Should Women Over “A Certain Age Show Off Their Cleavage?

cars · Post by **cars** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:24 am

Did anyone happen to see Dancing with the Stars? Chloris Leachman showed off enough cleavage for two!!! She's "82"!!! :wah::D;):)

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:28 am

Milly;1066021 wrote: LOL.... I guess we all have differing opinions of what we perceive to be 'proper'... I don't see my wearing a top or a dress exposing a little cleavage as 'improper' just as I don't see your wearing a dress above the knee as such.....

I believe being a 'lady' is all about how one conducts oneself.... not about the packaging

you're exactly right, being a lady has quite a bit to do with how you conduct yourself! :-6

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:30 am

Odie;1066027 wrote: you are one classy lady!:-4

well thank you darlin! :-4

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:38 am

Milly;1066030 wrote: Can I ask what is considered to be slutty?

slutty is a very offensive term it means giving the appearance of being sexually promiscuous, but people have begun to use it to describe just wearing revealing clothing, i don't know if its a proper description to be using!

Milly · Post by **Milly** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:41 am

Hope6;1066041 wrote: slutty is a very offensive term it means giving the appearance of being sexually promiscuous, but people have begun to use it to describe just wearing revealing clothing, i don't know if its a proper description to be using!

No sweetie, it isn't nice at all and is extremely offensive..... Never judge a book by it's cover I say... you may just miss out on the best person you could have ever known....

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:43 am

Milly;1066042 wrote: No sweetie, it isn't nice at all..... Never judge a book by it's cover I say... you may just miss out on the best person you could have ever known....

yeah it's not nice and i have never called anyone a slut, you're right we shouldn't judge a book by it's cover! :-6

Milly · Post by **Milly** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:44 am

hope6;1066043 wrote: yeah it's not nice and i have never called anyone a slut, you're right we shouldn't judge a book by it's cover! :-6

:-4

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 8:16 am

Touchstone;1065995 wrote: I dunno. I"m not too good at bra sizes. Is 34B more or less than a handfull?

Ryan.

Yeah:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 8:53 am

Hope6;1066041 wrote: slutty is a very offensive term it means giving the appearance of being sexually promiscuous, but people have begun to use it to describe just wearing revealing clothing, i don't know if its a proper description to be using!

alot of the teens and adults dress slutty, (not all) meaning very little clothing whatsoever.

-short/tight tank tops, bra tops, showing off their belly button and up.

-short shorts, wearing them below the belly line.

-tight skirts that come up to their asses.

If I had a daughter, she certainly wouldn't be dressed like that.

in my opinion, there is no age group for dressing like that.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:05 am

Odie;1066115 wrote: alot of the teens and adults dress slutty, (not all) meaning very little clothing whatsoever.

-short/tight tank tops, bra tops, showing off their belly button and up.

-short shorts, wearing them below the belly line.

-tight skirts that come up to their asses.

If I had a daughter, she certainly wouldn't be dressed like that.

in my opinion, there is no age group for dressing like that.

I don't dress like that, but my daughters do. And they are not sluts!:mad:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:19 am

qsducks;1066131 wrote: I don't dress like that, but my daughters do. And they are not sluts!:mad:

I said, dress slutty, not sluts.:-5

and I also said, if it was MY daughter......

everyone has the right to their own opinions.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:25 am

Odie;1066158 wrote: I said, slutty looking, not sluts.:-5

and I also said, if it was MY daughter......

everyone has the right to their own opinions.

Ok....yeah, but my daughter's do wear those tank tops, etc. and I think they look cute..I'd kill to have their bods again:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:28 am

qsducks;1066164 wrote: Ok....yeah, but my daughter's do wear those tank tops, etc. and I think they look cute..I'd kill to have their bods again:wah:

yeah, some do look really cute, and when I was younger, we all wore mini-skirts.....and back then, it was a no-no!

their bods......what are those?:yh_rotfl

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:32 am

Odie;1066167 wrote: yeah, some do look really cute, and when I was younger, we all wore mini-skirts.....and back then, it was a no-no!

their bods......what are those?:yh_rotfl

Bodies...:wah: Tight little arses, flat tummies, etc.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:37 am

qsducks;1066171 wrote: Bodies...:wah: Tight little arses, flat tummies, etc.

my neighbours daughter is 15, wow, she looks so cute......but I am so afraid for her, she has already been assaulted twice!

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:56 am

Odie;1066115 wrote: alot of the teens and adults dress slutty, (not all) meaning very little clothing whatsoever.

