It breaks my heart ....

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:39 pm

When I see the man I love (and have loved for the past 25 years) sitting on the sofa with tears rolling down his cheeks. Very quietly trying to be strong and trying not to let it show, but the tears are obvious. This is my man, who has been my strength, who has seen me through so much, always been strong and now he is crying. He didn't even cry when his Dad died - the only time I saw him cry like this was when our GSD of 3 years died of a heart attack - he fought to save him, but couldn't.

He has now gone to bed. You did not let us down - I know all you have done is for the love of Me, Josh and Lucy.

He works so hard. He wakes each day with only one thought in his mind - to make us happy. So the company he works for kicked his feet out from under him today, it may seem a small thing, but when someone like him gives so much, for the love of his family and his company. When they sh1t on you it hurts :-4

Well I love you. Don't ever forget that. :-4

Life sucks on occasion.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:43 pm

Pheasy:-4, I'm so sorry for you and family. Life really sucks big time. All my best wishes for you.

Love,

Kathy

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:44 pm

Its not a small thing - did he miss a promotion? or perhaps his boss was in a mood.? either way his feelings were hurt and I'm sorry for that.

Patsy

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:46 pm

It's so unfortunate Pheasy, but these companies are into disposable people. They are just not concerned with how many of their workers they hurt and destroy. Geeze:-1

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:47 pm

Awww Sweetie....that is heartbreaking and your family is in my prayers.

How blessed you are to have a man like him, and he to have you as well!:-4

This door closed for another one to open, it just doesn't seem that way right now!

Sending many hugs and much love to PA!!!:-4:-4

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 7:51 pm

:-4 Lots of love for you and your man.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 8:06 pm

That's so sad.

I hope all works out for the best soon.

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 8:38 pm

That is so sad to hear for all of you. I cannot imagine what he is feeling like. I only hope that he can get things turned around for all of you, this will be really hard for him until he gets back to work. Be strong for both of you. Good Luck. -

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:48 am

Big fat hugs to you and your hubby pheasy. :-4

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 3:05 am

As he has been strong for you so must you be strong for him and together you will pull through.

When you are a worker, supporting your family is one of the cornerstones of your life and having that knocked out from under you can be devistating. He will need all of your support to climb back to his feet and start the battle afresh.

I know you'll be doing that already, 'cos you're you :-6

May this be resolved quickly and your husband come out of it with a better job than he started with :-4

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 5:22 am

Awww hun that really made me sit up and think of what's important...FAMILY...end of.....

Only been here a few days but I feel I have started to get to know you as you seem in the same head space as me ( yes the space is vast lmao) and we seem to have the same personalities so I hope you dont mind me adding my two penneth worth.

Just try and be strong and patient and have an extra ear and shoulder whilst hes going through this rough patch...

Best wishes to you all, and I hope hes smiling again soon

Why does bad **** always come before a celebration!?!:-5:-5

Take Care x

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 6:16 am

With your support, feeling the way you do about him... he can recover from anything, You are so fortunate to have the relationship you do,, and so is he.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 7:09 am

Hes not alone. Youre not alone. Its an epidemic. Companies build profits on the backs of its workers then sell them off to the highest bidder. Jobs are lost and families are left to fend for themselves while CEO's are making millions in bonuses and incentives only to bail out when the last drop has been milked.

They cut pensions so they can squeeze out a few more dollars for shareholders.

Greed is the motivator. No dollar amount is enough. We are all at the mercy of our employers. Hard work will only allow you to keep your job long enough to ride out the inevitable.

Your family isnt considered tangible, your house payment isnt considered substantially real and the sweat and effort and life time we trustingly offer in the hopes that we can stay safe, that puts food in your childrens stomachs is only a means for those with the authority to say yea or nay to extract just one more dollar from the machine.

Thats what it is, a machine and we are the gears. Inanimate cogs that fuel someone elses dream of making it in life and retiring in ease and comfort.

Most of us are content to do a good job for a fair wage only so we can go home and be with the ones we love and that love us. We trust that the understanding is that they need us as much as we need them but so often as you see today that trust is misguided or false or an out and out lie.

So we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start again.

Thats what you will do.

With the love your family has for eachother.

Your lucky to have that.

You already own the wealth.

God Bless.

cars · Post by **cars** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 7:28 am

Well said Nomie!

Unfortunately, in today's job society, to the Company its workers are just a number, & statistic, to be ruthlessly dealt with to suit their own gains!

Sorry for your grief Pheasy, be strong for your man, your family, & yourself! As the saying goes: This Too Shall Pass!!! (You'll see, it will) Best Wishes!

