
Exceptions to this would include funerals. I know it's stupid but I learned that acceptable colors for funerals were black, gray, navy and purple. And if I'm at a service and see someone in a flowered party dress, I make a mental note of it. Like really, who cares? It's not a fashion show but at the same time, it should require respect for the dead and the bereaved and clothes is one way we do that.
Weddings require dressing up. Parties, some dates, obvious stuff like that.
I feel there are certain instances where a woman should only wear a dress.
Little things stick out in my mind when I consider your question, Bill.
We shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Yet we know we do. I remember being in school and the other kids thinking my family was dirty and poor, not because of my clothes or because I was unclean, but because they would see my dad picking me up and he would have on torn jeans and greasy work boots, a shirt with grease stains or coal dust on it and coal dust all over his face and hair. They didn't know he came straight from work from the auto shop or the coal plant.
When I was first in animal rescue, when we'd work at the kennels or take the dogs out to adoption, I'd have on an oversized t shirt and jeans and sneakers. I thought that was okay for what we were doing and I was always clean, no holes, no stains. A woman who had a little more money than I did and worked with me told me out of the blue one day that if I needed money, she would give me some; that she knew I didn't have a lot. And I could see she was looking at my clothes. I was pretty insulted by it. She on the other hand wore skirts and heels, even to clean the kennels which was ridiculous.
So I guess your dress should be appropriate for the occasion.
And as far as anything else goes, a sincere smile and kindness trumps fancy clothes any time in my book.
:-6
Dress and behaviour is important!
I find that naked works pretty well too 
Just my op :-3
Just my op :-3
Dress and behaviour is important!
RedGlitter;632439 wrote: Watch me start rambling on this one.
It depends. On the situation, the people and the degree of dress we're talking of.
First, treating people nicely and speaking well to them is always preferable regardless of what you have on.
As for dress, I personally prefer people to look more approachable than formal. Too much fancy dress except for certain events, puts me off a bit. That's one reason why I don't get along with bankers, lawyers, etc; because even though I shouldn't judge them by their clothes, if they're all trussed up and looking like they are somehow better than me, there's a wall that goes up.
I even like my doctors to dress casually because I want to be able to speak candidly to them and feel they're on my side, rather than feel I've been called in by the school principal.
I like nice clothes and I like to look good but I also don't want someone judging me on my dress. I know some will so I dress approachably.
Exceptions to this would include funerals. I know it's stupid but I learned that acceptable colors for funerals were black, gray, navy and purple. And if I'm at a service and see someone in a flowered party dress, I make a mental note of it. Like really, who cares? It's not a fashion show but at the same time, it should require respect for the dead and the bereaved and clothes is one way we do that.
Weddings require dressing up. Parties, some dates, obvious stuff like that.
Little things stick out in my mind when I consider your question, Bill.
We shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Yet we know we do. I remember being in school and the other kids thinking my family was dirty and poor, not because of my clothes or because I was unclean, but because they would see my dad picking me up and he would have on torn jeans and greasy work boots, a shirt with grease stains or coal dust on it and coal dust all over his face and hair. They didn't know he came straight from work from the auto shop or the coal plant.
When I was first in animal rescue, when we'd work at the kennels or take the dogs out to adoption, I'd have on an oversized t shirt and jeans and sneakers. I thought that was okay for what we were doing and I was always clean, no holes, no stains. A woman who had a little more money than I did and worked with me told me out of the blue one day that if I needed money, she would give me some; that she knew I didn't have a lot. And I could see she was looking at my clothes. I was pretty insulted by it. She on the other hand wore skirts and heels, even to clean the kennels which was ridiculous.
So I guess your dress should be appropriate for the occasion.
And as far as anything else goes, a sincere smile and kindness trumps fancy clothes any time in my book.
:-6
By Smartly Dressed I don't believe Bill was talking about Formality. Neat, tidy, well groomed. You can be smartly dressed wearing jeans, as long as they are not full of holes at the kness and rump. Correct me if that's not what you mean't Bill.
It depends. On the situation, the people and the degree of dress we're talking of.
First, treating people nicely and speaking well to them is always preferable regardless of what you have on.
