Can men and women be friends?

luck4mike · Post by **luck4mike** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:36 pm

There is always sexual tension coming from either party, usually the man...Does this constitute friendship? Is it friendship when one wants sex with the other?

crazygal · Post by **crazygal** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:37 pm

It can be yes. If you have been friends for a long time though and do have sex I think it can ruin a friendship forever.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:39 pm

O f course men and women can be friends, and there be nothing sexually about it.

LondonFan of MJ! · Post by **LondonFan of MJ!** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:40 pm

Yes of course we can.

But it is very hard if you fancy the pants of that person.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 4:45 pm

I have many male friends - nothing sexual about it.

some might have to over come their lust and realize sex will not happen, but being up front with friendship only - they respect that .

Patsy

NotToday · Post by **NotToday** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:33 pm

they totally can be friends without sexual tension.

I have a bunch of male friends!

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:39 pm

I agree with Crazygal, you have to decide what you are going to be.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:53 pm

No, sexual tension does not constitute friendship. Why do you think it would?

My jury's not completely in on this one yet. I always thought it was not possible, yet I have friends on here who are men and who I much enjoy talking with and consider friends, so I may have been wrong at first.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 5:58 pm

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:28 pm

luck4mike;569018 wrote: There is always sexual tension coming from either party, usually the man...Does this constitute friendship? Is it friendship when one wants sex with the other?

My best friends have always been females. They are more willing to express true feelings, more so than males, and are less prone to exageration and BS.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:36 pm

I know when having a best friend of the opposite sex, you have sincere honest conversation - no BS. Its amazing what you'll learn - insight..

Patsy

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:57 pm

I have had good friends who are men. I mean, lets say you were good friends with a member of the opposite sex who happened to be gay...would there be sexual tension then?

I think it all has to do with your expectations of that friendship.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Mon Mar 05, 2007 8:58 pm

My best friend and I had sex.

For many years!

Then we split up.

But remain best friends.

One never know. Do one?

:D

Amie · Post by **Amie** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 12:15 am

I think yes they can be friends, can they be completely and wholly JUST friends? In my experience not 100%. One or the other will always think about more (most likely the male) and wonder what it would be like to have sex with the other - it's human nature.

Rosette · Post by **Rosette** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 1:00 am

Good post Amie!

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 1:08 am

JacksDad;569197 wrote: My best friend and I had sex.

For many years!

Then we split up.

But remain best friends.

One never know. Do one?

:D

do you miss dave buddy :wah:

all my best friends are women , i would never sleep with any of my friends male or female :rolleyes:

if you sleep with a female friend(not found out about male ) i dont know what something changes your friendship is never the same again :-3 why though??

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:05 am

magenta flame;569313 wrote: I believe this question needs a precise scientific answer...........and I'm willing to go the slog to find the answer for you all....................................

Well wish me luck , I'm off to the pub to do some field tests:D

you should use the carpark no grass staines :wah: :wah:

CrazyCruizChick · Post by **CrazyCruizChick** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:20 am

Yes! I think women and men can be friends as long as there is trust and there's no hidden engenders .

foofoo stripper · Post by **foofoo stripper** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 4:02 am

I have alot of male friends, and I am just friends with them. So, yes, you can be friends with the opposite sex.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 4:07 am

Pinky;569329 wrote: Woohoo!! Some hot topics today!!

I've always had male friends. Just because you're the opposite sex, it doesn't mean that you'll automatically be attracted to them. But then I don't very often find many people attractive, so maybe I'm the odd one out!:p

In my experience, when I've been mates with a bloke for a long time it's not something that crosses your mind, it would just be weird wouldn't it? Guys that I've hung out with regularly for years just see me as one of the lads!

thats coz the way you stand up when you pee:wah: :wah:

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:11 am

jimbo;569375 wrote: thats coz the way you stand up when you pee:wah: :wah:

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Bad Jimbo!!!

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:14 am

Imladris;569423 wrote: :yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Bad Jimbo!!!

not being funny, guys that she has hung out with, what else can it possibly mean:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 6:04 am

Yes of course they can, until they start having sex that is, then it gets interesting.

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 6:07 am

One of my closest friends is female. We've known each other on a platonic basis for over 20 years. When we both found ourselves single, it did cross my mind if there could be something else, and I picked up a feeling that she might have wondered herself, but I thought why throw away a good friendship. We're both with other people now and remain good friends. Strangely though, my daughter recently asked if there had ever been anything between us.

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:06 am

I believe it's possible though I think at some point at least one of them wonders what it would be like to sleep together. Not that it is something that has to go beyond wondering to actually wanting. I've had female friends (who aren't gay) want to sleep with me too. So it's not just a male/female thing. I think it has to do with how close you get and a natural human tendency to seek affection.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:13 am

i of course have the other effect on people no one seeks closer bonds with jimbo, the most likely out come of me spending any time with any one is for them to smack me in the head :wah: :wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:13 am

yes.

