The name of this thread should've really been "What is the definition of insanity for you?" I asked my mechanic out again and got turned down again. This time I said what a coworker said to say.....that was "I want some male company, are you available to go to the Apple Festival with me in a couple weeks on Sunday?" He said he wished he could but that Sunday is his only day off, and he needs to take care of his mother. He actually said that, and that he needs to do his cleaning on that day.
Now I think, how many times am I gonna do the same thing and expect a different result. As the definition of insanity is.....doing the same thing but expecting a different result. Needless to say, I am bummed. But at least I did it and didn't get upset with him.
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Patsy Warnick
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Cin
OK - you know I'll need more info - how old is the mechanic?
what other excuses has this mechanic used in the past?
Have you ever been out with him? coffee - movie - anything?
Patsy
OK - you know I'll need more info - how old is the mechanic?
what other excuses has this mechanic used in the past?
Have you ever been out with him? coffee - movie - anything?
Patsy
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Cinn..you took a chance...bravo for you...and the guy turned you down..welcome to how men feel..they face that everytime they ask a woman out..:pno wonder they act like they do:D
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cinamin -- Totally understandable that you're bummed. Rejection can really hurt. But, why would someone like you, who is very deserving of love, want to be around someone who doesn't want to give that love to you? Keep holding yourself in high regard and you'll meet someone who would absolutely love to do the same.
Someone who is not interested in you (or perhaps he is and is shy? There are so many variables in this situation) is certainly not worth your time.
Someone who is not interested in you (or perhaps he is and is shy? There are so many variables in this situation) is certainly not worth your time.
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.
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Tater Tazz
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Good for you asking him out. I think one of the reasons you probably want to go out with him is because he always says no. I think you need to start looking elsewhere. Unless you like him telling you no. Maybe, he has a girlfriend and does not want to hurt your feelings. That might be the reason he says no.
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Thanks everyone, I almost forgot about this till I just logged on and read what I wrote.
In answer to all of your posts; Patsy...he is 45. He has used this same excuse for every time I've mentioned getting together.
Guppy...thanks, I thought the same thing before I called him, waiting for the rejection.
Laneybug.....I never thought about it that way. I need to think about asking someone who would say yes, instead of giving an excuse.
Jones....you cracked me up. I was thinking this morning that he cannot have a women over either. I asked him "does your mom live with you?" He answered "sometimes". And I said "oh that must be nice". He said in an irritated voice, "not always". I bet his mother runs his life when he is not at work.
Tater Tazz,.....I don't think he has any g/f. Before I met him he had. But I have not seen her around for a couple of years now. And as far as he has said, she is not his g/f.
I was friends with an Egyptian man for a while who recently got married. His mother was like the most important entity in this man's life. And especially if there is no father present. My mechanic's dad has passed away too, and as far as I know, he is the oldest son and they are supposed to take care of the mother when the father passes. I have had conversations with him about his mother, and they are very close. I guess if she actually lives with him, they would be. And I bet she may be a reason that he has not been in relationship with a woman, ever. Except when he was in his early 20's and that lasted 5 months. His mother may be the problem. He may be using his mother to create distance from other women...that and his job.
Well, I don't dwell on it before like I used to. I probably won't call him for a while. Even though he has been returning my calls when I call him now. And he's never done that before. I guess he sees my cell number in his caller i.d. and knows it's me, and then he calls me back. But I won't bother him for a while now, until my care needs repairing.
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In answer to all of your posts; Patsy...he is 45. He has used this same excuse for every time I've mentioned getting together.
Guppy...thanks, I thought the same thing before I called him, waiting for the rejection.
Laneybug.....I never thought about it that way. I need to think about asking someone who would say yes, instead of giving an excuse.
Jones....you cracked me up. I was thinking this morning that he cannot have a women over either. I asked him "does your mom live with you?" He answered "sometimes". And I said "oh that must be nice". He said in an irritated voice, "not always". I bet his mother runs his life when he is not at work.
Tater Tazz,.....I don't think he has any g/f. Before I met him he had. But I have not seen her around for a couple of years now. And as far as he has said, she is not his g/f.
I was friends with an Egyptian man for a while who recently got married. His mother was like the most important entity in this man's life. And especially if there is no father present. My mechanic's dad has passed away too, and as far as I know, he is the oldest son and they are supposed to take care of the mother when the father passes. I have had conversations with him about his mother, and they are very close. I guess if she actually lives with him, they would be. And I bet she may be a reason that he has not been in relationship with a woman, ever. Except when he was in his early 20's and that lasted 5 months. His mother may be the problem. He may be using his mother to create distance from other women...that and his job.
Well, I don't dwell on it before like I used to. I probably won't call him for a while. Even though he has been returning my calls when I call him now. And he's never done that before. I guess he sees my cell number in his caller i.d. and knows it's me, and then he calls me back. But I won't bother him for a while now, until my care needs repairing.
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cinamin;705652 wrote:
Laneybug.....I never thought about it that way. I need to think about asking someone who would say yes, instead of giving an excuse.
Definitely. Your love is way too valuable to give it away to someone who won't appreciate it.
Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for.
Laneybug.....I never thought about it that way. I need to think about asking someone who would say yes, instead of giving an excuse.
Definitely. Your love is way too valuable to give it away to someone who won't appreciate it.
Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for.
It is better to have your mind opened by wonder
than closed by belief.
than closed by belief.