Never Liked Soap Operas

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:10 am

Without intending any offense to people who have, with good intentions, taken the time to let us know they won't be around for awhile, I'm getting sick of seeing these judgemental threads stating that they want the impossible: For ForumGarden to never change.

Everything in life is in a constant state of change. This is not real life but you can't seriously think it would be interesting to carefully select a group of people we like and freeze them into a static space on the internet. If you want to go, fine! Go and come back later if you want. I started this thread to tell you all that you disrupt the board when you announce why you are leaving unless it is purely for personal reason not related to what you think of the forum members. We care about you as people. I, for one, do not care what you think of ForumGarden as a group.

These dramatic goodbye threads have rarely served a good purpose in the past and have just become another tool for insulting the members. Because that's what they are: an insult.

We care about you but we don't want to hear about what you think ForumGarden used to be, is at present or will become.

I say "we" for matters of convenience. This is a thread for the members to agree or disagree. To offer suggestions on how to discourage departing members from making an ass of themselves.

Are you sick of hearing about how boring, immature, mean, unfriendly... fill in the blank... we are?

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:14 am

W00p W00p. I had a moan about this the other day in Random Thoughts and just got moaned at back so I'm glad that somebody else has said the same. To me it's just attention seeking. PM people to tell them or keep it all in one thread.

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:17 am

I'm into the one thread idea.

A "Goodbye, Woe is me" thread for swan songs and a "Sabbatical" thread for people who are going to temporarily disappear. Just add a name.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:20 am

I started a thread called, 'The Attention Seeking Thread' on MJNO, it got locked surprisingly as most do. :wah:

I am going to pretend I am leaving because I want lots of attention from people begging me to stay then not actually leave.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:22 am

crazygal;568468 wrote: I started a thread called, 'The Attention Seeking Thread' on MJNO, it got locked surprisingly as most do. :wah:

I am going to pretend I am leaving because I want lots of attention from people begging me to stay then not actually leave.

please go , how much do you want

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:23 am

Soberano;568470 wrote: Bye Bye Oh Crazy one:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Enough attention for you.

buddy dont worry i'm not going anywhere:)

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:23 am

I WAS taking the pish. Funny how you have a go at me for saying the same and nothing to your friend. :-3

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:25 am

crazygal;568475 wrote: I WAS taking the pish. Funny how you have a go at me for saying the same and nothing to your friend. :-3

i think so:p :p

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:28 am

Soberano;568477 wrote: Hey Jimbo, lets have a get rid of Crazy whip round. Here take this tenner.:wah: :wah:

make it 50p buddy every one will chip in for this :wah::wah:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:32 am

I thought we were going to talk about "Days of our Lives"

funny that you referred to as a soap opera...that's what I call it when try to explain to my friends, and of course then they whip out the straight jackets....AGAIN!!!:-5

:p

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:34 am

[quote=WonderWendy3;568498]I thought we were going to talk about "Days of our Lives"

funny that you referred to as a soap opera...that's what I call it when try to explain to my friends, and of course then they whip out the straight jackets....AGAIN!!!:-5

crazy gal look you have upset fluffy now:(

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:36 am

Is there something wrong with you or do you go off-topic in every thread just to ruin it?

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:36 am

I guess I'm in the minority but I want to know if someone is leaving and why.

I don't think people should be made to feel like they are not free to post whatever they wish .This place belongs to all of us. :-6

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:37 am

crazygal;568507 wrote: Is there something wrong with you or do you go off-topic in every thread just to ruin it?

dont talk to af like that

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:37 am

Oh ANOTHER joke, apparently.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:37 am

sunny104;568509 wrote: I guess I'm in the minority but I want to know if someone is leaving and why.

I don't think people should be made to feel like they are not free to post whatever they wish .This place belongs to all of us. :-6

good post i agree:-6

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:39 am

sunny104;568509 wrote: I guess I'm in the minority but I want to know if someone is leaving and why.

I don't think people should be made to feel like they are not free to post whatever they wish .This place belongs to all of us. :-6

I agree. There should be a thread they can post their name in. If you want to know why then PM them. Otherwise, it usually turns into a public fight or an ignorant judgment of why "we" aren't good enough for them.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:39 am

almostfamous;568515 wrote: Are you speaking to me?

No the guy who thinks he's funny all the time.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:40 am

almostfamous;568519 wrote: The "quote" function is quite handy

So are a lot that nobody bothers to use.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:40 am

crazy gal look you have upset fluffy now

Actually, I wasn't referring to anyone at all...but thanks for the good chuckle there ole' pal ole' buddy!!:D :p

Koan, Sorry for throwing your thread, yes I see your point. I feel that it is an attention getter, but most people are sincerely saying goodbye, and for that I'm thankful...

As for complaining about what FG is, was and will be...heck...we are humans (cept for Jimbo of course) change happens, and whining comes along with it...but inevidiably (spelling police come give me a ticket please) it happens...like it or lump it....

I find myself always coming back, I stay away for a day or so, then curosity gets the best of me...have to see what the "Wise guy gang" is up to. :p

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:40 am

crazygal;568517 wrote: No the guy who thinks he's funny all the time.

whats soberego got to do with it leave him alone :wah:

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:42 am

I know one member started three goodbye threads.