-short/tight tank tops, bra tops, showing off their belly button and up.

-short shorts, wearing them below the belly line.

-tight skirts that come up to their asses.

If I had a daughter, she certainly wouldn't be dressed like that.

in my opinion, there is no age group for dressing like that.

if i had a daughter she would never dress that way either!

i have some friends who have a 14 year old girl and all her friends wear the mid driff baring tops and the short skirts but they don't allow her to!

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 10:03 am

Hope6;1066201 wrote: if i had a daughter she would never dress that way either!

i have some friends who have a 14 year old girl and all her friends wear the mid driff baring tops and the short skirts but they don't allow her to!

as I was saying to ducks, yes, they look cute, but my neighbours daughter who dresses like that, has also been assaulted twice.

my daughter would never be aloud to dress like either, for many reasons, it gives guys the wrong idea for one, and their minds are only one thing anyway, why give them the wrong impression? -it also encourages sexual attacks.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 11:53 am

Odie;1066212 wrote: as I was saying to ducks, yes, they look cute, but my neighbours daughter who dresses like that, has also been assaulted twice.

my daughter would never be aloud to dress like either, for many reasons, it gives guys the wrong idea for one, and their minds are only one thing anyway, why give them the wrong impression? -it also encourages sexual attacks.

yeah that was the thing my mom was always so concerned about when i was younger, you never dressed in a way to make a guy think of you in a sexual way, that was a big thing with her, also you never discussed anything sexually related in mixed company, i can remember as a little girl, talking to a boy cousin of mine about a new puppy i had gotten and being scolded by my mother because i told him the puppy was a boy! :-3

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 12:01 pm

Odie;1066212 wrote: as I was saying to ducks, yes, they look cute, but my neighbours daughter who dresses like that, has also been assaulted twice.

my daughter would never be aloud to dress like either, for many reasons, it gives guys the wrong idea for one, and their minds are only one thing anyway, why give them the wrong impression? -it also encourages sexual attacks.

It does not encourage sexual attacks. Men rape women so they can have control over them. What a woman or a girl wears has nothing to do with it. My daughters have never been attacked/assaulted in any way. What a girl/woman wears is what they are comfy in and if they choose to wear tank tops, etc. whatever! Rapists attack woman for only one reason and that is the CONTROL thing! Get your facts straight.

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 12:45 pm

*ahem* AWKWARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol my mom has taught me if you've got them flaunt them... but i don't flaunt them... what would i be trying to say about myself if i did?

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 1:29 pm

Omni_Skittles;1066510 wrote: *ahem* AWKWARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol my mom has taught me if you've got them flaunt them... but i don't flaunt them... what would i be trying to say about myself if i did?

I don't teach my daughter's to flaunt them...they are young girls who dress the way they want to. What is wrong with that? This thread is becoming sexist IMO and some people are actually implying that if a girl/woman wears a tank top and shows off her boobs/cleavage, she's asking for it?

No wonder half the rapists in this country get off court wise. People like you let them get away with it. Women/girls do not "ask for it". Rapists are pigs who like to control women/girls with thier weapon. You could be wearing a nun's habit and still be raped. Jeez. Ignorance is amazing.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 1:32 pm

jimbo;1066543 wrote: the only thing she would be asking for is sunburn :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Daughter was on the beach last summer and got that sunburn:wah: I did teach her to use sunlotion. Grrrr.

Touchstone · Post by **Touchstone** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 2:10 pm

Hope6;1066014 wrote: actually i think it's more fun to leave a lot to the imagination! :sneaky:

but no i'm not a prude! :wah:

and actually hollywood movies tend to show a view that isn't quite acurate sometimes!

it that time period the only time a lady wore a low cut dress was to very special occasions like balls and such, the rest of the time they wore clothing with a much higher neckline!

Well I agree Hope! Hollywood certainly doesn't reflect real American life. If They did their movies wouldn't sell as well.

It is obvious from what I have learnt about you from your posts that you are a lady ... a real lady and that is certainly something to be proud of. Living where I do I never come in contact with southern belles or any other belles for that matter, but if I did I am sure they would be exactly like you ... real ladies!!

Ryan.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 3:59 pm

qsducks;1066438 wrote: It does not encourage sexual attacks. Men rape women so they can have control over them. What a woman or a girl wears has nothing to do with it. My daughters have never been attacked/assaulted in any way. What a girl/woman wears is what they are comfy in and if they choose to wear tank tops, etc. whatever! Rapists attack woman for only one reason and that is the CONTROL thing! Get your facts straight.

your now becoming defensive.

