Random questions

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Sat Oct 13, 2007 2:43 am

Why do most marriages fail?

Suppose marriage weren't for life, but for five years, as specified by a contract(which could be renewed). Would this system be an improvement over what we have now?

In regard to interpersonal relationships, what does the word "honesty" mean? Does it mean always tellin the truth? If not, what would the criteria be for when a lie (i.e. not telling the literal truth) is acceptable? On what principle(s) would such criteria be based?

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Sat Oct 13, 2007 5:17 am

Tater Tazz;708355 wrote: Why do most marriages fail?

Suppose marriage weren't for life, but for five years, as specified by a contract(which could be renewed). Would this system be an improvement over what we have now?

In regard to interpersonal relationships, what does the word "honesty" mean? Does it mean always tellin the truth? If not, what would the criteria be for when a lie (i.e. not telling the literal truth) is acceptable? On what principle(s) would such criteria be based?

Difficult questions indeed.

I don't see that five year contracts would work. Marriage is a long term commitment designed to provide a support framework for the raising of a family - that needs far more than five years renewable.

If you take children out of the equation and deal with it as a social contract between two people I still don't see its benefit as a half way house between living together and marriage - all the disadvantages of both with no advantages of its own.

With regard to honesty within a relationship, that's got to be one of the hardest thing to define on paper but would be a lot easier to achieve in life.

I don't believe in the simplistic "honest in the n'th degree". There are times when giving the total truth is brutal and wrong and a level of compassion must be brought into the mix. Where the line lies is the part that is almost impossible to put down on paper.

It also makes a difference whether you are talking about being honest in what you say and do or whether you are talking about choosing whether to say something in the first place.

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Sun Oct 14, 2007 2:00 am

Nice anwsers.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Sun Oct 14, 2007 3:12 am

Bryn Mawr;708364 wrote: It also makes a difference whether you are talking about being honest in what you say and do or whether you are talking about choosing whether to say something in the first place.

My ex-father-in-law gave me a bit of wise advise: Sometimes in a marriage, what you *don't* say is much more important that what you *do* say.

These questions are quite thought-provoking. I like the way Bryn answered them. Marriage is a leap of faith, and I think that involves riding out the valleys that naturally occur between the peaks. :-6

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 14, 2007 3:20 am

cherandbuster;708590 wrote: My ex-father-in-law gave me a bit of wise advise: Sometimes in a marriage, what you *don't* say is much more important that what you *do* say.

These questions are quite thought-provoking. I like the way Bryn answered them. Marriage is a leap of faith, and I think that involves riding out the valleys that naturally occur between the peaks. :-6

Righto ! Naked on the back of a motorcycle doing the reach around. :rolleyes:

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sun Oct 14, 2007 9:23 am

Nomad;708594 wrote: Righto ! Naked on the back of a motorcycle doing the reach around. :rolleyes:

I dig it........except for the "naked"part.:wah: