Retirement

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Oct 03, 2004 4:37 am

Hello Forum members, I was wondering if any retired persons out there know if there are any "Retirement Support Groups" that I can talk to. I am having very strong mixed emotions about finally retiring. I have worked for the last "45" years, and don't know anything else. I am scheduled to retire November 30, 04.

I would like to talk to others to see how they handled it. Replies appreciated.

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Sun Oct 03, 2004 7:17 am

cars has written - Hello Forum members, I was wondering if any retired persons out there know if there are any "Retirement Support Groups" that I can talk to. I am having very strong mixed emotions about finally retiring. I have worked for the last "45" years, and don't know anything else. I am scheduled to retire November 30, 04. I would like to talk to others to see how they handled it. Replies appreciated.

I am not a member of any Retirement Support Groups, but I can share my experience with you. Circumstances in my office forced me to retire before due date. At that time I felt very bad. But now I feel that it was a very good thing for me.

Now I am on my own. I share my service experience with others to help them in productively managing their businesses. Now I pray a lot. I also run a NGO (Non Government Organization) committed to continual improvement in the quality of peoples' life - www.betterlife4all.com. I feel that it is most productive period of my life.

You have served for 45 years in a job. It is a long time. Now it is time to retire. But don't sit idle after retirement. Use this retirement period in a productive manner. Keep active. Everything will be fine. I pray to God for you a peaceful, successful and product retirement life.

pattybug52 · Post by **pattybug52** » Mon Oct 04, 2004 3:31 am

Cars-I have put in 31 almost 32 years in my company-I had the chance to take early retirement several times but had a daughter and grandson I was taking care of, which I should have dismissed right away and would not still be in the same situation again, but that is another story.I only stayed with my daughter because of many reasons-all our family moved away-only US here, seen too many people in work kiss their lazy ass kids goodbye and have never seen the grandkids again-no family left. I cannot do that to my one and only grandson-I need to find another way. The father who needs to have a DNA or parenting test done to show he is the DAD has renigged on it for 2 years yet insists he is the dad-the Judge in restraint order ran him over the coals for not having it done and that was a year ago. Get this-he wants full custody of the kid but refuses to have a DNA test done-go figure! I just do not want to lose my one and only grandchild.

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Mon Oct 04, 2004 4:30 am

pattybug52 wrote: ..... he wants full custody of the kid but refuses to have a DNA test done-go figure! I just do not want to lose my one and only grandchild.

I can understand gravity of the problem. There are some people who do not want to discharge their social and moral duties but want to have everything. Such people are liabilities on the society. I hope the judge will take care of him. Have faith in God. He will not let you loose your grandchild.

cars · Post by **cars** » Tue Oct 05, 2004 1:07 am

pattybug52- hang in there- you are, and have done the right thing! I don't get to see my Grandchildren because their mom took my kids to Florida 20 years ago. Because of the that, we are not close and now I do not get to see my Grandchildren either. The situation stinks. So do what ever you have to do to keep close. As for the so called Dad, a Judge should never grant custody of your Grandson, (or any child) without proper DNA proof that he is in fact the father.

Bill Sikes · Post by **Bill Sikes** » Tue Oct 05, 2004 12:06 pm

cars wrote: Hello Forum members, I was wondering if any retired persons out there know if there are any "Retirement Support Groups" that I can talk to. I am having very strong mixed emotions about finally retiring. I have worked for the last "45" years, and don't know anything else. I am scheduled to retire November 30, 04.

I would like to talk to others to see how they handled it. Replies appreciated.

I dunno about retirement, but I should think that:

For the second time in your life, you will be able to do approximately

whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it. Freedom.

Sounds like a bloody good idea to go down to the pub. a bit more.

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Wed Oct 06, 2004 12:24 am

cars wrote: pattybug52- hang in there ........ As for the so called Dad, a Judge should never grant custody of your Grandson, (or any child) without proper DNA proof that he is in fact the father.

I think that DNA test should not be the only basis for giving custody of child to this so-called father, even if it is proved that he indeed is the father. Other factors should also be considered. Has he played his responsibiulity as a father? What are the chances that his association with the child will not have wrong emotional and moral effect on the later? There are many such issues which should be considered.

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Wed Oct 06, 2004 7:48 am

cars; where you a car salesman? what was your career? my father-in law is 79 and is a retired dairy farmer who still hunts, cares for his apple trees and grows 3 gardens yearly, find something you like to do & enjoy. he always said if he stops he will rust, so he keeps going. anything needs to be fixed around the property or home, Ed, gets right to it. he used to re-build stone walls as we have many here, he no longer can do that, although he can still cut wood, and we send him on errands for parts. he is really good still for 79. His sister was here a few weeks ago, 87, and still works as a seamstress, they were born in the home that is mine now, which is about 220 plus years old.

Suresh Gupta · Post by **Suresh Gupta** » Wed Oct 06, 2004 8:43 am

Paula wrote: My father-in law is 79 and is a retired dairy farmer who still hunts, cares for his apple trees and grows 3 gardens yearly. Find something you like to do & enjoy...... His sister aged 87 still works as a seamstress

Yes, you are right. One should retire at the appropriate time from one's regular, but one should never retire from one's active life. There are many things one can choose for his or her post-retirement life. The key is that one should not sit idle after retirement.

cars · Post by **cars** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 1:24 pm

Paula wrote: cars; where you a car salesman? what was your career? my father-in law is 79 and is a retired dairy farmer who still hunts, cares for his apple trees and grows 3 gardens yearly, find something you like to do & enjoy. he always said if he stops he will rust, so he keeps going. anything needs to be fixed around the property or home, Ed, gets right to it. he used to re-build stone walls as we have many here, he no longer can do that, although he can still cut wood, and we send him on errands for parts. he is really good still for 79. His sister was here a few weeks ago, 87, and still works as a seamstress, they were born in the home that is mine now, which is about 220 plus years old.

Paula, thanks for your reply. No I was not a car salesman, I just to like to tinker on cars. That is really great about your relatives that keep on going, I guess that's part of the secret. One must keep busy! I am thinking of joining an off peak hours Gym, joining some club, travel, sight see, I like to fish, bowl, and can visit out of state relatives, learn to play Golf. And if need be maybe even consider a P/T job! (Maybe even start a support group for Retirees, to share experiences)

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Hopalong · Post by **Hopalong** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 5:56 pm

Retirement ? - I just did it and I did it long before 65 and there was some financial risk. So what .

I thought it would be a significant adjustment and it is. However - Ive been at now in a new location for almost 3 months and so far I've discovered the following ----- RELAX - the world will keep right on going without you. You have worked longer than many and my guess is your worried about the "unknown" .

Dont sweat it - it will happen and you WILL adjust - Like I said -- relax - you will start to see how useless it is to worry about what going to happen - you will find your way . You have paid your dues - for God's sake start enjoying it a little - no one will mind. Good luck.

HopAlong

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 12:35 pm

Hopalong wrote: Retirement ? - I just did it and I did it long before 65 and there was some financial risk. So what .

I thought it would be a significant adjustment and it is. However - Ive been at now in a new location for almost 3 months and so far I've discovered the following ----- RELAX - the world will keep right on going without you. You have worked longer than many and my guess is your worried about the "unknown" .

Dont sweat it - it will happen and you WILL adjust - Like I said -- relax - you will start to see how useless it is to worry about what going to happen - you will find your way . You have paid your dues - for God's sake start enjoying it a little - no one will mind. Good luck.

HopAlong

HopAlong, thankyou for your reply, you're right I'm worried about the "Unknown".

I have paid my dues, and I owe it to myself to start enjoying "Freedom"! I think I will be able to adjust, I just don't know how long that can/will take. I have been told it can take upto close to a year. (Hope not)

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