My Wife Pat

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 4:45 am

Uncle Fester;688644 wrote: Just to let you know , Pat is home , The Leukemia has gone but at the moment she is a total wreck , can't do much for herself and she has to use oxygen now and again she is upset as her hair is falling out , on the funny side, somehow she has learned to speak Klingon in her sleep

Aaaaww Unc - I'm so pleased to hear that Pat is finally home:-4:-4

I'm sure you are both relieved:)

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 4:59 am

Hi Uncle Fester,

Thank you for updating us! When my mom started to lose her hair, she had me shave it all off and then she wore cute hats. She bought them from this company:http://www.headcovers.com/ and she really liked them. And she was never a hat person to begin with. Maybe Pat will find something there to help. My mom started collecting pretty pins to put on her hats and we'd arrange them according to her outfit. People started knowing her for her hats and pins which pleased her.

Post by **spot** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 7:12 am

Getting home is a big step. Once she's past all this mayhem I hope you'll be able to drive her around and get her into the fresh air.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 7:15 am

I'm glad she's home. You and Pat both have my best wishes. :-6:-4

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 7:35 am

Good news and I hope there will be much more of it!! xx

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 7:42 am

I am glad to hear that Pat is back home, when your feeling bad there is no better place to be. Sending you both my love and best wishes :-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:29 am

SuzyB;688688 wrote: I am glad to hear that Pat is back home, when your feeling bad there is no better place to be. Sending you both my love and best wishes :-4

ditto... what suzy said:-4:-4

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 11:33 am

Good news, home is the best place to be. Her hair will grow back fast, just a hat or 2 till it does like Red said makes all the difference. So gald the treatment worked..:yh_hugs

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 12:58 pm

lots of love and thoughts to you bothxx

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:25 pm

Hello Unc :-4,

We're all so happy Pat is home. All my thoughts are with you both tonight.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:41 pm

Uncle Fester;688644 wrote: Just to let you know , Pat is home , The Leukemia has gone but at the moment she is a total wreck , can't do much for herself and she has to use oxygen now and again she is upset as her hair is falling out , on the funny side, somehow she has learned to speak Klingon in her sleep

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!

This is wonderful news Unc ( not the learning klingon in her sleep bit )

You must be overjoyed to have your sweetheart home again. :-4

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 4:42 pm

Unc it is great to hear Pat is home. I so want to say more, but instead just going to send you a whole heap of love and hugs. Your strength and determination hits me over the miles. Keep fighting, trust me, fighting works :-4:-4

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Tue Sep 04, 2007 10:55 am

Just to let you know that today I had to do the hardest thing I have ever had to do , that was to shave off Pat's hair ( my god it hurt ) but there was a nice end to the day for the first time in a month Pat's face lit up with a big smile when the lady put her new wig on , it looks perfect :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Sep 04, 2007 11:03 am

Uncle Fester;689994 wrote: Just to let you know that today I had to do the hardest thing I have ever had to do , that was to shave off Pat's hair ( my god it hurt ) but there was a nice end to the day for the first time in a month Pat's face lit up with a big smile when the lady put her new wig on , it looks perfect :-4

Aw Fester that is incredibly touching.:-4

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Sep 04, 2007 11:06 am

Uncle Fester;689994 wrote: Just to let you know that today I had to do the hardest thing I have ever had to do , that was to shave off Pat's hair ( my god it hurt ) but there was a nice end to the day for the first time in a month Pat's face lit up with a big smile when the lady put her new wig on , it looks perfect :-4

:-4:-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Tue Sep 04, 2007 12:47 pm

Its so hard for both of you isnt it Fester. She is lucky to have you, and im sure you are lucky to have her:-4:D

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Tue Sep 04, 2007 1:41 pm

I so wish there was something I could say or do to make this time a little easier for you both. Just know, if you need to vent, need comfort, or need to escape reality for a few, we are here for you.