Did I say rape?

no, sexual assaults/attacks.

-and not all rapists are what you described.

-its not always about being in control.

google and read up on ALL of them.

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-some are drunk

-some do it for the fun of it, ex: several men having intercourse with one woman/rape.

-some from their obsession with porn.

-some to assert that he is no longer a virgin, to then show off to his friends

-some because their country accepts it as being alright to do.

etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.

-sexual attacters as I described are all different, my neighbours attacker was 19 and drunk, he did not rape her, huge difference from rape and sexual atttacks:-5

I was sexully assaulted when I was 16, not raped. He had threatend me....he was 25.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 4:06 pm

I have a hard time buying clothes as my top half is far larger than my bottom half.

I think the time to decide what age is right to stop flashing the flesh has to be that moment when you take your 'boulder holder' off and the contents crash down to your knees.

No woman has a right to hoist these deflated puddings up into a boulder holder and pretend they are still as pert as the day they first appeared.

The worst for me is not only seeing a pair of withered saggy old tits crammed into a low cut top, but when they're covered in stretch marks too....... pass the sick bucket please.

:yh_ooooo:yh_ooooo:yh_ooooo:yh_ooooo

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 4:13 pm

sooooooooo true!

my turn, sick bucket please.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 4:49 pm

Odie;1066657 wrote: sooooooooo true!

my turn, sick bucket please.

Sick bucket to you Odie :yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:00 pm

oscar;1066671 wrote: Sick bucket to you Odie :yh_rotfl

thanks Oscar, got another one?:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:03 pm

Odie;1066676 wrote: thanks Oscar, got another one?:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

I got two just incase I'm sick twice so you have the spare one on me. :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:09 pm

oscar;1066679 wrote: I got two just incase I'm sick twice so you have the spare one on me. :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

:yh_rotfl

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:16 pm

Touchstone;1066580 wrote: Well I agree Hope! Hollywood certainly doesn't reflect real American life. If They did their movies wouldn't sell as well.

It is obvious from what I have learnt about you from your posts that you are a lady ... a real lady and that is certainly something to be proud of. Living where I do I never come in contact with southern belles or any other belles for that matter, but if I did I am sure they would be exactly like you ... real ladies!!

Ryan.

well thank you for the compliment kind sir! :wah: you are a very forgiving gentleman, sorry to put a damper on your thread!

but yeah i think Hollywood is always thinking what will sell more than what is historically accurate!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:23 pm

Can I be a complete bitch for a moment?? Oh i forgot, I'm always a bitch.....anyway, Why is it, that it is more the obese ladie's who wear short cropped tops showing off their stretch marks that look like a guide to Britain's B roads? Some have arsses the size of a London bus, yet they wear a thong that is two inches above the line of the hip level muffin skirt they're wearing.

I don't like thongs.. It's like having a bit of dental floss stuck up your crack.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:30 pm

oscar;1066690 wrote: Can I be a complete bitch for a moment?? Oh i forgot, I'm always a bitch.....anyway, Why is it, that it is more the obese ladie's who wear short cropped tops showing off their stretch marks that look like a guide to Britain's B roads? Some have arsses the size of a London bus, yet they wear a thong that is two inches above the line of the hip level muffin skirt they're wearing.

I don't like thongs.. It's like having a bit of dental floss stuck up your crack.

I think THEY assume they look good, or perhaps because they are obese and feeling they need confidence to dress like the others do?

and your not a bitch.....as you and I are just stating our own opinions, nothing wrong with that bitch!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:-4

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:46 pm

Odie;1066695 wrote: I think THEY assume they look good, or perhaps because they are obese and feeling they need confidence to dress like the others do?

and your not a bitch.....as you and I are just stating our own opinions, nothing wrong with that bitch!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:-4

That's it Odie, not a bitch just merely making observations regarding dress sense in the female salad avoiding population. :yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:05 pm

oscar;1066706 wrote: That's it Odie, not a bitch just merely making observations regarding dress sense in the female salad avoiding population. :yh_rotfl

so you wanna to play tough Oscar?

when you go to bed tonight, you just be aware of little green men with glowing green heads in you bed!:yh_rotfl

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:09 pm

qsducks;1066540 wrote: I don't teach my daughter's to flaunt them...they are young girls who dress the way they want to. What is wrong with that? This thread is becoming sexist IMO and some people are actually implying that if a girl/woman wears a tank top and shows off her boobs/cleavage, she's asking for it?

No wonder half the rapists in this country get off court wise. People like you let them get away with it. Women/girls do not "ask for it". Rapists are pigs who like to control women/girls with thier weapon. You could be wearing a nun's habit and still be raped. Jeez. Ignorance is amazing.You have a really good point. I myself won't do that... but that's just because I was raised that way with my birth mom. Coming from her perspective... she was raped for dressing like that in her mind. so she just always taught me not to flaunt because some guys are pigs. My adopted mom def has a different perspective.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:17 pm

Hope6;1066417 wrote: yeah that was the thing my mom was always so concerned about when i was younger, you never dressed in a way to make a guy think of you in a sexual way, that was a big thing with her, also you never discussed anything sexually related in mixed company, i can remember as a little girl, talking to a boy cousin of mine about a new puppy i had gotten and being scolded by my mother because i told him the puppy was a boy! :-3

my mom was the same, I didn't understand it at the time, but always did what she told me to, then later I realised she was right that men do get the wrong impression and do think of you in a sexual way.

wow, being scolded about a puppy? that's to strict.

sorry to hear you had such a rough up-bringing.

but good to hear our mom's were much the same, and my mom raised me well.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:24 pm

Odie;1066738 wrote: so you wanna to play tough Oscar?

when you go to bed tonight, you just be aware of little green men with glowing green heads in you bed!:yh_rotfl

They're already here Odie. the spaceship landed about two hours ago and the aliens are raiding the fridge and watching tv right now. As soon as i go to bed, they will be breeding again. NANU NANU :yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:26 pm

oscar;1066752 wrote: They're already here Odie. the spaceship landed about two hours ago and the aliens are raiding the fridge and watching tv right now. As soon as i go to bed, they will be breeding again. NANU NANU :yh_rotfl

and thanks to your breeding, now they have come here, and I just went grocery shopping:-5:-5

NANU NANU!:yh_rotfl

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:26 pm

Odie;1066750 wrote: my mom was said the same, I didn't understand it at the time, but always did what she told me to, then later I realised she was right that men do get the wrong impression and do think of you in a sexual way.

wow, being scolded about a puppy? that's to strict.

sorry to hear you had such a rough up-bringing.

but good to hear our mom's were much the same, and my mom raised me well.

My Mother was terribly British. She wore a twin set and pearls.. a real lady and i was proud of that.

My father's common saying to me when i was a teen.. YOUR NOT GOING OUT DRESSED LIKE THAT YOUNG LADY!!!!!!! NOW GO AND TAKE THAT MUCK OFF YOUR FACE IMMEDIATELY!!!!!! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:31 pm

oscar;1066755 wrote: My Mother was terribly British. She wore a twin set and pearls.. a real lady and i was proud of that.

My father's common saying to me when i was a teen.. YOUR NOT GOING OUT DRESSED LIKE THAT YOUNG LADY!!!!!!! NOW GO AND TAKE THAT MUCK OFF YOUR FACE IMMEDIATELY!!!!!! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

OMG, my dad was the same! Your not wearing that out, now go and change or stay in!:-5:yh_rotfl

when dad spoke, I moved!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:37 pm

Odie;1066758 wrote: OMG, my dad was the same! Your not wearing that out, now go and change or stay in!:-5:yh_rotfl

when dad spoke, I moved!

I know all about that. When my dad said jump, we said 'how high'?

Another was NO DAUGHTER OF MINE IS WALKING THE STREET DRESSED LIKE THAT

:wah:

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 7:41 pm

oscar;1066762 wrote: I know all about that. When my dad said jump, we said 'how high'?

Another was NO DAUGHTER OF MINE IS WALKING THE STREET DRESSED LIKE THAT

:wah:

that one also!

and dad never laid a hand on me, it was all in the tone of his voice, yikes!

often wonder why some parents are not like that anymore?

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 8:08 pm

Odie;1066764 wrote: that one also!

and dad never laid a hand on me, it was all in the tone of his voice, yikes!

often wonder why some parents are not like that anymore?

No, my parents never even raised their voices to us let alone a hand. My father had this 'look' where you just thought 'oh no, I'm in trouble' :yh_rotfl

There is a very irritating woman who lives near me and keeps calling around my house. She's about 38 to 40 years old, quite overweight and quite short, about 5ft 2 inch.

