Inner Peace

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Tue May 30, 2006 2:51 am

I want a piece of that " Inner Peace" Ive heard about my whole life. I search for it... but I cant find it. I cant stop thinking.. analysing.. questioning.. wondering. Worst of all.. I cant stop feeling. Feeling the loss of people I miss.

Feeling inadequate for not accomplishing enough. Feeling frightened that one crisis or another wont work out. Feeling dissapointed in the behavior or actions of others. All of this ruminating, is culminating, finally in my suffering anxiety attacks. I think Ive discovered some answers to many of lifes mysteries. I think Ive learned to " Live and let live" I finally know for certain what I dont want... But damn! At this age.. I still dont know what I do want.

Do you enjoy Inner Peace? How did you arrive at that sought after plane?

How does it feel? Can you give me some?

gordonartist · Post by **gordonartist** » Tue May 30, 2006 3:18 am

I know.

I can't lie in bed awake or partly awake, because I worry, like you. I have to get up.

I guess I have learnt to survive using a couple of ideas.

I only write letters to the paper on one topic. I ignore all other contentious issues.

I read fantasy novels. Real life stories are too upsetting.

I don't watch TV. I read the paper over breakfast and catch a lot of news online where it is less emotive.

I search for funny stories and jokes.

Singing helps. You cannot be unhappy when you sing.

Doing something with your hands also helps, that's why I spend a lot of time pounding away with arthritic fingers on the keyboard.

Only accept advice from a professional. Read what I say and delete it because I am not a psychiatrist. My advice is probably wrong. Consult your doctor. Most depression is a purely medical condition and is treatable.

But, take care,

Gordon.

My email address is in my profile. Use it if you have a need. G

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue May 30, 2006 3:27 am

weeder wrote: I want a piece of that " Inner Peace" Ive heard about my whole life. I search for it... but I cant find it. I cant stop thinking.. analysing.. questioning.. wondering. Worst of all.. I cant stop feeling. Feeling the loss of people I miss.

Feeling inadequate for not accomplishing enough. Feeling frightened that one crisis or another wont work out. Feeling dissapointed in the behavior or actions of others. All of this ruminating, is culminating, finally in my suffering anxiety attacks. I think Ive discovered some answers to many of lifes mysteries. I think Ive learned to " Live and let live" I finally know for certain what I dont want... But damn! At this age.. I still dont know what I do want.

Do you enjoy Inner Peace? How did you arrive at that sought after plane?

How does it feel? Can you give me some?

I've just started rereading the Celestine Prophecy and I came across a passage about relationships; the most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. It seems that we are always looking to the other to make ourselves complete when we actually have that "other" within us; once we've rediscovered the inner "other" we may or may not have a relationship with another person but, if we do, it won't be a dependent relationship.

Maybe the only way to find that inner peace is to look within instead of looking outwards. Yet it seems both the easiest and the hardest thing to do. Maybe we should start by trying to accept ourselves as we are, human beings who are on a journey of discovery...we make mistakes along the way and we take wrong turnings but it's all grist for the mill.

I would willingly give you some of my inner peace, Weeder, if I had any to give, but I'm still searching :-5

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue May 30, 2006 3:28 am

weeder wrote: I want a piece of that " Inner Peace" Ive heard about my whole life. I search for it... but I cant find it. I cant stop thinking.. analysing.. questioning.. wondering. Worst of all.. I cant stop feeling. Feeling the loss of people I miss.

Feeling inadequate for not accomplishing enough. Feeling frightened that one crisis or another wont work out. Feeling dissapointed in the behavior or actions of others. All of this ruminating, is culminating, finally in my suffering anxiety attacks. I think Ive discovered some answers to many of lifes mysteries. I think Ive learned to " Live and let live" I finally know for certain what I dont want... But damn! At this age.. I still dont know what I do want.

Do you enjoy Inner Peace? How did you arrive at that sought after plane?

How does it feel? Can you give me some?

Im laughing. Not at you just laughing. I have some thoughts on this but I have to go to work.

Just a couple thoughts though. Do you have unfinished business ?

Someone you need to forgive ? Yourself perhaps ?

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue May 30, 2006 3:50 am

Nomad wrote: Im laughing. Not at you just laughing. I have some thoughts on this but I have to go to work.

Just a couple thoughts though. Do you have unfinished business ?

Someone you need to forgive ? Yourself perhaps ?

These are my own thoughts having recognised and tried to come to terms with just about everything previously written.

I have asked myself these questions very often...

Have I been a bad daughter ?

Have I been a bad wife ?

Have I been a bad mother ?

Why haven't I got any close friends ?

Funny how these are related to my personal life.

I have absolutely NO doubt that I have worked hard, enjoyed my working life and deserved every promotion and pay rise I got....In short, I've been GOOD at my job.

The answers to the first 3 questions are probably NO. I did my best ... there were no 'practise sessions' available. Mistakes couldn't be reversed I could only learn from them.

I think a lot is down to confidence and self-esteem....the more you have, the more successful you are with your goals and relationships. I am still searching but I do 'like' myself more than I did a year ago. Where there was once despair, there is now a tiny bit of hope. I think I am finding inner peace, now I need to find courage.

I have stopped analysing the past and I'm looking forwards to the fast reducing years I have left....

The reason I've included Nomads quote is because I guess he's almost referring to de-cluttering ones life. That's what I'm trying to do.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue May 30, 2006 4:44 am

You must learn to be happy with yourself, no matter what has happened in the past. You must learn to reach out to others first, and yourself second. When your attention is on them, your inner self will even out.

I am very religious, I find consolation and strength in reading the Bible. There are many other options if you are looking for spiritual peace. Bez is always a wise one to talk with about these things.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue May 30, 2006 5:11 am

SnoozeControl wrote: I feel I've got a certain amount of inner peace, but then I've got a very simple life that doesn't cause me much anxiety or stress. Maybe that's part of the answer... making things simple. I dunno.

I actually think your right Snooze...keep it simple....deal with each issue as it arises. De-clutter your life. Don't set great store on material things (if I had practised this earlier I wouldn't be in the mess I'm in now....a house, garden, posessions...at the end of the day they mean 'diddly squat' )

I've re-considered what is important in my life and what I actually need both spiritually and materially.

My children and grandchildren

My brother and sister

A few special freinds

The few posessions that I need to survive and mean most to me...I have whittled this down to probably about 20% of the contents of my home.

I would absolutely say 'don't dwell on the past', it will tear your heart and mind apart and although we learn from the past in some ways it can be destructive to keep re-visiting......you ask the same quetsions...what if ? why didn't I ? why did I ? If only I'd...etc etc....

Some people find it theraputic to analyse their lives, but I'd rather look forward to the next possibly 20 years than rake over the last 58....i've done that all my life and not come up with the answers.

gordonartist · Post by **gordonartist** » Tue May 30, 2006 6:12 am

Please Weeder, keep posting!!!!!!!!!

I needed help and didn't get it when I needed.

Please keep posting, then I'll know that you are OK.

Take care,

Gordon.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue May 30, 2006 6:22 am

gordonartist wrote: Please Weeder, keep posting!!!!!!!!!

I needed help and didn't get it when I needed.

Please keep posting, then I'll know that you are OK.

Take care,

Gordon.

Hey Gordon.....life can be a bitch sometimes. FG has been my sanctuary for nearly a year now.

Your funny posts make me laugh...keep'em coming and when your down there's always somewhere here to 'hold your hand' through it all....:-4

gordonartist · Post by **gordonartist** » Tue May 30, 2006 6:32 am

Thanks Bez.

But I worried about the cry for help from "Weeder" having been there and done that.

If you ever feel down too, send me a private message, please!!!

Take care,

Gordon.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Tue May 30, 2006 6:33 am

gordonartist wrote: Thanks Bez.

But I worried about the cry for help from "Weeder" having been there and done that.

If you ever feel down too, send me a private message, please!!!

Take care,

Gordon.

:yh_hugs Gordon...

jbbarker1947 · Post by **jbbarker1947** » Tue May 30, 2006 6:44 am

weeder wrote: I want a piece of that " Inner Peace" Ive heard about my whole life. I search for it... but I cant find it. I cant stop thinking.. analysing.. questioning.. wondering. Worst of all.. I cant stop feeling. Feeling the loss of people I miss.

Feeling inadequate for not accomplishing enough. Feeling frightened that one crisis or another wont work out. Feeling dissapointed in the behavior or actions of others. All of this ruminating, is culminating, finally in my suffering anxiety attacks. I think Ive discovered some answers to many of lifes mysteries. I think Ive learned to " Live and let live" I finally know for certain what I dont want... But damn! At this age.. I still dont know what I do want.

Do you enjoy Inner Peace? How did you arrive at that sought after plane?

How does it feel? Can you give me some?

Weeder, you are a sweetheart. How ever.

Either you are drinking too much, or not enough. If you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t drink, try this. Buy a bottle of Herradura Anejo. Use a shot glass. Drink one shot followed quickly by a dash of salt, then bite into a generous slice of lime. Do this again 15 min. later.

Do not drive or operate heavy machinery afterwards. Your outlook will change.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue May 30, 2006 7:53 am

remember you just came back from holiday weeder & its quite common to have a case of the blues or question our life after such a big event, i know i certainly do every time ive been away

- you have my e-mail addy - hugs

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue May 30, 2006 11:38 am

Inner peace, gosh isn't that where we can say we have done the best with ourselves as we possibly can. Where we have made changes to those things we can change and accepted those things we can't change. I think inner peace comes with accepting the fact that we as individuals have to be..."accountable" (no not our FG member) As well as accepting the fact that the choices we make in life guide us and weather they are success's or failures, it is up to us to learn what we can from them.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue May 30, 2006 12:27 pm

:-4 Weeder sweetie your thinking to darn much, enjoy life it is the only one you will ever have. We are human's we aren't without flaws or demons, but don't torture yourself with doubts. Like my dad use to say "Lifes a bitch, then you die, so get on with the business living"

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