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 3:31 am

First I would like to thank you all for your wonderful support , I know we have never met or never will do but I would be proud and honored to call you my friends :-4

Today I am wondering how much ***** can be thrown at one , I had to call an Ambulance late lat night to have Pat taken back to hospital , her temperature had spiked to the infamous 38 % C , she is OK today but has to stay in for 5 days , at the moment I am not her favorite person

but it had to be done ( thems were my orders from hospital) I don't think it will go as far as a divorce :-3 but if it does I told her she could have the dog

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 4:08 am

give pat my love and if you want i will have the dog :wah: take care thinking of you xxx

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 4:48 am

Unc, please try not to worry to much about the temperature, it is very common while going through treatments for that to happen, Pat knows that you are only looking after her and doing what is best for her :-4 You will probably be in for a few more shaky weeks but come Spring things will be on the up for you both :-4

I was pleased to read that she liked her wig, they are so good nowadays, my Mum has 2 and they are fab, a couple of people stopped to tell her how nice her hair looks, she thought that they was being funny to begin with, as she felt so paranoid about losing her hair, now she accepts all compliments with a big smile :-4

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Wed Sep 05, 2007 7:01 am

Was going to try to be reassuring about her high temp but Suzy beat me too it!!

Know from a friend whose son has cancer that the high temp/dash back to hospital thing is very common whilst going through treatment.

Something else I learnt recently is that it also quite common for blood clots to form if you have a line in for chemo. Again, treatable but keep an eye out for it - pain and numbness can be a sign.

I think of you both often and hope that all goes well.

(ps - next time I need a haircut can I send you the bus fare? :wah:)

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:15 pm

Pat had great news today although she is feeling sick we have been told her Platelets have gone back to normal , they were 1 on Thursday , 43 on Monday and a whopping 168 today , first time they have been normal since before she was diagnosed,

On a light side the young female doctor who gave her the news had a waist that many ladies on here would kill for , Honest I was not perving :sneaky: on top of the good news she was the right one to give it

911 · Post by **911** » Thu Sep 06, 2007 12:27 pm

I'm so glad to hear her platelets are back up.

Take care of her, but most of all take care of yourself. Be there if she needs to talk or yell and hug her just because you can.

Oh, and always tell her how beautiful she is, no matter what.

I've never seen you, but you must be a beautiful man to care for her as deeply as you do.

:-6 :yh_hugs:yh_hugs

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 3:20 am

This is it.

This is the best of FG. :-6

Hang in there, Fester. You're doing a phenominal job.

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 3:54 am

Pat is still in hospital feeling pretty pi$$ed off , she woke during the night thinking that some thing was crawling down her arm , it was blood her canulars cap had come off , she called the nurse who put a new cap on , then some one fell down on the job , Pat got angry as she had to wait for over an hour before they cleaned her up and that was after she called them again ( we will forgive them this time ) My daughter has come down from Norfolk the early hours of yesterday morning and what did she do when she got here , she nagged me ,why , I had left my coat on the arm of the sofa :-5 , any way it is helping with the visiting with the two of them visiting as well , I can take it a little bit easy for a while , I don't even have cook for my self or do any washing or ironing so I will take the bit of nagging

Les

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 8:25 am

Just stopping in to let you know I'm still thinking of you and Pat. Love to the both of you and stay strong.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 8:29 am

Im pleased you have help with visiting, get a bit rest:-4

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 1:13 pm

Not about Pat but about a young Muslim woman who has just been put on her ward ,not very good English but I feel so sad for her , up until a couple of months ago she was helping in Iraqi hospitals trying to work on people being blown up by the daily bombings , she then got political asylum in the UK , on Thursday she was diagnosed as having a tumor on the Aorta she has been put on immediate Chemo to try and shrink it before trying to remove it , she is scared and has no idea what is going on , she has had no visitors since she came in , the reason I am telling you is that no matter our religion , race or color we all hurt and bleed the same :-1

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 1:18 pm

Uncle Fester;692063 wrote: Not about Pat but about a young Muslim woman who has just been put on her ward ,not very good English but I feel so sad for her , up until a couple of months ago she was helping in Iraqi hospitals trying to work on people being blown up by the daily bombings , she then got political asylum in the UK , on Thursday she was diagnosed as having a tumor on the Aorta she has been put on immediate Chemo to try and shrink it before trying to remove it , she is scared and has no idea what is going on , she has had no visitors since she came in , the reason I am telling you is that no matter our religion , race or color we all hurt and bleed the same :-1

You are so right Uncle Fester! We all have all the emotions and abilty to feel, and of course pain being one of the worst that we experience. I am sorry to hear of this lady's situation. Thank you for sharing, you are a good man Uncle!!:-4:-4

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 4:14 pm

Uncle Fester;692063 wrote: Not about Pat but about a young Muslim woman who has just been put on her ward ,not very good English but I feel so sad for her , up until a couple of months ago she was helping in Iraqi hospitals trying to work on people being blown up by the daily bombings , she then got political asylum in the UK , on Thursday she was diagnosed as having a tumor on the Aorta she has been put on immediate Chemo to try and shrink it before trying to remove it , she is scared and has no idea what is going on , she has had no visitors since she came in , the reason I am telling you is that no matter our religion , race or color we all hurt and bleed the same :-1
That we do unc.

