It's all just a drama we create around ourselves

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:30 am

Anger should only last FOUR minutes, any more than that is a temper tantrum and self indulgence.

Remember this little ditty

'No one can make us feel any emotion that we don't already have inside ourselves'

Every human being should be owning thier own emotions and feelings and dealing with them, not projecting them out onto others. Remember what you give out you get right back at ya!

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:42 am

i agree with you betty ..very wise words indeed...

besides..i am a guppy..not a puffer...:p

theia · Post by **theia** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:46 am

Betty Boop;667562 wrote: Anger should only last FOUR minutes, any more than that is a temper tantrum and self indulgence.

Remember this little ditty

'No one can make us feel any emotion that we don't already have inside ourselves'

Every human being should be owning thier own emotions and feelings and dealing with them, not projecting them out onto others. Remember what you give out you get right back at ya!

Excellent post, Betty, and oh, so true. I find myself blaming the world and its wife for my problems and just end up going around in circles...I get nowhere.

I suppose we can never really know how another person sees their world and why they do what they do...so our judgments and criticisms of them are partial and quite worthless, and merely reflect our own world? (Don't remind me about that next time I go off on one about someone :wah:)

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 2:46 am

boop i think your great but i totally dont agree

so if someone comes up and smashes my big toe with a hammer then the pain was all ready in me and its my fault for hurting :wah:

buddy if someone goes out of their way to tell lies about you and p1zz you off i think they put the rage inside you ,as i sure never had it before :wah:

and once i'd raged i sure dont have it now :wah::-6

Lasgo · Post by **Lasgo** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 3:17 am

i agree with you there jimbo about people who take the p*** out of you, i've felt like that recently.

when it comes to your partners though you shouldn't go to bed on an arguement you should settle it before hand

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 3:41 am

Betty Boop;667562 wrote: Anger should only last FOUR minutes, any more than that is a temper tantrum and self indulgence.

Remember this little ditty

'No one can make us feel any emotion that we don't already have inside ourselves'

Every human being should be owning thier own emotions and feelings and dealing with them, not projecting them out onto others. Remember what you give out you get right back at ya!

Excellent! :yh_clap

People forget that how we react depends on who it was that did something to us. F'rinstance, hot coffee dumped in the lap is painful (pain is not an emotion), but if a child accidently tipped the cup while bringing it to you, your reaction would be very different than if it were some person you already didn't like dumping the cup on purpose. We always decide how to act and react (compulsion disorders excepted).

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:46 am

great post boo :-6:-6

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:44 am

theia;667579 wrote: Excellent post, Betty, and oh, so true. I find myself blaming the world and its wife for my problems and just end up going around in circles...I get nowhere.

I suppose we can never really know how another person sees their world and why they do what they do...so our judgments and criticisms of them are partial and quite worthless, and merely reflect our own world? (Don't remind me about that next time I go off on one about someone :wah:)

:sneaky: I'll try not to! That reminds me, its about time for you to visit me! :p

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:52 am

jimbo;667580 wrote: boop i think your great but i totally dont agree

so if someone comes up and smashes my big toe with a hammer then the pain was all ready in me and its my fault for hurting :wah:

buddy if someone goes out of their way to tell lies about you and p1zz you off i think they put the rage inside you ,as i sure never had it before :wah:

and once i'd raged i sure dont have it now :wah::-6

See that puzzles me, why say that before telling me you don't agree, is that to make sure you don't hurt my feelings? No worries I can cope with people having different views.

I'm pleased to say that I have never been in a situation where somebody has approached me with a hammer and smashed my big toe with it lol

Damn the man for using up all the smilies (imagine banging head smilie here)

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:56 am

Accountable;667608 wrote: Excellent! :yh_clap

People forget that how we react depends on who it was that did something to us. F'rinstance, hot coffee dumped in the lap is painful (pain is not an emotion), but if a child accidently tipped the cup while bringing it to you, your reaction would be very different than if it were some person you already didn't like dumping the cup on purpose. We always decide how to act and react (compulsion disorders excepted).

Yup I agree with all that AC, apart from the 'compulsion disorders excepted', so are people with this condition not in control?

In all reality until they are ready to regain that control they will not get better, surely??

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 7:49 am

Betty Boop;667562 wrote: Anger should only last FOUR minutes, any more than that is a temper tantrum and self indulgence.

Remember this little ditty

'No one can make us feel any emotion that we don't already have inside ourselves'

Every human being should be owning thier own emotions and feelings and dealing with them, not projecting them out onto others. Remember what you give out you get right back at ya!

You got it Boops, yep we control our own emotions and should not blame others for how we feel, cause it's up to us to gauge that. Others influence us but it is up to us to handle it as best as we can.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:04 am

When the crap hits the fan, I always try to get upwind as soon as possible. When the crap hits my fan, I grab a hose and rid myself of the smell.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:12 am

YZGI;667779 wrote: When the crap hits the fan, I always try to get upwind as soon as possible. When the crap hits my fan, I grab a hose and rid myself of the smell.

Brilliant.

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:13 am

I discharge anger as soon as poss.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:16 am

SlipStream;667783 wrote: I discharge anger as soon as poss.

I try to do that as well, that is excellent advice.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:26 am

minks;667782 wrote: Brilliant.
Shouldn't there have been some exclamation points after hat?:wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:34 am

YZGI;667794 wrote: Shouldn't there have been some exclamation points after hat?:wah:

i had thought of this face...

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:46 pm

Betty Boop;667722 wrote: Yup I agree with all that AC, apart from the 'compulsion disorders excepted', so are people with this condition not in control?

In all reality until they are ready to regain that control they will not get better, surely??
I'm no expert, but as I understand it, some people can't maintain control without drugs.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:50 pm

Betty Boop;667562 wrote: Anger should only last FOUR minutes, any more than that is a temper tantrum and self indulgence.

Remember this little ditty

'No one can make us feel any emotion that we don't already have inside ourselves'

Every human being should be owning thier own emotions and feelings and dealing with them, not projecting them out onto others. Remember what you give out you get right back at ya!

This is such crap ! What a bunch of baloney. Why I never !!! If you werent a girl....

Why I outta !

*#!@* !!!

You take that back !

I quit, you wont have me to kick around anymore.

This is the last time you will ever talk to me like that again Miss Boopy !

Im off to kick the dog.

God !

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:53 pm

Nomad;668094 wrote: This is such crap ! What a bunch of baloney. Why I never !!! If you werent a girl....

Why I outta !

*#!@* !!!

You take that back !

I quit, you wont have me to kick around anymore.

This is the last time you will ever talk to me like that again Miss Boopy !

Im off to kick the dog.

God !
Erm Nomie..........You dont have a dog! :-3

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:58 pm

abbey;668096 wrote: Erm Nomie..........You dont have a dog! :-3

Oh that is just great ! !*#*!@*!!!:-5

Ali. · Post by **Ali.** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 1:24 am

Hold ur breath ..................count to 10.20,30,oh bugger it count to a hundres and phooooofff anger gone.lol (not):D:D:D:D

Post by **Betty Boop** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 1:35 am

Accountable;668090 wrote: I'm no expert, but as I understand it, some people can't maintain control without drugs.

My take on it is this AC, the emotions they didn't let go of in the first place are what causes the illness, people haven't done this sort of thing to themselves on purpose, they are totally unaware that by not allowing themselves to feel feelings they will end up ill.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Thu Jul 26, 2007 1:40 am

Nomad;668094 wrote: This is such crap ! What a bunch of baloney. Why I never !!! If you werent a girl....

Why I outta !

*#!@* !!!

You take that back !

I quit, you wont have me to kick around anymore.

This is the last time you will ever talk to me like that again Miss Boopy !

Im off to kick the dog.

God !

Oh dear Nomad stop having a tantrum, I only ever kick you for four minutes at a time :wah:

I will book you some more couch time when I get back from London, you so obviously need it!

:-4