always the bad guy

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 8:36 am

Good grief Jimbo. I don't see anything unreasonable about what you tried to do. How is that putting the dog before your daughter? You offered a fair deal. When you have pets you have to think of their wellbeing too and sometimes they're inconvenient. But didn't your daughter *want* Alfie to start with? Now she is learning the inconvenience part. I don't understand her mom pitching a witch about it, that's really unwarranted. As for your daughter, well she's 12. Girls that age often act like little princesses. I seriously don't think she meant that she didnt want to talk to you again. She's just in a snit, I think. I can imagine how frustrated you are over this. I know I would be. And NO, I don't think you're bad at all! :-6

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 8:43 am

Just remember Jimbo, with women and children and especially women style children you will alaways be wrong. Just apologize for all your shortcomings and do what you are told.:wah::rolleyes:

Trunk Monkey · Post by **Trunk Monkey** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 9:16 am

Seems to me your daughter wanted to spend "quality time" alone with you without the distraction of alfie. She seems to be jealous of the time you have to devote to the puppy and not spend all of your attention on her. Is there no friend or family member that could watch alfie for a few days for you? She again, IMO, just wants to spend time alone with her dad.

Trunk Monkey · Post by **Trunk Monkey** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 9:51 am

jimbo;933320 wrote: a point of view that i had not thought of

my daughter was the one that wanted alfie to come in the first place ,she wanted him to sleep in her tent ,what kid would not want to spend the day playing in the surf with a puppy

i cant let anyone else look after the puppy sue thinks much more of the poop factory than she does me

Maybe she's afraid that alfie will get hurt or lost if he goes camping? Maybe she misses sue and is just lashing out that the three of you can't go camping together? I don't know here jimbo but you did nothing wrong and I would tell her (your daughter) that you and alfie are going camping with or without her. See what she has to say about that and have you asked her why the puppy is no longer wanted on this camping trip? Children this age are hiding true feelings and I would just ask her nicely why she has changed her mind.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:36 pm

Jimbo.............you could never be the "bad guy". Believe that.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:42 pm

Trunk Monkey;933317 wrote: Seems to me your daughter wanted to spend "quality time" alone with you without the distraction of alfie. She seems to be jealous of the time you have to devote to the puppy and not spend all of your attention on her. Is there no friend or family member that could watch alfie for a few days for you? She again, IMO, just wants to spend time alone with her dad.

I agree with this Jimbo...

The puppy being young means that it needs the extra attention...

Honestly I would take all of this as a good thing in consideration that your daughter wants to spend time with you without any interruptions...Her being only 12 only heightens her feelings of ,..I don't want to say neglect because that's much too strong of a word, but rather she just doesn't want to be the second wheel...

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:44 pm

jimbo;933320 wrote: a point of view that i had not thought of

my daughter was the one that wanted alfie to come in the first place ,she wanted him to sleep in her tent ,what kid would not want to spend the day playing in the surf with a puppy

i cant let anyone else look after the puppy sue thinks much more of the poop factory than she does me

She's probably realized how much of a killjoy the puppy would be between you and herself...At first she probably wanted the puppy to come along but then realized that this would cut into the time between yourself and her...She's obviously significantly more fond of yourself than she is of the puppy which shows by the proof in her mannerism...

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:47 pm

I would suggest if you do take Alfie along camping with the two of you that you try and pay closer attention to your daughter even when the little critter is sh!tting all over the place...

:wah:

Her feeling of neglect is common with new arrivals...

So I'm thinking this has alot to do with her being upset...

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:57 pm

Jimbo, your daughters behaviour is normal, she's 12 and who knows what their thinking from one minute to the next, I bet right now shes already regretting it all and just wants to go camping with you both.

Her Mum however, her behaviour isnt excusable and no wonder you daughter behaves like that, she has a good role model for it.

Your such a fab dad, warm and caring and you have bad dad jokes, how could you be in the wrong??

Leave her to come round Jimbo....Your doing ALL the right things:-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 2:25 pm

Nope Jimbo, you're making your daughter have to follow thru on a commitment she made. If you let her tantrum you into doing things just because she changed her mind, she'll do this all the time...and it will get worse. Trust me, I have 3 daughters...24,20 & 16. And it definitely sounds like mom is not a very good rolemodel. Stick to your guns.:-6