I wouldn't have ever had very many friends if it wasn't for all of my guy friends! :wah:

I prefer having guy friends. :-6

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:22 am

I have many guy friends...I have sex with them, and then they say...hey lets just be friends...

I'm kidding...very sarcastic these days....sorry:sneaky:

Of course Men and Women can be friends...its a grown up thing to do!:)

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:25 am

Yeah, its all well and good, but you gotta have sex with someone, they can't all be friends, or can they?

:wah:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:27 am

If you can't have sex with your friends....why be friends???:-3

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:30 am

sunny104;569499 wrote: yes.

I wouldn't have ever had very many friends if it wasn't for all of my guy friends! :wah:

I prefer having guy friends. :-6
And every single one of them has imagined having sex with you. Thats the way we Neanderthals roll.

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:30 am

WonderWendy3;569516 wrote: If you can't have sex with your friends....why be friends???:-3

If you can't have friendly sex, whats the alternative? Unfriendly sex? Its worth thinking about init??

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:32 am

WonderWendy3;569516 wrote: If you can't have sex with your friends....why be friends???:-3

good job i know your too furry to have impure thoughts like that :-6 :-6

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:33 am

Galbally;569524 wrote: If you can't have friendly sex, whats the alternative? Unfriendly sex? Its worth thinking about init??

I try not to think to much....therefore I am;)

Unfriendly sex....hmmmm different thread perhaps??

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:33 am

jimbo;569528 wrote: good job i know your too furry to have impure thoughts like that :-6 :-6
So you're saying she doesn't trim?

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:35 am

YZGI;569523 wrote: And every single one of them has imagined having sex with you. Thats the way we Neanderthals roll.

that's ok!

I imagine have sex with everyone too!

:p

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:36 am

WonderWendy3;569531 wrote: I try not to think to much....therefore I am;)

Unfriendly sex....hmmmm different thread perhaps??

Yes quite, maybe later, hehe. :rolleyes:

I find the whole "sex" and "thinking about it" don't really compliment each other, Which is why most people have a lot of sex when they are young, as they don't think that much about it, any comments????

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:37 am

sunny104;569537 wrote: that's ok!

I imagine have sex with everyone too!

:p

Wow cool. Me cave man want to pull you cave girl by hair into cave and have a little chat.

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:37 am

sunny104;569537 wrote: that's ok!

I imagine have sex with everyone too!

:p

Well I am glad you are imagining having sex with me as well, but I may have to charge you if it gets too enjoyable, we can't be having that. :wah:

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:38 am

Galbally;569539 wrote: Yes quite, maybe later, hehe. :rolleyes:

I find the whole "sex" and "thinking about it" don't really compliment each other, Which is why most people have a lot of sex when they are young, as they don't think that much about it, any comments????

yeah, it's fun and exciting when you are young...so alot of people think...but as we get older and mature, ummm it's fun and exciting...but just more cautious due to responsibilities that we have as "grown ups"...having to wear fancy clothes and all....:p

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:39 am

YZGI;569541 wrote: Wow cool. Me cave man want to pull you cave girl by hair into cave and have a little chat.

*sigh* :-4

you shore do know how to git to me, dontcha.....

:wah:

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:40 am

WonderWendy3;569543 wrote: yeah, it's fun and exciting when you are young...so alot of people think...but as we get older and mature, ummm it's fun and exciting...but just more cautious due to responsibilities that we have as "grown ups"...having to wear fancy clothes and all....:p

What are these "fancy clothes" to which you refer? We tend to be naked when we are at it over here. :wah:

Then again, nothing wrong with a naughty Librarian outfit (whatever that is)?

Oh dear, I have given too much away, as usual! :rolleyes:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:41 am

Galbally;569542 wrote: Well I am glad you are imagining having sex with me as well, but I may have to charge you if it gets too enjoyable, we can't be having that. :wah:

:o

:wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:43 am

sunny104;569546 wrote: *sigh* :-4

you shore do know how to git to me, dontcha.....

:wah:
I do macaroni art also.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:43 am

Galbally;569547 wrote: What are these "fancy clothes" to which you refer? We tend to be naked when we are at it over here. :wah:

Then again, nothing wrong with a naughty Librarian outfit (whatever that is)?

Oh dear, I have given too much away, as usual! :rolleyes:

Librarian, Teacher, Police Woman...whatever mood hits ya!!

I need to go take a cold shower now...

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:45 am

YZGI;569550 wrote: I do macaroni art also.

we should change your name to Dream Guy!

:wah: