Married men..........................................

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 5:53 pm

Why do married men ask me out? How come single men dont. Enlighten me, why married men ask single women out. I am soooo tired of this

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 5:59 pm

The married ones are just trying you..to see where and what boundries you have...its not a mark on you..it means they are pieces of ****..just tell them "NO"

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:00 pm

Indian Princess;718163 wrote: Why do married men ask me out? How come single men dont. Enlighten me, why married men ask single women out. I am soooo tired of this
Because they're scumbuckets.........

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:04 pm

Ego boost, if they have been married or in a long term relationship the grass seems greener on the other side.

If a guy has ever chatted me up that is in a long term relationship or married I have always made it abundantly clear and loud what I think of them!

You deserve a man all to yourself not someone that sticks his bits wherever and whenever (sorry TMI).

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:24 pm

Suzy B well said!!!!!

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:38 pm

I'll tell you what!!!!! The more married men you turn down - the more single men will get interested in you. It tells the singles you have standards which is what single people look for in other singles. Good for you!!!! Keep your standards!!

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:53 pm

Married men ask women out because they think that you're beautiful and safe. You're not married, and it's ok to date you on the side.....or they just don't care if you're married or not...they're just fishing to see if you say that's ok...

A friend of mine got married but asked me if it would be ok for us just to have sex on the side. He loved her, but just needed to take the edge off every so often...isn't that cute!! He wanted to set up a calendar to save dates..... I really loved the guy because he was my friend, but I said no.

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:58 pm

I wish I knew then, what I know now. I went out with a married man once, who was separated from the wife, but they had kids ..... you are always 2nd or 3rd on their list, never first, it was such a waste of good time. Don't waste what good years you have left wasting it on some one else's trash.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 6:59 pm

moonpie;718185 wrote: I wish I knew then, what I know now. I went out with a married man once, who was separated from the wife, but they had kids ..... you are always 2nd or 3rd on their list, never first, it was such a waste of good time. Don't waste what good years you have left wasting it on some one else's trash.

So well said Moonpie.....so true.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 7:28 pm

I have zero tolerance, sympathy, or understanding for women who date married men. It was done to me many years ago, and I wouldnt wish the pain on my worst enemy. As for the men.... Their behavior pertaining to women in the arenas of cheating on their wives, pornography ( viewing) and treating women with an air of superiority... all diminish the strength and power of women as a whole. Any woman who takes part or endorses this behavior of men, is double crossing her own gender. I can guarantee you that in time of need a true and loyal female friend will be there for you quicker than some imbecile who simply wants to have his eel visit an empty cave. ( Stolen line which I love from Memoirs of a Geisha. I use it all the time)

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 7:49 pm

weeder;718209 wrote: I have zero tolerance, sympathy, or understanding for women who date married men. It was done to me many years ago, and I wouldnt wish the pain on my worst enemy. As for the men.... Their behavior pertaining to women in the arenas of cheating on their wives, pornography ( viewing) and treating women with an air of superiority... all diminish the strength and power of women as a whole. Any woman who takes part or endorses this behavior of men, is double crossing her own gender. I can guarantee you that in time of need a true and loyal female friend will be there for you quicker than some imbecile who simply wants to have his eel visit an empty cave. ( Stolen line which I love from Memoirs of a Geisha. I use it all the time)

I agree.

I have ZERO tolerance for married men who want to cheat on ther wife. 2 way street. Actually it is a one way street where everyone gets hurt.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 8:08 pm

Well--------looks like I am the only guy to respond to this question. First, let me say that in my first marriage of 30 years, I never asked another woman out. I was single for 5 years after the death of my first wife and got to sew my wild oats all over again, having dated some 36 women in that 5 year period of being single. I have been married to the second wife for 15 years and have not asked another woman out during that time. When I was working I had male associates that did however. They did it I suspect, to impress me and others with their prowess. I was never impressed and frankly thought they were absolutely stupid, since I knew their wives and family. It struck me to be the kiss of death as far as their marriages were concerned, and in fact, most of them did eventually divorce.

koan · Post by **koan** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 9:04 pm

Let's keep it real and recognise that it goes for both sexes. The guy I work with gets hit on by tons of housewives while we're doing their cabinets. Not just flirting, actually asking to set up a time to sleep together. He turns them all down but they keep trying.

... and he's not *that* good looking.

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 9:07 pm

You are so right Koan, there are a lot of women out there that are really disgusting, being openly flirting, etc., there are two sides to everything.

watermark · Post by **watermark** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 9:14 pm

weeder;718209 wrote: I have zero tolerance, sympathy, or understanding for women who date married men. It was done to me many years ago, and I wouldnt wish the pain on my worst enemy. As for the men.... Their behavior pertaining to women in the arenas of cheating on their wives, pornography ( viewing) and treating women with an air of superiority... all diminish the strength and power of women as a whole. Any woman who takes part or endorses this behavior of men, is double crossing her own gender. I can guarantee you that in time of need a true and loyal female friend will be there for you quicker than some imbecile who simply wants to have his eel visit an empty cave. ( Stolen line which I love from Memoirs of a Geisha. I use it all the time)

I agree with what you wrote, weeder. I think same for women. I feel bad for men when women cheat on them. In reality though I suspect this is the kind of implicit agreement that both in the marriage made. Not always of course, but most. Also I love that line about the eel visiting an empty cave. So true, even in a marriage, unfortunately.

Indian Princess,

What type of man does this sort of thing? I'm sure you can find a single guy. Why not?

Erin

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Fri Nov 09, 2007 9:45 pm

Indian Princess, be sure that when you are least expecting it - you will meet a really nice man and person. When you are not looking, thats when this will happen. That is the way I met my hubby, don't dispair, enjoy the time you have alone for now, because when you are into a relationship, it does take work and extra time too. Take care.

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Sat Nov 10, 2007 4:57 am

Hey IP! Let me tell you, I have had this happen to me alot lately. I just pretend the flirting or anything does not happen and go on with what i am doing. Here is an example: My husband was driving my car with me, and this guy I know, tried to run us off the road. He wanted to get my attention, he really did. I know this guy is married, and he probably feels safe flirting. But, just do what you want, noone can tell you what to do. Good luck!

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Nov 10, 2007 6:25 am

Respect for the sanctity of marriage has dwindled considerably over the years. Many folks are opting to just live together. Still. when someone is with someone else in a relationship, he/she should still be off limits. What happened to integrity?

Indian Princess, as stated above, I believe that someone is waiting for you who is available...for you. I know you want a meaningful relationship and these married men cannot offer this to you.

Hang in there, girlfriend.

drumbunny1 · Post by **drumbunny1** » Sat Nov 10, 2007 9:08 pm

I would take their numbers....why not?!!! Have a little fun! And by fun I mean take their phone numbers....then call up their wives and tell them that your a "paid entertainer" or his usual from an escort service....that'll teach the A hole!

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Sun Nov 11, 2007 5:04 am

drumbunny1;718515 wrote: I would take their numbers....why not?!!! Have a little fun! And by fun I mean take their phone numbers....then call up their wives and tell them that your a "paid entertainer" or his usual from an escort service....that'll teach the A hole!

could back fire on you. But, I like it!!!!

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sun Nov 11, 2007 5:16 am

" Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned" Ive seen this in action, many, many times in my life. I can never understand how cheating men do not fear the vengence of the " Other women they get involved with, and hurt. I have had friends involved with married men. Some knowingly, some unknowingly. In all of the scenarios Ive know..... the man tells the other woman that they are going to leave thier wife. This is what keeps the other woman hanging on. The men also always say how unhapy they are in their marriages. This is how the other woman justifies being involved with them. Often, the married men ARE unhappy, but they will not forfeit the dollars it would cost to get divorced. The loss of material possesions is not worth their happiness. I have said so many times that a visit with the wives of these pond scums would be so revealing to the other woman.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sun Nov 11, 2007 10:37 am

SuzyB;718167 wrote: Ego boost, if they have been married or in a long term relationship the grass seems greener on the other side.

If a guy has ever chatted me up that is in a long term relationship or married I have always made it abundantly clear and loud what I think of them!

You deserve a man all to yourself not someone that sticks his bits wherever and whenever (sorry TMI).

Well said Suzy - you deserve better IP, tell them where to get off :-6

minks · Post by **minks** » Sun Nov 11, 2007 11:48 am

Next time one asks you out IP ask them if they got their wife's approval first then dump therr sorry arse on the curb.