Victoria · Post by **Victoria** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 8:42 am

So sorry to hear your news.

This is something thats happened to us a couple of times now, but we pulled through and Im sure that if you believe in each other you will too.

Good luck :-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 8:51 am

I know it seems sexist but it always seems more sad ( and frightning) to see a man cry, especially your man. You will pull togther and get through this, very much hope its sooner rather than later:-4:-4

The Rob · Post by **The Rob** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 11:20 am

That well and truly bites. Yet, instead of ruminating on the varied and sundry ways "life sucks", I prefer to continue believing that Life is one possibility after another, with an attendant opportunity for every one.

And as low as he may feel, he obviously has one indispensable asset. You.

:-6 Good Luck!

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 11:30 am

Sorry to hear this Pheasy, hopefully something comes up for you soon as I'm sure it will :-4

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:00 pm

What Nomad says above is so true......unfortunately.

The most important thing is that your man does not feel alone. He will need support...and solutions.

Here's a group hug for you and your family.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:17 pm

Pheasy - he's lucky to have you the same as you are lucky to have him.

Keep loving each other, keep talking and you'll get through it.

Supporting my husband through depression at the moment, life is bloody hard watching those you love suffering, isn't it.

:-4:-4 for you both

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 2:56 pm

Wow ... I was shocked to see all the responses here - you are all such wonderful people. We have people from all walks of life, and from all over the world, but we all seem to share a certain understanding of situations and each other:-4

Thank you Kathy and Terri for your pm's - they meant so much.

I had the stuffing knocked out of me when I saw how he was last night - so I turned to my friends, and friends I truly know you are.

He has not lost his job or anything like that. I don't think I should go into the details - just in case his partner ever visits here (if he does then he can read this 'You are a w4nker!!' - well that made me feel a little better

). Graham tries so hard. Has to put up with so much sh1t. Risked everything to come here and do this. Feels responsible for it all - like if it doesn't work out, then he has screwed our lifes up-although he should not feel like that it was a family decision. He is exhausted, so tired and it got to him. Didn't help that I was out last night, so he had loads of time alone to sit and think.

You all made such good points. I feel so lucky to have the love of a wonderful man and support of such great people.

Your comments and my own thoughts got me thinking

Even though we are in modern times. With equality and all that. There are basic instincts in a man that will never be changed - I think Kaz touched on this. They find it a lot harder to express their feelings than women do, either just by sitting and talking about their emotions or expressing them with tears. I know when my hubby cried, he must of hit rock bottom (which is way lower than the stage that will have me bawling). Men have this built in instinct that says they have to be the provider and supporter of their women and children. If it goes wrong then they failed. No one, and no time span will ever change that - its a basic male thing. I know that some of you girls out there have been let down badly by your man. I am talking about the good ones, and I feel so lucky to have one of them. I too have been let down by a man I love and trusted - not DH though.

I saw some of our mens emotions coming out in this thread and that is awesome. (Listen to me - 'our' men LOL )

Thanks again my friends, you are truly, truly wonderful people :-4

Mia · Post by **Mia** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 4:05 pm

I am so sorry,his job is his income,his life, his pride.Men need this.A sad fact of the times is there is no such thing as a job for life anymore.Sending you and all your family big hugs. xx

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 5:04 pm

I saw some of our mens emotions coming out in this thread and that is awesome. (Listen to me - 'our' men LOL ) originally posted by Phessy....

Hi Sweetie,

Hope all is a little better at home. Wow, see how loved you are here. And, the FG men are "our men" aren't they..... Every one of them is wonderful and our little cuties:-4

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 5:18 pm

sorry i haven't replied sooner but sending hugs to your family :-4

I know you will pull through this together.

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 5:09 am

Been there, it's a nasty feeling.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 8:36 am

jimbo;722182 wrote: as a man who has been broken or breaking many many times i have cried and sobbed more times than i care to remember .. its not unmanly to cry ..sometimes its out of your hands you cant win every fight ,,sometimes the odds are so stacked against you you have no chance of winning ,the very fact that you are willing to fight when you know that you are odds to lose is what makes you a man ,with you beside him fezz ant he will be back on his feet in no time ,same as with suzy beside me i know in a few months i will feel like my old self again :-6

And that my friend, is what love is all about. And has helped you, together with you determination and strength, to survive all the traumas that you sadly have had to experience.

To both Suzy and Jimbo, I know you will bounce back :-4

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 9:29 am

aw, I'm late but I still wanted to send you both big hugs and lots of love!! :yh_hugs