How do men avoid drama?

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:36 am

I was discussing drama with a friend this morning. Women are always caught up in drama! There is drama at the workplace, among friends, and even on the internet. How is it that men avoid drama?

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:42 am

hotsauce wrote: I was discussing drama with a friend this morning. Women are always caught up in drama! There is drama at the workplace, among friends, and even on the internet. How is it that men avoid drama?Probably because they are often the cause of it!

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:45 am

lol

that could be it abbey! :wah:

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:47 am

canaan wrote: :wah: I notice that in forums. Seems like women are usually the ones who have issues with each other. Men just sit back and watch the cat fight. When men don't care for each other..they just cuss each other out and are over it the next day. Same way in RL. I try to avoid drama when I can...unless someone is messing with my family...then it's on. But other than that I make a point to stay away from anyone who is always looking for something to complain about. Venting is ok...but when the dog is dead you should stop kicking it.so why when we cuss each other out does it get worse?

or is it that we don't cuss enough?

cars · Post by **cars** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:52 am

abbey wrote: Probably because they are often the cause of it!

HEY, We "resemble" that remark!!! :wah:

Most women actually "listen" to what the other one is saying. Where as guys are usually being distracted by one thing or another, and miss half of what's said!

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:56 am

canaan wrote: maybe...but men say ugly things to each other too. They just don't feel the need to discuss how the other one offended them....they don't really seem to care at all. Or maybe they just have shorter attention spans?
short attention spans! i think that might be it!! so a blonde walks by and they forget they were mad at the guy?

smithy87 · Post by **smithy87** » Tue May 10, 2005 8:59 am

cars wrote: HEY, We "resemble" that remark!!! :wah:

Most women actually "listen" to what the other one is saying. Where as guys are usually being distracted by one thing or another, and miss half of what's said!

Men definately miss more because they don't listen. Its because women can multitask - i.e Earwig in 3 conversations and know the up to date gossip on anything and everyone while men can only concentrate on one thing at once.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Tue May 10, 2005 9:31 am

I agree, most men stay out of the drama. But some get into it if they feel passionatly about something. I've watched as one man at this forum was in a heated thread for awhile. Maybe it just depends on the subject in question.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue May 10, 2005 9:40 am

look at this thread only one male responded, the rest is us chatty hens hehehehe I think it is because we like to chat, bicker, nag etc. We are naturals when it comes to conversation and yes likely enjoy haveing the last word, we always seem to have something to say hehehe

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:06 am

Men are trained from birth to be stoic and unemotional. Just look at the rules of the playground, it's OK for girls to cry, but boys don't cry.

Guys don't seem to carry a grudge as much either, for example, I had two boys that were fighting earlier this year, the other day I asked one, "How's it going with the other guy?" He replied, "Huh? Oh, I don't talk to him anymore and he' s over it too."

I had two girls fighting all year long. I asked one, "What's this about?" She replied, "She called me a B**ch in the fourth grade!" :wah:

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:08 am

devist8me wrote: But some get into it if they feel passionatly about something. I've watched as one man at this forum was in a heated thread for awhile. .

True, men get dramatic about their passions.

(Yeah...I'll bet she was talking about me. Jives walks off muttering with his hands in his pockets.)

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:09 am

Jives wrote:

I had two girls fighting all year long. I asked one, "What's this about?" She replied, "She called me a B**ch in the fourth grade!" :wah:
ok, I can relate to this one! I still hold a grudge against those wenches in high school!!!!

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:11 am

flopstock wrote: men avoid drama by hitting something, anything, doesn't matter.

True, when I get really really upset, I get quiet until I get home, then I go out back and split logs with a sledgehammer!

Also, I should point out that often jobs themselves, train men to be unemotional. When I was a fighter pilot, we were specifically trained to get calm in emergencies. After all, a screaming, feaking-out fighter pilot isn't a very good idea!

The worse the emergency, the calmer I get. (It drives Mrs. Ives crazy):D

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:23 am

flopstock wrote:

women cry and then every time they look at their eyes for the next 6 to 8 hours they are reminded that someone hurt their feelings. brings it all back.

:D

too true! :wah:

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:35 am

Men are more reasonable about drama, try to not get entangled in it, and forget about bringing it home. I wish I could that...............

*sigh, watching hubby too busy watching TV to listen to the latest drama*

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Tue May 10, 2005 10:55 am

canaan wrote: . I have never heard a child who exaggerated events as much as she does. She even has the head wagging, three snaps and a hand....movement down.
ROFLMAO

john8pies · Post by **john8pies** » Wed May 11, 2005 7:07 am

Seriously, possibly because what IS a drama to women, isn`t always a drama to men. As an example, my wife constantly worries about what might happen in the future with regard pension, money, etc. I honestly have a lot of thoughts and worries, too, but can`t get over-excited about something that may or may not happen, we just don`t know, so perhaps I seem to not be making a drama about it.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Wed May 11, 2005 7:21 am

My husband avoids drama by not talking about it (whatever "it" may be at the time). If you don't talk about it, you can't argue about it, therefore it doesn't exist.

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Wed May 11, 2005 7:59 am

I think us girls have a longer attention span, i never forget and allways try to get even.Most men only worrie when they have lost the remote control ...now that is a crisis in my house, i have the original cave man likes to think hes boss but we all know don`t we girls we decide when an how and how often i must admit i thrive on drama his lordship will just agree then forget also men don`t see mess they just make lots of it .sarah janexx

jpcme · Post by **jpcme** » Wed May 11, 2005 9:06 am

I do not avoid drama I just ignore it.

Works for me.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed May 11, 2005 12:08 pm

pantsonfire321@aol.com wrote: I think us girls have a longer attention span, i never forget and allways try to get even.Most men only worrie when they have lost the remote control ...now that is a crisis in my house, i have the original cave man likes to think hes boss but we all know don`t we girls we decide when an how and how often i must admit i thrive on drama his lordship will just agree then forget also men don`t see mess they just make lots of it .sarah janexxAH but yer luv ya caveman doncha SJ?

Bless him!:driving:

BTS · Post by **BTS** » Wed May 11, 2005 1:41 pm

hotsauce wrote: short attention spans! i think that might be it!! so a blonde walks by and they forget they were mad at the guy?
hotshot:

this should prove your point I think:

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Wed May 11, 2005 5:30 pm

exactly!

now who could stay mad with that around (from a guy's perspective).

something tells me that may not stay there long?

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Wed May 11, 2005 11:06 pm

hotsauce wrote: I was discussing drama with a friend this morning. Women are always caught up in drama! There is drama at the workplace, among friends, and even on the internet. How is it that men avoid drama?

You must be joking - look at BTS :wah: