regret

slim2005 · Post by **slim2005** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 6:57 pm

well im feeling a little regret and lost i just got out of a relationship that i miss so much i think it to late and i think he dosnt want me back. i messed up so much but i wasnt the only one that had faults and i know my faults were forgivable but it didnt seem like that with him. i need help getting over this pain it hurts soooo much:-1

slim2005 · Post by **slim2005** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 8:03 pm

well he talked me into counseling a while back i denied cause i was being dumb. now im willing to do whatever

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 9:17 pm

You may have answered it yourself, he may not be willing to take you back. All I can suggest is you ask him straight out if he wants you back, and state that your are willing to go to counceling or what ever it may take to make it work. Be aware that there may to much water under the bridge at this point to mend the relationship, but its a chance you should take if you really love him and want it to work. As in any relationship compromise and communication is a key to success, and TRUST is foremost it is the basis for any loving relationship. Hope you can find peace with what ever happens.

vampress.rozz · Post by **vampress.rozz** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 11:20 pm

slim2005 wrote: well im feeling a little regret and lost i just got out of a relationship that i miss so much i think it to late and i think he dosnt want me back. i messed up so much but i wasnt the only one that had faults and i know my faults were forgivable but it didnt seem like that with him. i need help getting over this pain it hurts soooo much:-1

Hi slim sorry to hear you're going through a hard time.

If you have only just ended the relationship I would suggest you take a little time to think before jumping straight back into it. When something you are used to ends it's always a shock and feels wrong. Make sure it's not just this fear of the unknown feeling before you beg him to take you back.

If you're in a relationship where forgiveness is only one sided it doesn't sound healthy.

Try to remember who you are ( who you were before the relationship) be settled and happy with yourself before going back.

Anyway good luck with this I hope it works out you are obviously a really caring person. :-6

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:39 am

vampress.rozz wrote: Hi slim sorry to hear you're going through a hard time.

If you have only just ended the relationship I would suggest you take a little time to think before jumping straight back into it. When something you are used to ends it's always a shock and feels wrong. Make sure it's not just this fear of the unknown feeling before you beg him to take you back.

If you're in a relationship where forgiveness is only one sided it doesn't sound healthy.

Try to remember who you are ( who you were before the relationship) be settled and happy with yourself before going back.

Anyway good luck with this I hope it works out you are obviously a really caring person. :-6

Good advice.

lots of big brains will be on later

Why does that sound so ominous?:-3

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:25 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Having a visual of a brain sitting in front of a monitor, trying to type? That'd be a little hard without hands, wouldn't it?:rolleyes:

Sorry Slim, I'll go away now.

Brains with little hands, feet, and, not forgetting, little bums to sit on.

vampress.rozz · Post by **vampress.rozz** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:39 am

Ever noticed how swiflty we change the subject in each thread? I think it's a conspiracy..all these brains sitting at a computer interrupting people talking lol

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 6:28 am

vampress.rozz wrote: Ever noticed how swiflty we change the subject in each thread? I think it's a conspiracy..all these brains sitting at a computer interrupting people talking lol

It's called threadjacking.:wah:

vampress.rozz · Post by **vampress.rozz** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 8:16 am

lol

Take your hands off the keys and give me all your conversation or the monitor gets it !!!

lol

Richard Bell · Post by **Richard Bell** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 8:40 am

SnoozeControl wrote: Having a visual of a brain sitting in front of a monitor, trying to type? That'd be a little hard without hands, wouldn't it?:rolleyes:

Actually, I think Snooze made a typo. It should have said Big Brian.

He'll be here after he's finished lunch.

R.B.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 2:42 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: Having a visual of a brain sitting in front of a monitor, trying to type? That'd be a little hard without hands, wouldn't it?

Nah - it's all done by the power of thought

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 2:46 pm

Bryn Mawr wrote: Nah - it's all done by the power of thought

The Power of Greyskull.

Now don't laugh, I'm being serious.

venus · Post by **venus** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 2:48 pm

OpenMind wrote: The Power of Greyskull.

Now don't laugh, I'm being serious.

oohhh om you look very fetching in your furry swimming trunks, and such a big sword...

careful you dont put someones eye out..

maybe stick a cork on hte end, you know for safety till youve passed your handling exams..:wah:

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 2:54 pm

venus wrote: oohhh om you look very fetching in your furry swimming trunks, and such a big sword...

careful you dont put someones eye out..

maybe stick a cork on hte end, you know for safety till youve passed your handling exams..:wah:

Shall I place it in its scabbard? Will you feel safe then?:D

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:04 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I had two cartoon crushes... one was Tarzan and the other was He-man. Hubba hubba.

Shall I keep the sword out then?:-3

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:04 pm

slim2005 wrote: well he talked me into counseling a while back i denied cause i was being dumb. now im willing to do whatever

Tell him.

Give him your heart.

slim2005 · Post by **slim2005** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:19 pm

the thing is i broke up with him and i started missing him after a week and like i said i took action in it to late like a week after that. telling him i miss him i love him he never believed me that i loved him and till now he thinks its just regret and jeaolousy but its not. every other time i broke up with him and he would call me to take him back i would he said he would change and it did for a while but then it went back to normal. no i just want to be with im and start over and new make things different there were so many things i wish i can change but its too late now i think.

vampress.rozz · Post by **vampress.rozz** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:56 pm

slim2005 wrote: every other time i broke up with him and he would call me to take him back i would he said he would change and it did for a while but then it went back to normal. no i just want to be with im and start over and new make things different there were so many things i wish i can change but its too late now i think.

You can't change someone and you can't change the past...unfortunately it's never been done. The person has to want to change. If you truly love him it's worth saying it but I wouldn't go back with any ideas about him changing...he's tried before, he obviously cares about you enough to try. :-6

As far as I know there never is a perfect relationship we all have our little foybles, all good relationships need a bit of work.... and people do change as they mature and grow as a person sometimes for the better sometimes not. It can't be forced though. "Normal" is what the person is like when they are comfortable enough to be themselves when they are with you...anything else is a facade.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:09 pm

Hmmm....I'm a little curious about the comment "every other time." You guys have been on again, off again for....how long?

Roller coaster relationships are very difficult to deal with, and even more difficult to maintain. I really like Rozz's suggestion about giving yourself time. Hurt sticks around a while, and you may think that what you're feeling is a desire to go back to him, when it could just be the fear of being alone for a while. (Am I parroting you, Rozz?)

Give it a while. Be happy with YOU first. If you're not happy with yourself, you cannot make someone else happy.

Can I ask your age? (If it was posted earlier, my apologies)

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:11 pm

SnoozeControl wrote: I had two cartoon crushes... one was Tarzan and the other was He-man. Hubba hubba.

Thats not he man fluffball thats neanderthal man :rolleyes: oh boy

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:14 pm

Nomad wrote: Thats not he man fluffball thats neanderthal man :rolleyes: oh boy
Nope, sorry, Puddles. Neanderthal man had a sloped forehead and didn't walk fully upright. Post your pic, they'll see what I mean....:yh_rotfl

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:19 pm

BabyRider wrote: Nope, sorry, Puddles. Neanderthal man had a sloped forehead and didn't walk fully upright. Post your pic, they'll see what I mean....:yh_rotfl

Cute ! :-4

slim....tell him. talk

thats how the world moves

we talk to eachother