Thing is..I am not sure I really want to go. Rick says it is up to me..my family and all.
It is just that I hardly have seen these people..we have no contact. The cousin who contacted me did not even know I am married..and I have been married 6 years. Some have said all the more reason to reconnect.
But I rather see it as the High School Class reunion. Was not close with these people when we HAD to be together..do not feel the call to spend an afternoon with them now. Plus having to pay for the priviledge to do it.
Have any of you experienced reunions with family you have not been particularly close with? How did it go?
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chonsigirl
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I can hardly wait until August to see my family, it has been four years. We are a close family, everyone gets along, stays in touch. Oh, I will be so happy to be out there with them:-6
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Marie5656;588963 wrote: Thing is..I am not sure I really want to go. Rick says it is up to me..my family and all.
It is just that I hardly have seen these people..we have no contact. The cousin who contacted me did not even know I am married..and I have been married 6 years. Some have said all the more reason to reconnect.
But I rather see it as the High School Class reunion. Was not close with these people when we HAD to be together..do not feel the call to spend an afternoon with them now. Plus having to pay for the priviledge to do it.
Have any of you experienced reunions with family you have not been particularly close with? How did it go?
It didn't go, because neither did I.
It is just that I hardly have seen these people..we have no contact. The cousin who contacted me did not even know I am married..and I have been married 6 years. Some have said all the more reason to reconnect.
But I rather see it as the High School Class reunion. Was not close with these people when we HAD to be together..do not feel the call to spend an afternoon with them now. Plus having to pay for the priviledge to do it.
Have any of you experienced reunions with family you have not been particularly close with? How did it go?
It didn't go, because neither did I.
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WonderWendy3
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I have 2 family re-unions every year in July 2 weeks apart in PA, I live in VA, I know a handfull of people at these functions and I am re-introduced most of the time to people that are 2nd or 3rd cousins to me... I go to them once about every 2-3 years. One of them I make more of an effort than the other, and this might sound horrible, but because of the family that is there I have cousins that I'm VERY close to and there is a Swimming area and canoeing and paddle boats...in the Mountains of PA, and it's a LOT of fun!
I didn't go last year and it was pretty much a big deal, would've been the first year in MANY that all of my Grandmothers' five grandchildren and their children would've been together...I ended up getting sick...and it wasn't good...people were upset at me for being sick, plus I twisted my ankle......I'm still in the dog house for that....
So the short of the long, if you don't see yourself having fun...don't go...and DON'T beat yourself up over it!:-6
I didn't go last year and it was pretty much a big deal, would've been the first year in MANY that all of my Grandmothers' five grandchildren and their children would've been together...I ended up getting sick...and it wasn't good...people were upset at me for being sick, plus I twisted my ankle......I'm still in the dog house for that....
So the short of the long, if you don't see yourself having fun...don't go...and DON'T beat yourself up over it!:-6
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The only thing that will get me to go would be if BOTH my brothers went. We do not see each other much.
Here is the thing..is it rather odd to NOT want to spend time with extended family? I mean, when I was young big family gatherings were the norm rather than the exception.
Or is that a thing of the past? I remember huge family Christmas party..had to rent a hall to get all the aunts uncles and cousins together.
Here is the thing..is it rather odd to NOT want to spend time with extended family? I mean, when I was young big family gatherings were the norm rather than the exception.
Or is that a thing of the past? I remember huge family Christmas party..had to rent a hall to get all the aunts uncles and cousins together.
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Marie5656;588963 wrote: Thing is..I am not sure I really want to go. Rick says it is up to me..my family and all.
It is just that I hardly have seen these people..we have no contact. The cousin who contacted me did not even know I am married..and I have been married 6 years. Some have said all the more reason to reconnect.
But I rather see it as the High School Class reunion. Was not close with these people when we HAD to be together..do not feel the call to spend an afternoon with them now. Plus having to pay for the priviledge to do it.
Have any of you experienced reunions with family you have not been particularly close with? How did it go?
Marie, only you really know if you want to go & can make the decision. My wife's side of her family held a "family reunion" at a small resort upstate NY, every other year that she usually attended. The reunion always had so many people that they reserved the whole resort for it for over the entire weekend. Each family spent the nights in their own cabin, it was quite nice. When I first met my wife was the year of the reunion. I didn't even know most of her relatives that were going to be there! However, I went anyway, and had a fantastic blast!! Softball, golf, pool, horseback riding, monster BBQ's, met many of her relatives, and some were even nice!
