Just how mean can you be?

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 7:23 am

What is the meanest, nastiest thing you have posted or emailed to anyone, with the intent to hurt their feelings?

Did you feel justified at the time? Do you still feel justified, later? Does it make you laugh when you think of it? Does it make you feel bad about yourself?

I always save potentially harmful emails or post as drafts and notepad files and then go back to them at least several hours later to see if I really want to say what I've said. But once it's gone, I generally have no doubts about content or motive, I'm just done with it. Now.....once in a while, there will be something I've posted or emailed that I'll go back and look at and it still cracks me up that I've been that clever:D

Why am I asking this stupid kind of question, you may ask? Well, got up this morning and saw nothing to post to on the board and said to myself, 'self, you can at least put something up there, even if it is asinine, before blowing off the site to go play games somewhere else...'

And here it is... anyone care to post their meanness?:p:-6

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 8:03 am

I don't think I have ever e-mailed or posted a nasty thing to anyone. I can't remember anyone upsetting me to the point of wanting or needing too. I f someone has tried to upset me then it seems they have failed. I figure if I let someone upset me to the point of making me mad or ruining my day, then I have just made them a powerful influence over my life and mood. I refuse to cede that kind of power to unknowns on the web especially.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 8:53 am

grh;759145 wrote: What is the meanest, nastiest thing you have posted or emailed to anyone, with the intent to hurt their feelings?

Did you feel justified at the time? Do you still feel justified, later? Does it make you laugh when you think of it? Does it make you feel bad about yourself?

I always save potentially harmful emails or post as drafts and notepad files and then go back to them at least several hours later to see if I really want to say what I've said. But once it's gone, I generally have no doubts about content or motive, I'm just done with it. Now.....once in a while, there will be something I've posted or emailed that I'll go back and look at and it still cracks me up that I've been that clever:D

Why am I asking this stupid kind of question, you may ask? Well, got up this morning and saw nothing to post to on the board and said to myself, 'self, you can at least put something up there, even if it is asinine, before blowing off the site to go play games somewhere else...'

And here it is... anyone care to post their meanness?:p:-6

geez! you could have just asked what color our shower curtains are or whatever.... :rolleyes:

but I've never intentionally set out to hurt someone....bad karma and all that poop....if someone feels the need to start something with me I try to resolve it or I just ignore them.

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 9:06 am

Well, since I can't decide which of my most recent is the worst, I won't put any of them up. I guess it's just as well since the rest of you are such frickin' angels!:rolleyes::D

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 9:09 am

Ya know what my problem is? I don't go for the badmouthing about folks behind their backs... I go right at them directly.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'll make fun of anyone behind their back, but i'll only attack them to their face

littlemissgiggle · Post by **littlemissgiggle** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:41 am

I don't think i have ever upset anyone and have never been upset on here either.

but a good point.

and Sheryl what colour is your shower curtain?

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:56 am

littlemissgiggle;759236 wrote: I don't think i have ever upset anyone and have never been upset on here either.

but a good point.

and Sheryl what colour is your shower curtain?

I might well have upset people with what I post but I have never set out to hurt anybody and I cannot imagine a circumstance in which I would do so.

From what I've seen it just rebounds on the one who starts it.

theia · Post by **theia** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:03 am

I'm evil when I think someone's hurt me

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:31 am

The only time I was less than kind about someone they discovered it and I felt so small and so bad I won't do it again.

If I disagree with someone I'll tell them but I won't make it personal and I won't do it behind their backs.

I'm no saint but I had so much of this sort of stuff at school and in my first job that I know just how bad it feels!

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:35 am

I have never meant to upset anyone by what I post. But have thought I may have done in the past ........ I will have to try and get over this whole 'yes it was me, my fault' problem - I blame my parents

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 12:15 pm

Bryn Mawr;759247 wrote: I might well have upset people with what I post but I have never set out to hurt anybody and I cannot imagine a circumstance in which I would do so.

From what I've seen it just rebounds on the one who starts it.

If you post something that you know is going to hurt someone, does that count though? If someone keeps at you until you just bluntly state your feelings rather then trying to couch it in polite terms, is that an out?

I never start things. I find I quite often finish things, however. And I've found that people take it very personally when I can no longer be bothered with them. This i find most strange. People really don't like it when you tell them to leave you the f alone, ya know? It's like you're being rude to them rather then the other way around.:rolleyes:

And god forbid I tell someone the truth about themselves- as I see it...:sneaky::wah:

ilona17 · Post by **ilona17** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 12:15 pm

Well once somebody I really loved hurt me bad.

And then i used everything I got to know about them over the space of about two years. & Wrote them a really nasty e-mail attacking everything they ever told me or said they would do. I wont go into details but it was really mean and definently intended to hurt.

It felt good at the time to get it all out of my system, but when that wore off I just felt bad.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 12:30 pm

I try to be everyone's friend, and be nuetral and not cause any problems.....and well, of course that doesn't work. I accept people for who they are at face value, and try not to judge others. However, I do get offended just like everyone else, and I have a hard time with bullies....my favorite is being TOLD how I feel about a situation....I don't do well with that since I have a lot of experience with control freaks and people that aren't wrapped real tight if you know what I mean.

As to answer the OP's question. I really can't be mean....I state how I feel and I stand up for myself, but to fight it out, just isn't me. I get all upset and just end up crying like the big baby I am!!:p:wah::wah:

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:27 pm

theia;759252 wrote: I'm evil when I think someone's hurt me

I can't imagine that Theia.

I know I have hurt some peoples feelings as they have mine.

I get hurt I want to hurt back.

Isn't that human nature?:o

I am learning to ignore though.

Slowly,very slowly.:-6

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:47 pm

mrsK;759339 wrote: I can't imagine that Theia.

I know I have hurt some peoples feelings as they have mine.

I get hurt I want to hurt back.

Isn't that human nature?:o

I am learning to ignore though.

Slowly,very slowly.:-6

yeah right! I want dates and times! :wah:

I have never seen you be even slightly off with anyone!:p

theia · Post by **theia** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:59 pm

mrsK;759339 wrote: I can't imagine that Theia.

I know I have hurt some peoples feelings as they have mine.

I get hurt I want to hurt back.

Isn't that human nature?:oI am learning to ignore though.

Slowly,very slowly.:-6

Nor me with you, MrsK...but, phew, I'm glad you posted because I was beginning to think I was being a little too honest

It's interesting though, when I think about it. Why, if I believe someone has hurt me, do I want to hurt them back? Why would I imagine that would help me? I must have a wonder about that

Post by **Betty Boop** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 3:13 pm

theia;759361 wrote: Nor me with you, MrsK...but, phew, I'm glad you posted because I was beginning to think I was being a little too honest

It's interesting though, when I think about it. Why, if I believe someone has hurt me, do I want to hurt them back? Why would I imagine that would help me? I must have a wonder about that

Well, I've been puzzling all evening, trying to imagine you being mean! :wah:

The saying goes, Revenge is Sweet, I've never been one for revenge, my saying is Revenge makes you as bitter and twisted as them.

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:09 pm

l'm with you JAB totally blew me away :wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:11 pm

:wah: It is Tuesday November the 5th right? :wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:37 pm

JAB;759478 wrote: Uhm, what size white jacket should we be ordering for you? :-2

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 8:18 pm

Son of a frickin' female dog!!:mad:

Another of my threads hijacked!:-5

Can't you Neanderthals and all the associated girlie friends go hang out in one of the G.D. 'Hillary the lesbo' threads!!!???

heheheh

grh · Post by **grh** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 8:38 pm

Jester;759511 wrote: Now dont go spreading rumors thats mean!:sneaky:

OK, the meanest thing I ever done I cant put in print. but one of the meanest things I ever done was throw a guy through a sliding glass window, and off a second story balcony for being, shall we say, disagreeable.

I think thats pretty mean!

If I didn't love you before, I would now!!!:-4:yh_rotfl

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:31 pm

Being mean is a character trait I have thankfully not succumed to my entire life. Being mean is meaningless vengence. It is a fruitless endeavor, which results in nothing. Two years ago i did send a straightforward, well deserved, no holds barred e mail to someone. They later described it as very hurtful. I didnt want to hurt this person, but I couldnt have them think that they had gotten away with treating me badly. Very badly. It shook me up to write it, but I honestly kind of felt good about having the courage to make this person aware of my realizing what they had done to me. Ive never seen her again, I have no desire to see her again, and I hope I never have to write anything like that e mail again.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Fri Jan 18, 2008 7:51 am

littlemissgiggle;759236 wrote: I don't think i have ever upset anyone and have never been upset on here either.

but a good point.

and Sheryl what colour is your shower curtain?

sunny, sheryl, whatever........:p

:wah: