Trouble when couple's that are friends split up

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 8:46 am

You know the type

Always big drama's, dirty washing hung out for all to see. I hate it. The one that really gets me is the (friends pick your side scenario) that the couple try to deny they do :rolleyes:

Have you ever been caught up in this? How did you handle staying friends with both or were you put in a position that you felt you could only be friends with one? Do you miss the other/wonder how they are? Have you managed to stay friends with both & if so how do you react when the husband/wife talks about the other in front of you?

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 8:56 am

i bet they are fighting over who gets butter cups friendship :-6

she is saying no you be friends with her ,he is saying no you be friends with her :wah: :wah:

just kidding bc ,just try and stay in the middle ,you know as soon as you say one word about the other ,they are gona say buttercup said this buttercup thinks its your fault :rolleyes:

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:24 am

Never had it happen, and if I did whoever told me to make a choice between the friendships would for sure be the loser.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:28 am

Most of my friends were fed such a load of bill5hit about me by my mendacious ex that I didn't stay in touch with them. I couldn't be bothered to defend myself because in my experience, people tend to believe the first version they hear. It led to a reclusive life for a few years but I've slowly resurfaced and made new friends including some folks here.

It all depends if you are close to the couple or one in particular. If it's both you should just stay friends with both but let them know you're not taking sides. I've done that successfully with a couple who were my best friends. If you have a good friend and are just polite to the partner, stick with the good friend.

Joe · Post by **Joe** » Thu Jul 05, 2007 9:55 am

It's hard when married friends split up & you are friends with both of them & want to stay that way. What can you say to them when you want them both to be happy? I wish I knew.

laneybug · Post by **laneybug** » Fri Jul 13, 2007 2:57 pm

If I were in that situation I would tell both of them that their divorce or break up has absolutely nothing to do with my friendship with either of them. I'd try to stay neutral when either one started talking about the other, and let them know that it puts me in an awkward situation. If either one continued to tell me to "pick a side" I'd exit the situation altogether and tell them to come find me when they've ended their petty little battle.

If it makes you uncomfortable to be around either of them, then don't be, as long as you make it clear that you're not picking sides and it has nothing to do with you. A true friend wouldn't want to put you in a bad situation anyway, so I'd think about that, too.

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Jul 13, 2007 3:11 pm

the best advice lie

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Jul 13, 2007 3:21 pm

be friends with the one that has the biggest boobs :sneaky:

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Jul 13, 2007 3:22 pm

jimbo;660459 wrote: be friends with the one that has the biggest boobs :sneaky:

i agree

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Fri Jul 13, 2007 3:25 pm

el guapo;660461 wrote: i agree

men