Sometimes i want to wrap you in my arms and just hug you till you're blue.:-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat Sep 08, 2007 4:28 pm

abbey;692128 wrote: That we do unc.

Sometimes i want to wrap you in my arms and just hug you till you're blue.:-4

awww Abbey that makes 2 of us, I'm in line right behind ya!!

Post by **spot** » Mon Sep 10, 2007 4:55 am

I hope the few extra hours rest boosted you Fester - it sounds like it might have helped. Do you get a chance to walk round the block now and then, blow some fresh air into your head? With any luck you'll be able to do more positive things soon rather than just frustratedly hovering so much.

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Mon Sep 10, 2007 7:32 am

Just a quick up date , I have just bought Pat home from hospital

Busy now , more tomorrow

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Sep 10, 2007 7:33 am

Uncle Fester;692572 wrote: Just a quick up date , I have just bought Pat home from hospital

Busy now , more tomorrow

Oh YAY!! Huge Gentle Huggs to you and Pat, uncle fester, remember don't sweat the small stuff if yer house cleaning does not get done don't you worry it will be there for you tomorrow and all the tomorrows after.

I am happy your wife has come home.

M

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 8:24 am

Just a quick update , we were at the hospital today and the great news is , her blood is all back to normal

, still a little cloud about , Pat can't walk much and any exertion gets her out of breath , still a bit of fluid about and she needs a heart echo scan , but all in all everything is looking up

Les

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 8:29 am

Uncle Fester;696074 wrote: Just a quick update , we were at the hospital today and the great news is , her blood is all back to normal

, still a little cloud about , Pat can't walk much and any exertion gets her out of breath , still a bit of fluid about and she needs a heart echo scan , but all in all everything is looking up

Les

I'm so glad to hear that things are looking up for you Unc.

Lots of love to you both :-4:-4

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 8:30 am

:-4I like good news!!

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 8:38 am

Hi Uncle Fester!

Thank you for the good news! It takes a while to bounce back from that chemo, it just saps energy right out of a person. I'm so glad to hear this good news! :-4

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 8:42 am

Wonderful news!! :-4:-4

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 10:05 am

Uncle Fester;696074 wrote: Just a quick update , we were at the hospital today and the great news is , her blood is all back to normal

, still a little cloud about , Pat can't walk much and any exertion gets her out of breath , still a bit of fluid about and she needs a heart echo scan , but all in all everything is looking up

Les

May she continue to make such good progress.

I'm so glad to hear she's doing so well :-6

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 10:08 am

Uncle Fester;696074 wrote: Just a quick update , we were at the hospital today and the great news is , her blood is all back to normal

, still a little cloud about , Pat can't walk much and any exertion gets her out of breath , still a bit of fluid about and she needs a heart echo scan , but all in all everything is looking up

Les

So glad to hear it!! I've been thinking about you and Pat.....:-4:-4

Take care my sweet friend!:-6

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 10:17 am

Great news!!! :-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Sep 18, 2007 10:20 am

Fabo news thanks for keeping us posted.

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Wed Sep 26, 2007 7:03 am

Update , Pat's consultant has said that today he is very pleased with her blood results , they are perfect , the only cloud is the possibility that a valve in her heart may have a slight leak , not too serious at this time

Les

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Wed Sep 26, 2007 7:04 am

Uncle Fester;700120 wrote: Update , Pat's consultant has said that today he is very pleased with her blood results , they are perfect , the only cloud is the possibility that a valve in her heart may have a slight leak , not too serious at this time

Les

Fantastic news :-4

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Wed Sep 26, 2007 7:07 am

Uncle Fester;700120 wrote: Update , Pat's consultant has said that today he is very pleased with her blood results , they are perfect , the only cloud is the possibility that a valve in her heart may have a slight leak , not too serious at this time

Les

Wonderful news. A slight leak to one of the valves is not uncommon and unlikely to be harmful. In all probability neither of you would have known about it but for her other problems.

May she continue to improve and be well for a long, long time.