I feel like the worst mom in the world

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:48 pm

:-5 I let my daughter take something similar to this to school today for Show-n-Tell.(1st grade) She bought it at the carnival. The teacher would not let her show it. Made her put it back in her back pack. Said it was a weapon,and she would pertend she never saw it. For her to never bring it to school again. And that she is lucky she wont tell the principal.

When Molly came home she told me about it. She was very upset and pale.It really scared her. She thought she did something bad. At first I was mad at the teacher. and thought about calling the school. But she doesn't want me to talk to them about it at all. Said she was affraid the school would make the police arrest me. WTF did that teacher say to my child.

Part of me is enraged,and the other thinks I should have known better. But I didn't think of it as a weapon. I think it would have been a good opportunity for the teacher to explain to the kids what they can or can not bring,without making an exampel out of my child.

I'm really not sure what to do.Should I let it go or have a talk with her teacher. I am very leavel headed,but have been known to loose my temper.I'm like a mama bear when it comes to my cub.

maybe I should have put this in the vent thread.

:)

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:53 pm

My 18 year old son saw your post and said "WHAT????" so trust me, from one Momma bear to another....I'd feel the same way....and I feel that teacher needs to hear from you.....poor Molly....give her hugs for me!:-4

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:55 pm

teacher was being petty next time send in a sword with fake blood on it......only joking

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:58 pm

WTH? It's a light stick! Gimme a break- you can poke someone's eye out with a pencil, is your daughter allowed to bring pencils to class?!

I think this is stupid, Fuzzy Navel, and yes, i would go have a word with that teacher. There's no need to make the kid feel like a pariah because she brought a light stick to school.

All this PC crap just p.isses me off!

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:02 pm

RedGlitter;688359 wrote: WTH? It's a light stick! Gimme a break- you can poke someone's eye out with a pencil, is your daughter allowed to bring pencils to class?!

I think this is stupid, Fuzzy Navel, and yes, i would go have a word with that teacher. There's no need to make the kid feel like a pariah because she brought a light stick to school.

All this PC crap just p.isses me off!

that is what i wanted to say so as above^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:06 pm

I'd go to that meeting wearing a machete and carrying the toy.

Then tell the teacher in my best Aussie accent, "That's not a weapon." Pull out machete, "This, is a weapon."

:sneaky:

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:07 pm

Thanks Wendy. I thought it was a little crazy.

el guapo I may just put the teachers blood on it(just kidding)

Red Glitter, I never thought about pencils,and they have scissors.this thing is not sharp at all.

:)

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:08 pm

JacksDad;688363 wrote: I'd go to that meeting wearing a machete and carrying the toy.

Then tell the teacher in my best Aussie accent, "That's not a weapon." Pull out machete, "This, is a weapon."

:sneaky:
Good one! I love that part:)

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:08 pm

JacksDad;688363 wrote: I'd go to that meeting wearing a machete and carrying the toy.

Then tell the teacher in my best Aussie accent, "That's not a weapon." Pull out machete, "This, is a weapon."

:sneaky:

mark chooper reid

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:12 pm

I understand that schools are dangerous places now for kids and they want to stress not bringing weapons but this is a first grade child. A child! A sensitive little being. At best I think it was overreaction.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:19 pm

I'm not sure if privet school would be better.But so far my feeling of public school is not good. If this gets worse, I will pull her out and home school her like I wanted to do in the first place.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:22 pm

FuzzyNavel;688378 wrote: I'm not sure if privet school would be better.But so far my feeling of public school is not good. If this gets worse I will pull her out and home school her like I wanted to do anyway.

I'm all for home schooling these days.

I had a hard time in public school, at least until 9th grade. I can't imagine what it must be like now. I'm sure there are pros and cons to both though. Possibly this teacher had it drummed into her by her superiors about teaching lids that weapons are bad/un PC and was giving a knee jerk reaction but I can't understand acting like that toward a small child.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:27 pm

The whole thing messed up her good day.she lost her first tooth this morning and was so happy when she went to school.The teacher did let her show her missing tooth though.

:)

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:29 pm

FuzzyNavel;688385 wrote: The whole thing mess up her good day.she lost her first tooth this morning and was so happy when she went to school.The teacher did let her show her missing tooth though.

:)

Well, good, at least she got to show something after all.

What's the going rate for a tooth nowadays?

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:31 pm

RedGlitter;688387 wrote: Well, good, at least she got to show something after all.

What's the going rate for a tooth nowadays?

I thought maybe $5, sound good?

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:32 pm

FuzzyNavel;688389 wrote: I thought maybe $5, sound good?

WOW! I used to get a quarter! :wah: $5 sounds good to me!

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:36 pm

RedGlitter;688392 wrote: WOW! I used to get a quarter! :wah: $5 sounds good to me!

Me too. I guess the cost if everything has gone up. she just told me she thinks the tooth fairy should give her $20. Not gonna happen!:wah:

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:36 pm

:wah: :wah:

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:55 pm

el guapo;688368 wrote: mark chooper reid

Yep! That's him.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 5:00 pm

The teacher telling her she is lucky she doesn't tell the principal was wrong. She could become afraid of going to school, not knowing what is or isn't allowed. The next show and tell may make her quite nervous. You DO need to talk to the teacher and tell her how your daughter came home and was frightened enough she was still pale. The teacher needs to explain to your daughter how she wants to keep her and her classmates safe and that she overreacted. If you say nothing, the teacher will not know it was mishandled and repeat the same mistake.

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 5:05 pm

I would call the school and talk to the principal about it. That was pretty stupid of the teacher.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 5:19 pm

Thanks PEG.

Molly teacher last year made her affraid of the principal.and all first grade teachers.She had do doozie of a teacher last year.she dressed like she was going to her night job.(if ya know what I mean).very aloof from the kids.

Angel Eyes,I really should have known. I have heard and read some crazy stories about public schools. I guess this is just the beginning,or the end. I'll find out monday.hopefuly the weekend will cool me off.

:)

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 5:46 pm

FuzzyNavel;688354 wrote: :-5 I let my daughter take something similar to this to school today for Show-n-Tell.(1st grade) She bought it at the carnival. The teacher would not let her show it. Made her put it back in her back pack. Said it was a weapon,and she would pertend she never saw it. For her to never bring it to school again. And that she is lucky she wont tell the principal.

When Molly came home she told me about it. She was very upset and pale.It really scared her. She thought she did something bad. At first I was mad at the teacher. and thought about calling the school. But she doesn't want me to talk to them about it at all. Said she was affraid the school would make the police arrest me. WTF did that teacher say to my child.

Part of me is enraged,and the other thinks I should have known better. But I didn't think of it as a weapon. I think it would have been a good opportunity for the teacher to explain to the kids what they can or can not bring,without making an exampel out of my child.

I'm really not sure what to do.Should I let it go or have a talk with her teacher. I am very leavel headed,but have been known to loose my temper.I'm like a mama bear when it comes to my cub.

maybe I should have put this in the vent thread.

:)

That was so stupid on the teachers part and probably very humiliating for your daughter.......1st grade.........give me a freaking break!!!!!!!!!!!! If it was a kid in HS and making suggestive movements with it.......then YES. 1st grade......for show and tell!!!!!!!!!! I am a substitute teacher and as such I would have generated a discussion on how the colors are in the magic wand and how the colors move ( if they moved up and down the WAND). It would have been a point of creative discussion for the kids!!!!!!!!!

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 5:56 pm

Thank You, Angel Eyes. I'm starting to feel a little better about the whole thing.Everyone I have talked to feels like the teacher overeacted.

Next show-n tell she will take a stuffed animal or a book. OR maybe chocolate & Mountain.Dew.:sneaky::wah:

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:01 pm

Peg;688402 wrote: The teacher telling her she is lucky she doesn't tell the principal was wrong. She could become afraid of going to school, not knowing what is or isn't allowed. The next show and tell may make her quite nervous. You DO need to talk to the teacher and tell her how your daughter came home and was frightened enough she was still pale. The teacher needs to explain to your daughter how she wants to keep her and her classmates safe and that she overreacted. If you say nothing, the teacher will not know it was mishandled and repeat the same mistake.

I'll put away the machete now.

:-6

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:01 pm

Thanks Nvalleyvee! Hey, what grades to do teach,are ya up for a transfer.

You sound smarter and more caring then the one she has now.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:06 pm

FuzzyNavel;688459 wrote: Thanks Nvalleyvee! Hey, what grades to do teach,are ya up for a transfer.

You sound smarter and more caring then the one she has now.

I love the kinders through 5th graders. I can still understand everything they go through from the social to the educational.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:14 pm

From what I heard,she was a 5th grade teacher untill this year.The school started three 1st grades this year,and two 5th grades.

Maybe she expects more out them.She will need to adjust. It better be fast is all I can say.

:)

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:17 pm

JacksDad;688458 wrote: I'll put away the machete now.

:-6

Can I borrow it for monday? I'll clean the blood off I promise.:sneaky::wah:

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:23 pm

Beleive me when I say I understand, when my child was in kindergarten he hugged his little friend she missed her mama, and The Principle called me to come and get him. He was so scared, and treated him like a bleeping convict.!!!!

When we were in the office, she was so strict, and my son crawled on my lap and she told him to "SIT OVERE THERE!!!!) I said excuse me , I then proceeded to tell my son I am the boss of him, she just works at the school , and he should listen

to the rules when at school, and I had to try and instruct to him that he cant touch other students, his little friend was crying for her mama.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:36 pm

Indian Princess,I'm sorry that happened to your little boy. Its awful with all the rules they have at school now. I was affraid that would happen to mine. She is a hugger too. the teacher last year didn't seem to care. good thing I guess.

I would have been PO'd too when she told him to get off you lap. there is no call for that.sometimes they think they have more power then they really do.

We don't have to send them to public school.

:)

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:40 pm

Hi-

I think the teacher was seriously out of line, handled the situation in an unprofessional and uncompassionate way. The idea about discussing the glow light sword in terms of what it looked like, what caused the effect etc is a much better idea, and if the teacher was afraid the toy could set a precedent for other kids to bring similar items like plastic weapon-looking things then she could have used the sword as an example of what not to bring in, like someone already said. Definitely have a word about this with your daughter's teacher and/or the principal. Good luck.

Your daughter has a generous tooth fairy! In my part of the world a tooth gets only a dollar. Cost of living differences, I suppose

Take care,

Erin

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:46 pm

FuzzyNavel;688464 wrote: From what I heard,she was a 5th grade teacher untill this year.The school started three 1st grades this year,and two 5th grades.

Maybe she expects more out them.She will need to adjust. It better be fast is all I can say.

:)

NO...NO...NO...... humiliation or denegration is NEVER a part of this age group. These are kids that need to KNOW their creativity is IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How would you have liked to be told what to think and feel at this age..........they are sooooo ready to break through from being depenent on Mom and Dad to thheir own. They have opinions about the world and are looking to adults to tell them that what they THINK CAN BE CORRECT!!!!! The willingness to learn defines these children. How DARE WE AS EDUCATORS tell them HOW to learn............They already have it in them. When an educator kills this spirit we create a child that gives up on their own intellect, spirit and soul for learning.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:53 pm

Beautifuly said Nvalleyvee.

If only all teacher felt that way.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:59 pm

FuzzyNavel;688492 wrote: Beautifuly said Nvalleyvee.

If only all teacher felt that way.

Thanks.........

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 7:30 pm

watermark;688485 wrote:

Your daughter has a generous tooth fairy! In my part of the world a tooth gets only a dollar. Cost of living differences, I suppose

We told her teeth with cavities get nothing. It helps to make her want to brush her teeth.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 8:28 pm

Geez we have $800.00 in dental for a 17 year old. That is 1/2 the bill!!!!!!!!

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 8:45 pm

nvalleyvee;688510 wrote: Geez we have $800.00 in dental for a 17 year old. That is 1/2 the bill!!!!!!!!

My 11 year old JUST had a root canal done 2 weeks ago....thankfully Dad finally stepped up to the plate and paid for it....without insurance about $3000.00 is what he told me....OUCH!!!

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:45 pm

Well this whole thing pisses me off. I paid $22.00 every 6 months when my daughters adult teeth were coming in to have her teeth coated with an anti cavity material. At 22 years old she has had only 1 cavity. It was hard for me to afford this but I had such bad dental experiences I PAID.

The parents I know who chose not to do this are paying DEARLY..........up to a thousand dollars for teenagers teeth.

Any of you parents out there...pay for the coating..........it obviously works!!!!!!!!!

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 5:50 am

FuzzyNavel;688451 wrote: Thank You, Angel Eyes. I'm starting to feel a little better about the whole thing.Everyone I have talked to feels like the teacher overeacted.

Next show-n tell she will take a stuffed animal or a book. OR maybe chocolate & Mountain.Dew.:sneaky::wah:

I hope the day never comes when a "stuffed animal, a book , a chocolate or a Mountain Dew" will be cause for such over-reaction from a school.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 1:20 pm

maybe she ought go back to school herself on how to learn on how to have a humour:-3

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 2:14 pm

very out of order for the teacher.

poor little girl and i am guessing they were asked to bring something from the school holidays like what they had done.

its a toy :rolleyes:

talking of teeth i had that protection coating on my teeth and i have never had a filing so far, me an my sister both.

:-6

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sat Sep 01, 2007 3:19 pm

Ahhhh Fuzzy:-4,

I'm really sorry that happened to your daughter.

I teach in a public school, and we would never do that to our kids. If we felt something was inappropriate we would try to make light of it and then discuss it with the parent later on after school.

I would discuss it with the teacher. Maybe the teacher is overly strict or acting inappropriately. I think it's always best to discuss your concerns before things get out of hand. Maybe it was a misunderstanding...let's hope so