Postitive thoughts/My happy place

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 8:24 am

Okay, I've been in a valley for some time now, and have masked it pretty well, (at least I thought I did) until I met with a dear friend of mine mid-December and she set me straight, and gave me great advice and listened to me cry for 2 hours straight and she looked me in the eyes and said "YOU are NOT a FAILURE", because that is how I felt, I never told her that....but she knew it.

Since that day that I met with her, I've been disciplining myself to do the things that I know I should have been doing all along....I've felt better than I have in a LONG time, I sing all the time and I'm so greatful for all that God has given me.

I'm trying to keep away from negativity and not to be drawn into it like a moth to a flame...Here we are....1st week into a new year...over and gone and I've had 2 instances that I had to enforce my "happy thoughts"....

1. Last Thursday night, my son and I were discussing his finances, I am putting him on a budget/financial plan ....and I needed to know if his father was REALLY going to make him pay back $200.00 from Last January....I feel that the man OWES my boys MUCH more than this, and this is why this is a sore spot with me, but .....I have to let it go....so I call my ex, and I talk to him about the money owed and he questions me and my actions, why I am doing this, and how my son NEEDS a financial plan because everytime he sees him (which is about once every 2-3 months if my son has any say in it) he has an expensive drink in his hand....in other words....criticizing my son for his actions, even though he has done NOTHING to encourage my son throughout his 18 almost 19 years of life!! So, I get off the phone and my son is standing across the table from me, and sees my facial expression of wanting to hurt someone (and we all know who) and he smiles and says with a smirky smile "Mom, remember your happy thoughts and positive thinking".............................:-5:wah:

2. Yesterday I took my cell phone to the cell phone shop to switch over phones from my brothers account to mine. Long story, but I had 3 phones on my account and I'm down-sizing so, my brothers phone was still under contract, I cancelled my account/number and took over my brothers old cell #, this has been a task I've been working on for about 2 weeks now, through the holidays, and a part of me felt bad for taking it from my brother, but I've been paying for it and I can't do that anymore....so I finally get to the last step....taking my phone and his, and having my contacts saved to my phone with his sim card which still has service.....As I'm there, the girl starts telling me about the newer plans and phones and being a salesperson, as she is transferring my contacts....so I thought....I leave the store all happy....TRUSTING that she did transfer everything correctly. I get back to my office 10-15 minutes away and find out that she DID NOT transfer my contacts, and furthermore, DELETED them all instead!!!:-5:-5

So, I call the girl and she says...."I'm REALLY SORRY".....and I sighed a heavy sigh, thought my happy thought and said "It's okay"....:-6

So, please feel free to share your "happy thoughts" with me....I'd love to hear them!:)

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 9:48 am

WW3 you are SUCH a lovely person, you always come across as SO kind and SO caring, it's hard to believe that you could feel a failure in any way, when you so obviously are not!

But then, I can understand where you're coming from. I also love my family and friends dearly and would do anything for them, but all it needs is one person in your life, whom you love, to tell you you're a failure and it's so much easier to believe them - because we think they love us and are telling the truth - than to believe our other friends.

I had a whole pile of bad things happen to me at the end of 2005. I didn't realise it at the time but I sank into a huge swamp of depression. It's taken a long time to dig myself out and even now I can still feel it waiting to grab me back if I don't fight it off and, like you, think good and positive thoughts. So my resolution for this year is to be positive for myself and my family.

Anyhow, I was sitting here the other day, reading the posts on FG and trying to think positive thoughts, when the phone rang. It was my very best friend, Sarah, calling to invite me to come and see her new home that she's just moved into. I went the very next day. I haven't seen her for a while so it was fantastic to see her again. Her kids were at her ex's and her fiancee was playing rugby so we had the house to ourselves to just chat in for hours! She's getting married this November and we discussed her gothic-style wedding and her wedding cake - which I'm making and which I'm really excited about as I love making fancy cakes.

No sooner had I finished talking to her, than the phone rang again and it was my mother-in-law. She's bought my daughter a whole pile of clothes for her birthday, which she desperately needs. Money has been extremely tight lately and so I'm really grateful for them, the MIL also has very good taste in clothes and they all sound really nice.