Don't tell me that doesn't get embarrassing. It's much better for all if they just add their names to a list. Over and over and over.

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:42 am

almostfamous;568524 wrote: And we can count on you to point them out :wah:

Using Quote properly is not too common and so simple. Strange. Preview post would be a good idea for those that don't know how to use it. :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:43 am

almostfamous;568524 wrote: And we can count on you to point them out :wah:

price less:wah: :wah: :wah:

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:43 am

koan;568525 wrote: I know one member started three goodbye threads.

Don't tell me that doesn't get embarrassing. It's much better for all if they just add their names to a list. Over and over and over.

Three? OMG. Now tell me that Mods aren't needed to merge or lock threads people!

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:43 am

jimbo;568528 wrote: price less:wah: :wah: :wah:

IS one word.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:44 am

Koan, I tend to agree. As you probably saw I did my own little going for a while thread. The reason being that I needed to do that to make sure that I actually took that break and didn't just stay anyway. Having a specific thread to do that would be a really good idea, just to say having a fews days off, busy at work, going on my hols, whatever.

Some (please note emphasis - not all) goodbye threads are very self-indulgent, soap opera is a really good way to describe it. I agree that often they seem to stir things up and create factions who then start bitching and whinging, I'm guilty of posting in these threads the same as lots of others here.

Some of the people who have left I personally have been glad to see go whilst others I miss.

This board changes, evolves etc like real life. Sometimes it's boring, sometimes it's challenging, sometimes it's fun, sometimes if I hear the name Michael Jackson one more time I may puke (:wah: ) but it's always worth a visit.

It's similar to soap operas on the tv - sometimes they stagnate, others they are brilliant.

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:44 am

I'm here to prove we can stay on topic. Even if it takes pages. :wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:44 am

crazygal;568532 wrote: IS one word.

apple polisher:wah:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:47 am

Soberano;568520 wrote: Now look what you have gone and done Jimbo, got Immy in trouble with Crazy, you are such a swine at times.

Eh? I'm having a senior moment, missed that!

Anyway, Sober-sometimes, I've been waiting ages for someone to take offence at something I write, Jimbo could just be helping me along!!!!:D

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:48 am

Imladris;568533 wrote: Koan, I tend to agree. As you probably saw I did my own little going for a while thread. The reason being that I needed to do that to make sure that I actually took that break and didn't just stay anyway. Having a specific thread to do that would be a really good idea, just to say having a fews days off, busy at work, going on my hols, whatever.

Some (please note emphasis - not all) goodbye threads are very self-indulgent, soap opera is a really good way to describe it. I agree that often they seem to stir things up and create factions who then start bitching and whinging, I'm guilty of posting in these threads the same as lots of others here.

Some of the people who have left I personally have been glad to see go whilst others I miss.

This board changes, evolves etc like real life. Sometimes it's boring, sometimes it's challenging, sometimes it's fun, sometimes if I hear the name Michael Jackson one more time I may puke (:wah: ) but it's always worth a visit.

It's similar to soap operas on the tv - sometimes they stagnate, others they are brilliant.
That's why it's good to have a sabbatical thread to let us know who is checking in and out so we know. Your thread was definitely one of the useful ones.

The problem with the negative goodbyes are that when the membership is insulted it's hard to sit there and say nothing. So we go in to defend and those threads take over what would otherwise be fun and productive threads.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:49 am

Imladris;568538 wrote: Eh? I'm having a senior moment, missed that!

dont worry immy that crazygal was dissing you but me and soberego sorted it

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:49 am

anyone trying to read this thread: Put certain people temporarily on ignore in your settings and to reduce the page count. Then restore settings when finished reading.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:50 am

Soberano;568541 wrote: It's ok i sorted it. You're fine again now, bliddy Jimbo.

i told you to get the story straight before posting :-5 :-5

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:52 am

Soberano;568541 wrote: It's ok i sorted it. You're fine again now, bliddy Jimbo.

Fanks xxxxx

Yes, I know I spelt it wrong, but it were on porpoise.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:56 am

Pinky;568531 wrote: Good job you quoted it, the sentence didn't make sense as there was no context.

:-6

:yh_clap

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:57 am

Imladris;568547 wrote: Fanks xxxxx

Yes, I know I spelt it wrong, but it were on porpoise.

yup we know its that bliddy crazygal , upsets every one :wah: :wah:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:58 am

koan;568534 wrote: I'm here to prove we can stay on topic. Even if it takes pages. :wah:

MANY pages...:wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:01 am

WonderWendy3;568557 wrote: MANY pages...:wah:

what topic that crazy ass side tracked me with her constant nit picking at spelling mistakes

the snitch :rolleyes:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:05 am

almostfamous;568560 wrote: yeah, this may be the longest thread FG will ever see :wah: :p

yeah, cause we all have alot to say.

We might want to all just get all the attention we can here?? No, okay I'll be moving along quietly...:yh_ttth

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 9:13 am

eastenders you to be good ,