As for dress, I personally prefer people to look more approachable than formal. Too much fancy dress except for certain events, puts me off a bit. That's one reason why I don't get along with bankers, lawyers, etc; because even though I shouldn't judge them by their clothes, if they're all trussed up and looking like they are somehow better than me, there's a wall that goes up.
I even like my doctors to dress casually because I want to be able to speak candidly to them and feel they're on my side, rather than feel I've been called in by the school principal.
I like nice clothes and I like to look good but I also don't want someone judging me on my dress. I know some will so I dress approachably.
Exceptions to this would include funerals. I know it's stupid but I learned that acceptable colors for funerals were black, gray, navy and purple. And if I'm at a service and see someone in a flowered party dress, I make a mental note of it. Like really, who cares? It's not a fashion show but at the same time, it should require respect for the dead and the bereaved and clothes is one way we do that.
Weddings require dressing up. Parties, some dates, obvious stuff like that.
Little things stick out in my mind when I consider your question, Bill.
We shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Yet we know we do. I remember being in school and the other kids thinking my family was dirty and poor, not because of my clothes or because I was unclean, but because they would see my dad picking me up and he would have on torn jeans and greasy work boots, a shirt with grease stains or coal dust on it and coal dust all over his face and hair. They didn't know he came straight from work from the auto shop or the coal plant.
When I was first in animal rescue, when we'd work at the kennels or take the dogs out to adoption, I'd have on an oversized t shirt and jeans and sneakers. I thought that was okay for what we were doing and I was always clean, no holes, no stains. A woman who had a little more money than I did and worked with me told me out of the blue one day that if I needed money, she would give me some; that she knew I didn't have a lot. And I could see she was looking at my clothes. I was pretty insulted by it. She on the other hand wore skirts and heels, even to clean the kennels which was ridiculous.
So I guess your dress should be appropriate for the occasion.
And as far as anything else goes, a sincere smile and kindness trumps fancy clothes any time in my book.
:-6
By Smartly Dressed I don't believe Bill was talking about Formality. Neat, tidy, well groomed. You can be smartly dressed wearing jeans, as long as they are not full of holes at the kness and rump. Correct me if that's not what you mean't Bill.
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RedGlitter
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Dress and behaviour is important!
Lon;632443 wrote: By Smartly Dressed I don't believe Bill was talking about Formality. Neat, tidy, well groomed. You can be smartly dressed wearing jeans, as long as they are not full of holes at the kness and rump. Correct me if that's not what you mean't Bill.
I'm used to smartly dressed meaning formal.
Otherwise, it would be neatly dressed, which is no holes, stains, etc.
Maybe it's a regional thing.
I'm used to smartly dressed meaning formal.
Otherwise, it would be neatly dressed, which is no holes, stains, etc.
Maybe it's a regional thing.
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DelicateDominatrix
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Dress and behaviour is important!
It helps for sure,but I think it depends on the situation.
However in my experiences people who are poorly dressed,probably cause thats what they can affored or just a down day, aren't taken as seriously.
However in my experiences people who are poorly dressed,probably cause thats what they can affored or just a down day, aren't taken as seriously.
Dress and behaviour is important!
In my 72 years I have seen a tremendous amount of change in what people wear at different functions. Wasn't too long ago that men wore jackets and ties to a wedding or funeral and women wore dresses or at least pant slacks. Not today. San Francisco (my town) and other big cities, it was required that at most of the better eateries, a tie and jacket was required (they had a suppy on hand). San Francisco women would not be caught dead in the shopping area without gloves, heels and bag. There are a few holdouts, but most allow you in with a long sleved shirt. Other than the Dot Com companies, most businesses in the financial arena still go with the suit, tie and wing tips. I have no problem with being casual, I do have a probem with slovenly attire, of which there is an abundance today. Just check out your local mall.
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RedGlitter
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Dress and behaviour is important!