Then, as soon as I had finished talking to her, the phone rang for a third time! That's unprecedented in our house! And it turned out to be the head mistress of a local school about a job! Yeehah! I applied for this job before Christmas and I thought they would hold the interviews before Christmas, so I didn't think I had been chosen. But she said that there were just SO many applications, it had been impossible to get through them all before Christmas! As it had been so long, she decided to phone the chosen candidates and invite them all for interview. So I have an interview next Monday, the 14th! Please think warm thoughts for me that day! :-4

I was so thrilled. I have been looking for a new job for a while now. My CV (resume) is good and it gets me interviews, but once at the interview I always seem to blow it!

I don't know what I'm doing wrong! One problem could be that there aren't that many suitable jobs around. You start off applying for ones you think you like and end up applying for anything you think you can do - even if you know its something you hate! Another problem is that I live in a small market town. I don't have any transport so most jobs will require an hour's commute into the nearest city and another hour home again! Most jobs seem to start at 8:30am, which means being on the bus by 7:30am at the latest, which means leaving home by 6:45am at the latest, in order to have plenty of time to get to the bus station and wait in case the bus is early. It also means I probably wont be home until about 7pm which is difficult as I need to get my daughter off to school as well and then come home to cook dinner. Not great, huh? But this job is in a school which is 5 minutes walk from me! It's perfect! I've worked in schools before and loved it! I really, really want this job and I SO hope I get it!

Sarah, has given me some interview tips and I really have my fingers crossed!

I feel so good about this positive thinking lark. I've heard a couple of times recently that we all have a voice in our heads which tells us how pathetic we are and how we're no good at anything. The people who say it (like Paul McKenna) say you should beat up that little voice and kill it. You can do whatever you think you can, you just have to think it. Even with silly things, for instance, filling up a salt shaker. The little voice in your head says 'how do you think you're going to pour salt from a huge tub into a tiny hole in a little salt cellar without spilling it everywhere?' You think 'uh-oh, I'm not' and you spill it everywhere as you knew you would! But tell the voice to get stuffed and you pour the salt in perfectly - as you knew you could! It's a lame example, but it's good to believe in yourself - we are all SO much better than those negative people in our lives tell us we are!

Sorry to rabbit on - I just wanted to share my 'happy thoughts' with you.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 10:40 am

Rapunzel....:-4

Thank you so much for that, I enjoyed reading that throughly!! I am praying for you to get that job and that is so encouraging that good things happened to you!!

I am so thankful that you shared your happy thoughts, and want to hear more anytime you feel the need to share.

Thank you for the kind things you said, and yes...I've been stomped on in life a few times, usually come back up swinging...but like you...this last battle caused me to get into a deep depression, of course I was able to function and very few realized (myself included) how bad the depression was hurting me. I'm crawling out now, and getting to the top....I am thankful for the good people in my life and hold on to the positive moments in my life....and that evil voice....hmpf!!

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 10:47 am

well ww3 and rapunzel, I loved reading about you happy thoughts and a little bit of your life. Im a reality tv freak so I love these kind of posts.

Cant say I really have any positive thoughts to share right now but when I do, ill come and post them here

Keep up that happy happy happy positive thinking:-6

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 11:41 am

:-4:-4:-4 to our lovely WW3 and Rap. Good luck to you both and thank you for the happy thoughts.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:33 pm

Chezzie;755395 wrote: well ww3 and rapunzel, I loved reading about you happy thoughts and a little bit of your life. Im a reality tv freak so I love these kind of posts.

Cant say I really have any positive thoughts to share right now but when I do, ill come and post them here

Keep up that happy happy happy positive thinking I could SO entertain you for hours then....never thought that would be a possiblity!! ME?? Entertaining.....HA!!:wah:

Imladris;755436 wrote: to our lovely WW3 and Rap. Good luck to you both and thank you for the happy thoughts.:-4 Thanks IMMY!! You are such a sweetheart, don't care what Jimbo says about you!