Even in the middle of winter, she wears really low cut tops and tight leggings. Now that's not a good look for an overweight lady anyway but the tops are so low, they nearly fall out. Everyone who knows her makes quite cruel comments and in alot of ways, i feel sorry for her because she has no idea of what people think of her.

She has two little kids and Mr Oscar often says that if his mother ever collected him from school looking like that, he'd die of shame.

She thinks that she looks the dogs bollocks but i have often thought, well, if i was a good friend, i'd tell her what people are saying. Then, i can't hurt her feelings.

She's not alone, alot of mum's here dress like that and although my mother dressed like 'Margret Thatcher', at least i was always proud of her in that respect.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 8:39 pm

Odie;1066764 wrote: that one also!

and dad never laid a hand on me, it was all in the tone of his voice, yikes!

often wonder why some parents are not like that anymore?

Hey Odie.... About those aliens? They are in Canada, your right :wah:

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Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:42 pm

oscar;1066770 wrote: No, my parents never even raised their voices to us let alone a hand. My father had this 'look' where you just thought 'oh no, I'm in trouble' :yh_rotfl

There is a very irritating woman who lives near me and keeps calling around my house. She's about 38 to 40 years old, quite overweight and quite short, about 5ft 2 inch.

Even in the middle of winter, she wears really low cut tops and tight leggings. Now that's not a good look for an overweight lady anyway but the tops are so low, they nearly fall out. Everyone who knows her makes quite cruel comments and in alot of ways, i feel sorry for her because she has no idea of what people think of her.

She has two little kids and Mr Oscar often says that if his mother ever collected him from school looking like that, he'd die of shame.

She thinks that she looks the dogs bollocks but i have often thought, well, if i was a good friend, i'd tell her what people are saying. Then, i can't hurt her feelings.

She's not alone, alot of mum's here dress like that and although my mother dressed like 'Margret Thatcher', at least i was always proud of her in that respect.

no no dad never yelled, it was just firm tone of voice.

That's a tough call when the mom's like that, even worse.......I do feel for her, she obviously has no idea the impression she is giving her own kids......and imagine how her own kids feel about her dressing this way.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Nov 22, 2008 11:33 pm

Odie;1066811 wrote: no no dad never yelled, it was just firm tone of voice.

That's a tough call when the mom's like that, even worse.......I do feel for her, she obviously has no idea the impression she is giving her own kids......and imagine how her own kids feel about her dressing this way.

Oh god it's awful. She also dies her hair bright blue or pink and wears sparkly jeans. I just think at around 40 yrs old, she should be thinking nooooooooo.

Luckily, her daughter at 12 yrs old hasn't atken after her.

I just wouldn't be comfortable letting a daughter of mine dress really skimpy. I know I'm getting old, when i see the young girls all done up on their way out and the first thing i think of is God, 'they must be freezing wearing that'.

I think it's totally wrong and it shouldn't happen but it is fact that judges here will take into account what a girl is wearing if she is the victem of rape. I know these Judges in Britain are crusty old crabs in wigs that live in another century but that's the way they think. The defence for a rapist will also tear a woman to piece's in cross examination. There is alot going on here by women's rights etc to stop this as it's so traumatic for the woman in court. It wasn't so many years ago that even our police took a very dim view of a lady scantilly dressed. They are much better now with specialised female officers that are trained to deal with rape victems.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 12:05 am

Touchstone

As I jump in here late - I only read your intro..

I find what you concentrate on in different body types is interesting since your a Breast Man.

So, your kind've testing yourself - why? too funny..

I think no matter what your assest is that one would present,,

should be presented with class.

Patsy

Milly · Post by **Milly** » Sun Nov 23, 2008 12:13 am

qsducks;1066438 wrote: It does not encourage sexual attacks. Men rape women so they can have control over them. What a woman or a girl wears has nothing to do with it. My daughters have never been attacked/assaulted in any way. What a girl/woman wears is what they are comfy in and if they choose to wear tank tops, etc. whatever! Rapists attack woman for only one reason and that is the CONTROL thing! Get your facts straight.

I agree with you Ducky... If a man goes out with the intention to rape, he's going to act on opportunity not based on what one is wearing.

Omni_Skittles;1066510 wrote: lol my mom has taught me if you've got them flaunt them... but i don't flaunt them... what would i be trying to say about myself if i did?

