Friend

[KittylovingBlond]

I agree that you need to be a friend before you can find one, but even then it's hard to do. I have all but given up on friends in the past few years because it's so difficult to find someone who is willing to put time and effort into a long-term friendship. I have "friends" who come and go, and we remain friends, but that I wouldn't confide in or count on for anything. I suppose they would be considered acquaintances...

I always think of it like, when it comes right down to it, who is going to be there through it all? Not many. I could never understand why when I was loyal and honest to others, they did not return the favor. I still have a hard time coping with the fact that almost no one I know can be counted on for the simplist things like showing up, and showing up on time! People are so flaky nowadays that we just concentrate on number one and let everyone else pick up the slack! It's such a self-centered society we live in, you know?

That's why I want to move south- I hear people are nice down there.

[ilona17]

i will share with you the most amazing story of true friendship that i have expirienced in my years of growing up. My mother who is now in her 50's has had a friend since they were both in primary school. Although going their own way's marrying having kids they remain friends even after losing contact. My mother moved to holland to marry my dad and lived they're for twenty one years. my parents got a divorce and now we live in the uk and mum and her friend look like they have never beign apart and its like i have two mothers. dont think they're always perfect i mean no relatoinship is or ever will be perfect cuz humans all have faulghts but when they argue one of them always says sorry and they make up to me thats wot true friendship is. i have friends but one day i hope im blessed enough to have a friend like she's got!

[along-for-the-ride]

maritori wrote: In our lifetime we will have many acquaintances, but few that we can call a true friend. We are lucky to find one true friend and blessed if we find two. But rarely will you ever find more than two friends in your lifetime. A friend is someone that you can pick up the phone even after years of noncontact and pick right back up where you left off. A friend is someone you can tell anything to and whether they agree with you or not, they stand beside you. A true friend does judge you and does not tell your secrets nor sell you out. A friend is someone who never sees you or your problems as an inconvenience.


I am lucky to have a sister like that. She is two years younger than I am, and we live over six hundred miles apart. But when we talk on the phone or e-mail, we just pick up where we left off and our conversations are always easy. I have two other sisters, but I only feel this way about this one. We have alot of history together and shared memories, and a few secrets.

[persephone]

My oldest and dearest friend is always there when I need him and I'm always there when he needs me, then sometimes when neither of us needs each other we pick up the phone just for a natter.

There have been times when we haven't spoken for years, and then when we do speak it's like no time has passed at all. We haven't seen each other for 16 years, but we are still best of friends.

When you find a true friend you don't need to live in each others pockets, or be in constant contact, you'll always know you are there for each other and that's the important thing.