Would you want a virgin?

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:09 am

The virgin for 10 grand thread got me thinking. If i was on the lookout for a lover just now would i want him to be a virgin? The answer is no.

What say the rest of you, would you want one or not?

maccat · Post by **maccat** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:12 am

How the hell that girl is still a virgin with morals like that is beyond me. I'd be highly suspicious of her previous sexual encounters.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:14 am

buttercup;653807 wrote: The virgin for 10 grand thread got me thinking. If i was on the lookout for a lover just now would i want him to be a virgin? The answer is no.

What say the rest of you, would you want one or not?

Just think how well we could train them BC

:wah:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:14 am

What is a virgin???:wah: :wah: :wah:

Answer is NO

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:15 am

couldent be bothered with that betty :wah: I'd rather he knew what he was doing or had some idea :-6

babygirl · Post by **babygirl** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:27 am

my answer to this is NO NO NO NO it would be over and done with before i could get my clothes off lol :wah:

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:29 am

I'd prefer she knew how to make me crawl the walls in delight. You can't teach that though; it is a gift. Sex isn't that important anyways; not to the relationship. I prefer she knew how to keep up in a conversation. I'm going to stop now before I tell too many things. To answer the question; it isn't something I would use as a determining factor in the choice.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:08 am

By the way you presented that Buttercup, I am presuming you mean just looking for a good time and not necessarily a serious romance with someone I could love and care about the way I normally would want to?

If that's what you meant then no. I wouldn't want someone inexperienced. There's some kind of turn-on in knowing they have a past. There's some mystery there. Mystery is good.

If I were back in my 20s I would probably feel a lot differently but at my age I'd truthfully be thinking "why haven't you ever...?" That sounds bad I know, but that's the truth.

But in an actual relationship, I still would prefer someone experienced in all honesty but yet I would not base that person's worth or desirability or his chances with me on such a thing because love would be involved and that trumps all.

Singh-Song · Post by **Singh-Song** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:16 am

Er- Yeah? All of you lot, sex doesn't mean anything for you. For a virgin, it might be shorter, but it's a hell of a lot more intense. It's like recreational drugs, if it's just casual use, the kick fades away so quickly- after a while you don't even get any real enjoyment out of it, you're just doing it for the sake of it. I'm a twenty-year old man, I'm a virgin, and I want my first time to have the same significance to both parties.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:22 am

Virgin, Cancer, Leo, Taurus. Doesn't matter to me as long as they are willing.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:26 am

Singh-Song;653882 wrote: Er- Yeah? All of you lot, sex doesn't mean anything for you. For a virgin, it might be shorter, but it's a hell of a lot more intense. It's like recreational drugs, if it's just casual use, the kick fades away so quickly- after a while you don't even get any real enjoyment out of it, you're just doing it for the sake of it. I'm a twenty-year old man, I'm a virgin, and I want my first time to have the same significance to both parties.

Sex doesn't mean anything to us? Doing it for the sake of doing it? And you would know this how?

Don't be so presumptuous. While I can respect your sentiment about significance, you're laughably off the mark in the rest.

Singh-Song · Post by **Singh-Song** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:52 am

'Without being offensive to Singh, how can you comment on something you have no experience of?'

I haven't had sex yet because I believe I should only go past that stage in a relationship when I'm sure it'll be the only one I'll ever have. If I'm not my girlfriend's first time- who was the first? Why did they break up? How likely is our relationship to last through thick and thin if one involving her has already split apart? It just brings up so many different questions, so many suspicions- I just don't want that. And secondly, if this is supposed to be a balanced debate, then the mere fact that I'm the only person in the thread who hasn't had sexual experience should be enough to justify posting my own opinion on the topic.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 11:01 am

Singh-Song;653923 wrote: 'Without being offensive to Singh, how can you comment on something you have no experience of?'

I haven't had sex yet because I believe I should only go past that stage in a relationship when I'm sure it'll be the only one I'll ever have. If I'm not my girlfriend's first time- who was the first? Why did they break up? How likely is our relationship to last through thick and thin if one involving her has already split apart? It just brings up so many different questions, so many suspicions- I just don't want that. And secondly, if this is supposed to be a balanced debate, then the mere fact that I'm the only person in the thread who hasn't had sexual experience should be enough to justify posting my own opinion on the topic.

Singh, you have every right to post your opinion. I responded the way I did because you sounded presumptuous quite frankly and I didn't like that. It's one thing to hold the opinions you do (which are fine if they're for you) and another thing to instruct everyone else with the voice of not knowing. Do you see?

As for that other stuff, I would never be so obnoxious as to tell you what you should believe but all I would say is that if you love and care for the person, that stuff works itself out. It's not as if the first time with someone will keep you permanently glued together if it's not meant to be or all the proper elements aren't there. But I realize you didn't ask, so I'm off my soapbox now.

maccat · Post by **maccat** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 11:23 am

The problem with virgins is their only a virgin once.

Singh-Song · Post by **Singh-Song** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 11:46 am

It's wonderful that you have such an idealistic view of life, but for many people, nothing lasts forever. People change, priorities change. There are no guarantees of permanency, so quite a few of us have had a few relationships. I'm sure all of us were convinced at one point that we'd be with a few of them forever, you tend to think that when you're young. We're all fed the ideals, the happy-ever-after stuff that society used to expect. If you absolutely wanted to wait for the person you will end your days with, you could be waiting until you're a very old man!

Actually, If you look at the INDIAN community, then the break-up rate is less than a fifth of the average over here- Which itself is less than half the rate you have in the states. Every close member of my family- OUTSIDE THE USA, has only ever engaged in one relationship, a relationship they're still happily in today. Every new generation of adults goes through a rebellious phase, but only the ones who are still children throw away all their ideals just because they've been given the choice. I could be waiting until I'm a very old man. Hell, I could die a virgin with these kinds of standards. But the standards are what make me who I am...

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 11:50 am

Singh-Song;653923 wrote: I haven't had sex yet because I believe [snip]

Good for you, I hope you find what you are looking for. IMO "sex" isn't the most important thing in a relationship, and I must say that I tend to think that those who do think it is must lack something.