I don't know... Only you could answer that, I can only answer for myself here and If I show a little cleavage, it's because I feel good in what I'm wearing.... I don't have my breasts hanging out exposed to all and sundry, I do however very subtly expose a little bit.... Infact I'll pop a pic in my profile, I don't think I'm saying anything about myself other than, showing that I felt good in what I was wearing.

oscar;1066690 wrote: Can I be a complete bitch for a moment?? Oh i forgot, I'm always a bitch.....anyway, Why is it, that it is more the obese ladie's who wear short cropped tops showing off their stretch marks that look like a guide to Britain's B roads? Some have arsses the size of a London bus, yet they wear a thong that is two inches above the line of the hip level muffin skirt they're wearing.

I don't like thongs.. It's like having a bit of dental floss stuck up your crack.

They wear what they do because it gives them confidence I presume.... what they wear may not be the clothing of your choice or mine, but you're not forced to look.... If what a woman wears makes them feel good about themselves, is that really such a bad thing?

Odie;1066750 wrote: my mom was the same, I didn't understand it at the time, but always did what she told me to,

really? *points down* V

Odie;1066167 wrote: when I was younger, we all wore mini-skirts.....and back then, it was a no-no!

Odie wrote: then later I realised she was right that men do get the wrong impression and do think of you in a sexual way.

That may have been your own personal experience..... Mine is very different and I know for 'fact' that clothing isn't always what triggers a mans sexual urges....

When I fifteen years old (I looked a lot younger, probably about 12), dressed in Jeans and T-shirts and just being the 'girl' I was... I was stalked by a 39 year old man.... he was a neighbour of ours who became obsessed with me to the point where my parents had him arrested and charged with tresspassing (This was over a period of 14 months though as the police were reluctant to act on things like that back then), this had nothing to do with what I was wearing, this was NOT my fault..... this was a sick man, who had a liking for young girls, no matter what I had worn, this man still pursued me..... Nothing I did was to blame for that.

oscar;1066755 wrote: My Mother was terribly British. She wore a twin set and pearls.. a real lady and i was proud of that.

My mother was the same Oscar, I can't say I was proud LOL.... I didn't even think about it at the time.... she's still very much the same now, I think of her as a very elegant lady, but then, she has a friend, who is the total opposite of her, likes to wear jeans and shirts, there is a tad of cleavage that can be seem, but nothing to write home about LOL.... I don't think of her as elegant..... I do however think she's very much a lady....

Oscar wrote: My father's common saying to me when i was a teen.. YOUR NOT GOING OUT DRESSED LIKE THAT YOUNG LADY!!!!!!! NOW GO AND TAKE THAT MUCK OFF YOUR FACE IMMEDIATELY!!!!!! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

PMSL!.... All dads were broken from the same bloody mould weren't they! :wah:

My dad was a very strict man, what he said was law in our house..... I would have loved to have worn the fashion clothing my friends were wearing at the time, but my dad just wouldn't allow it, we all hung out together, I dressed very differently to my pals, but we were all the same kids, chatting about boys, singing into our hairbrush, swooning over the Bay City Roller :wah:... Our clothes made no difference in our personalities... no matter what we wore, we were kids being kids

oscar;1066770 wrote:

There is a very irritating woman who lives near me and keeps calling around my house. She's about 38 to 40 years old, quite overweight and quite short, about 5ft 2 inch.

Even in the middle of winter, she wears really low cut tops and tight leggings. Now that's not a good look for an overweight lady anyway but the tops are so low, they nearly fall out. Everyone who knows her makes quite cruel comments and in alot of ways, i feel sorry for her because she has no idea of what people think of her.

She has two little kids and Mr Oscar often says that if his mother ever collected him from school looking like that, he'd die of shame.

She thinks that she looks the dogs bollocks but i have often thought, well, if i was a good friend, i'd tell her what people are saying. Then, i can't hurt her feelings.

She's not alone, alot of mum's here dress like that and although my mother dressed like 'Margret Thatcher', at least i was always proud of her in that respect.

How sad that this woman is judged on what she wears.....

If she's a good mum and a decent person who really gives a toss what she wears?.... Live and let live....

I should think that being the best person we all can be is far more important in life than being the best dressed.....

But... this is just my opinion..... I suppose some would say I was a conservative dresser, but I hope that I'm never judged on that.... I'm far from conservative LOL....

I'd also like to add that I don't know Chezzie, know nothing of her other than what I've read of her here and elsewhere.... also Suzy who I noticed flashes a little cleavage

LOL.... I know of both these women only through the words they typed out on public forums as well as many other women I've read here on ForumGarden..... I haven't got a clue how they dress, nor do I care, it doesn't matter to me.... I read them all as being very much ladies in every sense of the word.....:-4