jimbo;755475 wrote: WW thanks for posting ... that made me think that i'm not the only one that the sun dont shine on :rolleyes::rolleyes: not really super wendy hang on in there how much worse can our lives get
Thanks Jimbo, you are too right....now that I'm crawling upwards (again) I see that I am going to be okay....I was in a real dark place....and didn't like it at all....I read something the other day that made me chuckle....It was in a book I'm reading and the author wrote: "There is light at the end of the tunnel and no, its not a train"....I started laughing and thought....ha....that's what I would've thought.:rolleyes:

I thought more about what Rap said about it being hard to believe that I felt like a failure, the truth of the matter is....Wendy used to think SHE had to do everything perfect....almost 5 years ago, I was left to fend for myself and 3 boys, and I've fought and fought to keep our home, make sure the boys were well cared for....Recently I have had to come to grips that I'm NOT Wonder Woman....only play one on TV....and that's okay!:)

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:04 pm

Wendy, I'm glad to hear things are getting better for you.

I wish for the sunbeams of Happiness to stay on you path!:-6

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Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:49 pm

Nomad;755581 wrote: genital herpes

not today thanks for offering:wah:

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WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 5:49 pm

fuzzy butt;755545 wrote: And you reckon I've helped you in the past huh?

When trully it is YOU who gives ME inspiration.:-6

And that OP did exactly that.

I'm becoming a little sick and tired of what goes on in my family and something recently really got to me.

My sister who suffers Bipolar and that aside is a complete bitch. ( she uses her bipolar to get away with the most disgusting insults and then turns it around and plays the victim) she hated the fact that about fifteen years ago after I'd come out of hospital and seeking the attention of my mother who was looking after me and so drugged up that maybe i was an easy target, went me with a barrage of abuse. (No matter i took care of it once I was well ) Then she accused my eldest sister a few years ago of "carrying on, and only trying to seek attention" (My sister was having the first of many MS attacks which were quite severe)

And the latest episode brings us to the present in telling my husband that " half the family hates your guts" which I only found out in the last couple of days.

do I go to my mother with this ? Well I sat down and had a good think about it and began to laugh at what she said. You see she's always acted this way she's cunning and decietful, a liar, a pretender, and she likes to cause hurt just to sit back and watch others deal with it. This is her , this is what she does and she's not going to change. She'll be an extremely lonely old woman one day, that's if i don't out her before hand and she goes off and commits suicide.

So I'm going to leave it, smile and pity her.

Be the change you want to see. Well yesterday although I go to the beach quite often I never swim............I dived into the ocean and didnt' come out again for over an hour. It was uplifting and the first time i've swam so far in around 18 years. and I discovered what made me the person I was once long ago before family and kids and responsibilities . I needed to get that back into my life so I didn't see life as just the rotten crap.

I escaped if you will, and I've decided I'm going to do that more and more because that is me, that's what I am, all the rest is just the thing I do, but it's not ME . Thanks wenders I needed that OP. tah babes.

Oh and I'm going up to the Kimberlys this year. So if anyone is thinking of wanting to come with me and meet some friends of mine up there you're most welcome to join me

:-4Fuzzy Butt:-4

YOU know you have helped me oh so many times, and I was thinking about that on the way home from work today, about the people online that have been such an inspiration to me and there for me when I need to vent, and they just listen....I'm so very greatful....

When you said about YOU being YOU at the beach....I started to tear up, I can relate to that 100%. I think about the times in the future that I will have little responsibility, and how that will feel? I know that I need to enjoy every moment I have in the present and embrace the future instead of dreading it...(trust me I was for a while there).

So Sistah Fuzzy one....thank you for being my sweet friend....:-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 5:49 pm

Lisa;755544 wrote: Wendy, I'm glad to hear things are getting better for you.

I wish for the sunbeams of Happiness to stay on you path!:-6

Thank you Lisa, you are such a sweetheart, thanks for being there for me!!:-4:-4:-4

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Tue Jan 08, 2008 7:16 pm

WW3 and Rapunzel - keep up the happy thoughts. Don't let anyone drag you down with negative vibes or smart-ass remarks.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 3:03 pm

moonpie;755668 wrote: WW3 and Rapunzel - keep up the happy thoughts. Don't let anyone drag you down with negative vibes or smart-ass remarks.

Thank you Moonpie....have to take the good with the bad!!:)