I call Bull shiite

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sun Jul 10, 2005 6:31 pm

Geez - I'm 49 years old and my family (mom) is upset with me getting married. I have money - yes - and my hubby and I have money together. My Mom moved clothes into one of the extra bedrooms - HINT - HINT - not ever going to happen!!

I am very upset that my family does not see how happy I am - for the first time in 14 years. I guess I was supposed to be a lonely spinster and care take my Mom. I chose a life full of love, frienship and partnership with a man instead. Bad Vanessa!!!!

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sun Jul 10, 2005 6:55 pm

I never asked for advice. Our kids are grown and we are having our 2nd childhood and planning for retirement together. I thought I would be alone the rest of my life and now I have a man who wants and is my partner - go fvcking figure!!!!! To find a love when I was sure I'd be run over by a semi on the highway first is a great joy to me.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 4:02 am

I recommend you take a moment to look at her as another adult, as in equal to you, as in your peer, and things will clear up.

Now you have someone and she doesn't. It's probably that simple. Find the nearest bingo parlour for her so she can meet kids her own age. :-4

Jives · Post by **Jives** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 7:30 am

Love always seems to find you when you aren't looking for it. Now....try to find it on a Saturday night when you're desperate for it, and you'd have better luck trying to find a oak tree in the Antartic!:D

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 11:34 am

flopstock wrote: Now if memory serves...might we know the prospective groom? Because, if we just 'might' know the groom, this liberated woman says..let him handle it.

afterall nv, why hit them with a rifle when you have a bazooka at your side...hehehe.

And if we don't know this fella... i should probably go back and reread a few posts..eh? :wah:

You know BTS and that is probably why my Mom is upset :wah: He speaks his mind and can be a bazooka at times. I need someone I can't overrun with my "strong personality".

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 12:30 pm

nvalleyvee wrote: You know BTS and that is probably why my Mom is upset :wah: He speaks his mind and can be a bazooka at times. I need someone I can't overrun with my "strong personality".
In that case, forget bingo. Get her on line. After all, what's good for the goose is good for the ... er ... whatever it is you call the goose's mother! :p

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 5:14 pm

The Mom is on my ignore list. :driving:

Nuthrday · Post by **Nuthrday** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 5:54 pm

You are one very very lucky woman, but you know that!! Good luck, don't let anybody rain on your luuuv parade!!

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 5:55 pm

I hear her say - give me, give me, give me - you owe me. What do I owe her for? For leaving me with my Grandparents for 8 years after Dad died, for not talking to her for 10 years after I screamed out of home to go to college at 16 - for forgiving her. As someone said here - she feels so much guilt she's not done raising me yet :-5 . She's jealous I found happiness amidst all her crisis. Did I mention she isn't happy unless there is a crisis for her to solve. No crisis here - maybe she's trying to create one? OMG - did I just vent in public?

mominiowa · Post by **mominiowa** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 6:01 pm

Ohhhhhhhhhh NV- I am thinking of you.....Hang in there - Went through a similar thing-- after my divorce..I went on "1" date with a guy who never asked me out again...Hmm I thought - 4 kids were way to much..Just ran into him and he asked how the kids were, myself etc...and then said--"I always thought I should have explained why I never called again....but now you are married- so that must mean your brother moved away?" I was like HUH? Then he told me, my brother who is a slight 11 months older then had run into him and told him not to call, not to come over, and never talk to me again....I was sooooo mad- I am a happy married person now - and at first they were all very upset, worst was my mother and my brother...when you go through a divorce and your family- helps you pick up the pieces, they think u will never make that mistake again, and if u choose to, then they will put a stop to it...You have what I call "YOUR 12 YEAR OLD PANTS ON"-- I had to tell my mom I wasn't 12 anymore and to just get over it...It will be a year that I have been remarried and there are still 2 sisters that don't think he is good enough--but OHHHHHH Flippin Well! Good luck honey--its your heart....LET IT BEAT!

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Jul 11, 2005 6:06 pm

Dang Mominiowa you hit it on the head. My ex left me when I was doing chemo - I met BTS a short time after the bastardo left me. I was too tired to handle things by myself at that time and had help from my family. BTS is not the bastardo but I can only assume they think I'm making another mistake. They have only met BTS once or twice and have no idea about the loving caring man he is to me.