Lon;632513 wrote: In my 72 years I have seen a tremendous amount of change in what people wear at different functions. Wasn't too long ago that men wore jackets and ties to a wedding or funeral and women wore dresses or at least pant slacks. Not today. San Francisco (my town) and other big cities, it was required that at most of the better eateries, a tie and jacket was required (they had a suppy on hand). San Francisco women would not be caught dead in the shopping area without gloves, heels and bag. There are a few holdouts, but most allow you in with a long sleved shirt. Other than the Dot Com companies, most businesses in the financial arena still go with the suit, tie and wing tips. I have no problem with being casual, I do have a probem with slovenly attire, of which there is an abundance today. Just check out your local mall.
True that.
I'm going there tonight and I'll see the very people you're talking about.
Orange County Choppers black tshirt with some bleach stains, some baggy jeans 4 sizes too big, 3 foot wallet chain and rubber flip flops with the heel broken off one. Dragging 6 kids, on welfare, buying WIC-approved cheese.
They swarm all over out here.
True that.
I'm going there tonight and I'll see the very people you're talking about.
Orange County Choppers black tshirt with some bleach stains, some baggy jeans 4 sizes too big, 3 foot wallet chain and rubber flip flops with the heel broken off one. Dragging 6 kids, on welfare, buying WIC-approved cheese.
They swarm all over out here.
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Patsy Warnick
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Dress and behaviour is important!
Being smartly dressed to me is - being sharp
I enjoy dressing sharp - not formal, just sharp, color cooridinating. I enjoy having my purse match what I'm wearing, along with my jewlery & shoes.
I have jeans - don't care to wear them, anyone can wear jeans.
How your treated , from common curtosity to someone flirting with you will depend on how one is dressed. I have tested that myself.. What you wear -It depends on what you want to flirt with you - singles out there, brake your cycle of the hum drum losers - dress smart.
The world attire is so casual and sloppy as far as I'm concerned - very sloppy, to me means Lazy. So if one is lazy on the outside - they're probably lazy on the inside.
Patsy
I enjoy dressing sharp - not formal, just sharp, color cooridinating. I enjoy having my purse match what I'm wearing, along with my jewlery & shoes.
I have jeans - don't care to wear them, anyone can wear jeans.
How your treated , from common curtosity to someone flirting with you will depend on how one is dressed. I have tested that myself.. What you wear -It depends on what you want to flirt with you - singles out there, brake your cycle of the hum drum losers - dress smart.
The world attire is so casual and sloppy as far as I'm concerned - very sloppy, to me means Lazy. So if one is lazy on the outside - they're probably lazy on the inside.
Patsy
Dress and behaviour is important!
Bill Sikes;632412 wrote: Doesn't it make a difference when dealing with people, if you are very smartly dressed, and are nice to them!
I suit on a suit for work. In private life clothes are clean of not always smart, one of my pet hates is dressing up to go out and I really resent the odd occasion when a dinner suit is required.
People judge you by what you wear whether you like it or not but it depends on the context. In my work context being smartly dressed is part of the work wear ethic required, no more no less. It would be an insult to turn up looking like a scruff-as if it wasn't worth the effort. But if I'm meeting a builder during work hours I wouldn't expect him to be wearing a suit especially if on site. On the other hand if i wasn't in one-see above.
On the other hand if I was meeting people in a situation where they weren't at work it is foolish to make judgements. Car salesman or furniture salespeople for example would be making a big mistake to assume someone entering the showroom dressed like a scruff wasn't a serious buyer-who gets dressed up to go shopping?
I suit on a suit for work. In private life clothes are clean of not always smart, one of my pet hates is dressing up to go out and I really resent the odd occasion when a dinner suit is required.
People judge you by what you wear whether you like it or not but it depends on the context. In my work context being smartly dressed is part of the work wear ethic required, no more no less. It would be an insult to turn up looking like a scruff-as if it wasn't worth the effort. But if I'm meeting a builder during work hours I wouldn't expect him to be wearing a suit especially if on site. On the other hand if i wasn't in one-see above.
On the other hand if I was meeting people in a situation where they weren't at work it is foolish to make judgements. Car salesman or furniture salespeople for example would be making a big mistake to assume someone entering the showroom dressed like a scruff wasn't a serious buyer-who gets dressed up to go shopping?
Dress and behaviour is important!
My x husband is in shipping, he's met many rich & famous people, they are usually dressed very scruffy, they dont have to impress anyone. The wanna be rich are always immaculate dressed & well presented.