accepted or rejected

[Buttons]

It's generally agreed that for most of the human race, the number one fear is rejection,the number one need is acceptance. We all wield this tremendous power over our fellow man. Marriages, friendships, even acquaintances are defined by our perceived acceptance or rejection. To accept someone, requires vulnerability. It requires we open our lives, hearts and minds and allow someone into our realm of existance. To be the one accepted means we must trust we will be valued and respected in the relationship. What happens ? Why does divorce, abandoned relationships, crime and even war seem more prevelant than unity? It's pretty clear isn't it? Once we enter the relationship we find it isn't what we thought it would be. We question our perceived value (he doesn't love me), we build defenses (I won't say anything, but I don't want to be friends anymore), leave the relationship(divorce, abandon) or worse don't leave just infict pain by active rejection (verbal, physical abuse, rude offensive behavior, etc).

Do you want to enrich your life? Don't look for the rejection. Don't anticipate how others will respond to you. Just go out into the world, open the arms of your heart, your life and welcome someone in. How do you do this you ask? Find something you like in a person and tell them what it is. (You have a great smile, you're a good listener....etc) Ask questions, listen to the answers. Build them up. You will have taken a big step toward a fulfilling existence for your life and someone elses.

[SlipStream]

yep, we all need each other but it's so hard for us to get on sometimes.