You can always just test drive it, & go & say upfront you can only stay for an about hour, due to having a conflicting event you must also attend. If it happens to work out & you're having a good time, you can always say you made a phone call to the other event & cancelled it. Making you look even better in your relatives eyes.:sneaky: Over the years people change, sometimes for the better, you may be pleasingly surprised. Good Luck in whatever you decide.
It is just that I hardly have seen these people..we have no contact. The cousin who contacted me did not even know I am married..and I have been married 6 years. Some have said all the more reason to reconnect.
But I rather see it as the High School Class reunion. Was not close with these people when we HAD to be together..do not feel the call to spend an afternoon with them now. Plus having to pay for the priviledge to do it.
Have any of you experienced reunions with family you have not been particularly close with? How did it go?
Marie, only you really know if you want to go & can make the decision. My wife's side of her family held a "family reunion" at a small resort upstate NY, every other year that she usually attended. The reunion always had so many people that they reserved the whole resort for it for over the entire weekend. Each family spent the nights in their own cabin, it was quite nice. When I first met my wife was the year of the reunion. I didn't even know most of her relatives that were going to be there! However, I went anyway, and had a fantastic blast!! Softball, golf, pool, horseback riding, monster BBQ's, met many of her relatives, and some were even nice!
You can always just test drive it, & go & say upfront you can only stay for an about hour, due to having a conflicting event you must also attend. If it happens to work out & you're having a good time, you can always say you made a phone call to the other event & cancelled it. Making you look even better in your relatives eyes.:sneaky: Over the years people change, sometimes for the better, you may be pleasingly surprised. Good Luck in whatever you decide.Cars 
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Last major family reunion I went to was a funeral. We all used to be close when we were kids-one or two I hadn't seen for decades. We are still close I suppose but we all lead very different lives. There are one or two I would speak to ONLY because they are family, I have no intention of ever visiting them or them me.
You can renew old contacts and still walk away if that's what you want to do. It's a truism that you can pick your friends but family you are stuck with. But sometimes you need to dust off old memories, take a good look and then put them back in the cupboard where they belong and forget about them having realised you don't need them any more.
You can renew old contacts and still walk away if that's what you want to do. It's a truism that you can pick your friends but family you are stuck with. But sometimes you need to dust off old memories, take a good look and then put them back in the cupboard where they belong and forget about them having realised you don't need them any more.
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Lon;588994 wrote: It didn't go, because neither did I.
Lol! Nor me! :wah:
WonderWendy3;589001 wrote: So the short of the long, if you don't see yourself having fun...don't go...and DON'T beat yourself up over it!:-6
EXCELLENT advice! I thoroughly agree!
Lol! Nor me! :wah:
WonderWendy3;589001 wrote: So the short of the long, if you don't see yourself having fun...don't go...and DON'T beat yourself up over it!:-6
EXCELLENT advice! I thoroughly agree!
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I occasionally back out of get togethers. It shouldnt be a chore. Do as you please.
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Patsy Warnick
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Marie
Don't feel guilty for not wanting to go. If your not excited about the whole idea - don't go - its already causing a headache.
I certainly wouldn't pay for that headache.
I've only met one family - very close family from MN, I attended one of the Family reunions since I was dating one from that family. Wonderful - wonderful time - wonderful family. Yearly family reunions and they rotate the location between Ohio - MN - all Aunts,Uncles and kids and their kids - several different activities from basketball to cribbage - to volleyball. I also noticed money wasn't a issue.
Young man I was dating, one of 5 kids and his parents paid for everyone to attend the reunions.
This happy reunion wouldn't happen in my family - nor would I attend one for several reasons. I don't talk to half of them, I certainly don't want to see them,and I don't care how their doing, or what they're up to.....
Suggestion:
Send a picture of you & your husband in a card - which will open lines of communication - then you'll see if anyone will reach out and pull in the raines to make a closer family.???
Patsy
Don't feel guilty for not wanting to go. If your not excited about the whole idea - don't go - its already causing a headache.
I certainly wouldn't pay for that headache.
I've only met one family - very close family from MN, I attended one of the Family reunions since I was dating one from that family. Wonderful - wonderful time - wonderful family. Yearly family reunions and they rotate the location between Ohio - MN - all Aunts,Uncles and kids and their kids - several different activities from basketball to cribbage - to volleyball. I also noticed money wasn't a issue.
Young man I was dating, one of 5 kids and his parents paid for everyone to attend the reunions.
This happy reunion wouldn't happen in my family - nor would I attend one for several reasons. I don't talk to half of them, I certainly don't want to see them,and I don't care how their doing, or what they're up to.....
Suggestion:
Send a picture of you & your husband in a card - which will open lines of communication - then you'll see if anyone will reach out and pull in the raines to make a closer family.???
Patsy