I can no longer

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:15 am

say this to a co-worker, "I think you are stable and mature". It is considered ageism. I can tell someone I like their shirt, but I can not mention their pants for fear of harassment charges. People and their you can and can't says irritate the hell out of me.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:26 am

KB.;677390 wrote: say this to a co-worker, "I think you are stable and mature". It is considered ageism. I can tell someone I like their shirt, but I can not mention their pants for fear of harassment charges. People and their you can and can't says irritate the hell out of me.

everything has gone crazy budy .... i like your shirt by the way

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:27 am

jimbo;677397 wrote: everything has gone crazy budy .... i like your shirt by the way

Thanks, I like your...socks.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:19 am

KB.;677390 wrote: say this to a co-worker, "I think you are stable and mature". It is considered ageism. I can tell someone I like their shirt, but I can not mention their pants for fear of harassment charges. People and their you can and can't says irritate the hell out of me.

Ageism?! That's stupid! PC creates imbeciles, IMO. I ignore it.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:40 am

RedGlitter;677456 wrote: Ageism?! That's stupid! PC creates imbeciles, IMO. I ignore it.
Yes but ignoring it in the workplace could cost you yout job.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:42 am

YZGI;677460 wrote: Yes but ignoring it in the workplace could cost you yout job.

True. That's why you have to work around it.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:45 am

RedGlitter;677461 wrote: True. That's why you have to work around it.
Then you are not ignoring it.:wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:06 pm

YZGI;677463 wrote: Then you are not ignoring it.:wah:

:wah::wah:

red just give up on him ,when he is on form like this there is no beating the old fart ...oops ignore that :wah:

dubs · Post by **dubs** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:18 pm

jimbo;677468 wrote: :wah::wah:

red just give up on him ,when he is on form like this there is no beating the old fart ...oops ignore that :wah:

Very stable and mature Jimbo.....DOH!...

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:20 pm

dubs;677474 wrote: Very stable and mature Jimbo.....DOH!...

nice shoes :wah::wah:

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:21 pm

What part of stable and mature is considered ageism? I have met some very stable and mature 25 year olds. And have seen their exact opposite who were in their 50s and 60s

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:25 pm

Marie5656;677477 wrote: What part of stable and mature is considered ageism? I have met some very stable and mature 25 year olds. And have seen their exact opposite who were in their 50s and 60s

Me too Marie, someone not to far from me could be described like that :rolleyes::rolleyes:

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:33 pm

I can remember back before I met my husband, I was looking for a housemate to help me meet expenses. I was in my mid 40's and prefered a female who was my age or older. I was not allowed to say that in the ad, though, as it could be considered discrimination. So I was told I had to as for someone who was "mature". So, I was forced to wade through calls from kids saying "I am 20, but I am VERY mature." I felt I was wasting my time and their as I had no intention of even inviting them to live in my home, so why should I interview them?

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:37 pm

SuzyB;677480 wrote: Me too Marie, someone not to far from me could be described like that :rolleyes::rolleyes:

ok i'm having my 2nd childhood whilst my first one is still going strong :p:D

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:42 pm

jimbo;677495 wrote: ok i'm having my 2nd childhood whilst my first one is still going strong :p:D

It's one of the things I love about you :-4

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:45 pm

SuzyB;677502 wrote: It's one of the things I love about you :-4

i'm barfing...

seriously...

its all over the place.

gross.

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:47 pm

Soooooooooooooooory KB

Your thread got derailed again.

I'll give you a cookie when I come spend the night at Beffie's on Tues. I promise not to make ANY comments about the state of your pants... strictly shirt compliments & maybe shoes.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:51 pm

'[love wrote: light;677504']i'm barfing...

seriously...

its all over the place.

gross.

Just trying to sweet talk him :sneaky::D

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:53 pm

SuzyB;677507 wrote: Just trying to sweet talk him :sneaky::D

go on wit ur bad self, then. get u sum diamonds & chocolate.

((although, from what I gather, he'd give or do anything for ya))

::rech::

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 12:56 pm

'[love wrote: light;677509']go on wit ur bad self, then. get u sum diamonds & chocolate.

((although, from what I gather, he'd give or do anything for ya))

::rech::

Thats why I stick around :-6

cars · Post by **cars** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 1:01 pm

KB.;677390 wrote: say this to a co-worker, "I think you are stable and mature". It is considered ageism. I can tell someone I like their shirt, but I can not mention their pants for fear of harassment charges. People and their you can and can't says irritate the hell out of me.

Ah yes KB, the ol Harrassment hassle!!! I used to be in a mgmt position in a large Govt contracts company. And "they" were overly sensitive to there ever even being a hint of harrassment charges within their personnel! As the Govt was strict on harrassment, and if harrassment was found, they could withdraw contracts at their discretion. So every 6 or so months, myself and the rest of the mgrs had to attend a Harrassment avoidance training seminar! Every seminar seems to have a "new" list of added on no- no's that we had learn, and then in turn hold meetings with our respective depts and train our subordinates.

(It was, and is a never ending living list!!!)

DelicateDominatrix · Post by **DelicateDominatrix** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 7:04 pm

I had a co-worker make a comment about my butt, as it being bent over to pick up something.. Let me tell you,, if he says anything remote close to that again i'll kick his a$$.

So I agree there are somethings you cant say out of fear.Some you should be ale to out of a friendship compliment.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:12 pm

DelicateDominatrix;677623 wrote: I had a co-worker make a comment about my butt, as it being bent over to pick up something.. Let me tell you,, if he says anything remote close to that again i'll kick his a$$.

So I agree there are somethings you cant say out of fear.Some you should be ale to out of a friendship compliment.

Me telling the litle 18 year old girl up fron I like her legs, and would like them even more wrapped around my neck is harassment, even if she would gigle and tell me thank you. I wouldn't do it.

Me telling one of my guys that works in my department that I think he is a stable and mature man because at 26 he manages to work 12-14 hours a day, morning with a company that manages medical and other needs for the homeless, then comes and sells televisions and does any thing I ask of him without question, and is a good man to his girlfriend; that isn't harassment. Its stupidity. It is sad that rules like that have to be implemented because of the fear that someone will sue.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:18 pm

KB.;677685 wrote: Me telling the litle 18 year old girl up fron I like her legs, and would like them even more wrapped around my neck is harassment, even if she would gigle and tell me thank you. I wouldn't do it.

Me telling one of my guys that works in my department that I think he is a stable and mature man because at 26 he manages to work 12-14 hours a day, morning with a company that manages medical and other needs for the homeless, then comes and sells televisions and does any thing I ask of him without question, and is a good man to his girlfriend; that isn't harassment. Its stupidity. It is sad that rules like that have to be implemented because of the fear that someone will sue.

Corporate sucks.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:25 pm

almostfamous;677683 wrote: did you get reprimanded

No, this was a training we went through. I haven't taken it yet, it is online, but one of the girls looked at me yesterday and said. "KB I think you are very stable and mature, and I like your pants." Then everyone looked at her and laughed. I thought my fly was open and I forgot to wear drawers or something. Then she filled me in on the course. I don;t get reprimanded at work, never have.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:25 pm

almostfamous;677691 wrote: i'm really fkn confused.

nothing new, i know. but um ........ :-2

They were examples. I'm bailing out of this thread before my head explodes.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:39 pm

almostfamous;677697 wrote: i understand. gd. do we need to go out back??

You need to go out back.

Cyanide & Happiness @ Explosm.net

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 9:53 pm

almostfamous;677700 wrote: You make my head hurt.

Don't blame me for what you do to yourself. Go smoke a doobie. Remember about three weeks back that message you sent me talking about you had re-read one of our conversations?

:yh_hugs

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 10:22 pm

WHAT THE HELL KIND OF CARTOON WAS THAT?

sorry caps on......i banged my foot?! :wah:

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 10:54 pm

I can no longer

I can and do say pretty much what I like at work. I frequently show genuine affection to the ones I care for. That will never change.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:06 pm

We just had a office wide training on this very subject. The fear of lawsuits has taken so much from the work place that you can't say or do much at all without fear of someone reporting you. I say screw that I will continue to be and say what I feel is right. I will continue to hug co-workers if they need a hug, I will crack jokes as I always do. Just not right at all.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:13 pm

CARLA;677743 wrote: We just had a office wide training on this very subject. The fear of lawsuits has taken so much from the work place that you can't say or do much at all without fear of someone reporting you. I say screw that I will continue to be and say what I feel is right. I will continue to hug co-workers if they need a hug, I will crack jokes as I always do. Just not right at all.

Theyll turn us into robots if we let them.

Our workplace has enacted the LEAN program modeled after Toyotas success in become the #1 automaker.

In the last 2 months Ive been instructed to draw pictures of houses and attach shaded objects to the proper item such as a broom or pencil. In one meeting we arranged plastic eating utencils in the desired manner.

The point is or eventually will be....lets not be "too" individual. Sameness is good.

Its not a good direction.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:20 pm

Boy sacres me to death to see and hear this. I just sat there in the meeting and was shocked at what they were instructing us to act like. Example: never break eye contact with someone or look at them below the neck. What the heck is happening. You can't say that shirt, or blouse looks good on you. Instead you should say that's a nice shirt or blouse nothing more. Sorry I almost got up and left.

[QUOTE]Theyll turn us into robots if we let them.

Our workplace has enacted the LEAN program modeled after Toyotas success in become the #1 automaker.

In the last 2 months Ive been instructed to draw pictures of houses and attach shaded objects to the proper item such as a broom or pencil. In one meeting we arranged plastic eating utencils in the desired manner.

The point is or eventually will be....lets not be "too" individual. Sameness is good.

Its not a good direction.[/QUOTE]

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:23 pm

Nomad;677733 wrote: I can no longer

I can and do say pretty much what I like at work. I frequently show genuine affection to the ones I care for. That will never change.

CARLA;677743 wrote: We just had a office wide training on this very subject. The fear of lawsuits has taken so much from the work place that you can't say or do much at all without fear of someone reporting you. I say screw that I will continue to be and say what I feel is right. I will continue to hug co-workers if they need a hug, I will crack jokes as I always do. Just not right at all.

It's people like you who will keep the world from losing every last ounce of its humanity. Good deal. :-4

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Aug 10, 2007 11:25 pm

RedGlitter;677749 wrote: It's people like you who will keep the world from losing every last ounce of its humanity. Good deal. :-4

I like monkies :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Aug 11, 2007 12:32 am

Nomad;677752 wrote: I like monkies :-6

but how about silver backs, people say i look like a silver back