please help me with this

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:05 am

I will keep this story short, many of you know I split from my 3 year relationship this past February, and I have struggled with the getting over it, for the most part I did good. I slip every now and then and miss the dam guy ok. So a funny thing happened I went back into online dating and was matched with him ahaha we just closed that file up and never went back.

I still have all that info in my system mind you so I decided I was going to delete the old stuff but took one last look at his profile....

I am just sick, sick sick, he has 2 photos on his dating profile that have my kid included. WTF am I wrong to be horrified! One is titled my Rent-a-kids (f***me my daughter is nothing to him)

I am vibrating in anger over this. Second photo her face is in there as well as mine UGH what the heck is up with this?

What do I do, I do NOT want my kids pic out there like that. Am I over reacting?

Gawd you guys am I an idiot for feeling this.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:08 am

Can you get ahold of this guy and have the photos removed?

There should be a privacy issue here?

Patsy

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:12 am

Patsy Warnick;681097 wrote: Can you get ahold of this guy and have the photos removed?

There should be a privacy issue here?

Patsy

I guess I am going to have to try, this is the guy who very unceremoniously dumped me for such reasons as he had to much on his plate and dating had to be put on hold (then was matched up with me not 5 weeks after dumping me. I have no idea if I can reach him and this is extremely uncomfortable but yes it's a huge privacy thing.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:15 am

I would be very upset Minks...and frustrated until I got those pictures removed. I wonder if you can contact the site admin?? I would report him using pictures without your permission.

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:20 am

Minks, I would be furious if someone place pictures of my kids on the net. He has no business doing that, they are not his kids (I assume) tell him to get the photos off and to go get his own kids.

Post by **spot** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:22 am

The dating site will delete his account if you complain about it to them, they have to have a quick-response method to complaints over photos. Find the button and click.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:22 am

WonderWendy3;681101 wrote: I would be very upset Minks...and frustrated until I got those pictures removed. I wonder if you can contact the site admin?? I would report him using pictures without your permission.

Maybe that is a good start point WW3 thank you, I am amazed they would even allow pics of kids, I know of other date sites that ask you not to.

Part of me wants to calmly call the ******* and be very polite and let him know myself that those pics are not appropriate and I do not want them on the dating site.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:25 am

mikeinie;681103 wrote: Minks, I would be furious if someone place pictures of my kids on the net. He has no business doing that, they are not his kids (I assume) tell him to get the photos off and to go get his own kids.

No these are not his kids one is his nephew the other is 100% all mine.

Spot you are right I should contact admin.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:25 am

minks;681105 wrote: Maybe that is a good start point WW3 thank you, I am amazed they would even allow pics of kids, I know of other date sites that ask you not to.

Part of me wants to calmly call the ******* and be very polite and let him know myself that those pics are not appropriate and I do not want them on the dating site.

Do you think thats why he did it though?? A part of me thinks that this was a ploy to get to you!! I'd see if I could get around it without him knowing that he's upset you.

If you guys met on that site, he knows you more than likely will see it!

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:33 am

WonderWendy3;681109 wrote: Do you think thats why he did it though?? A part of me thinks that this was a ploy to get to you!! I'd see if I could get around it without him knowing that he's upset you.

If you guys met on that site, he knows you more than likely will see it!

no we did not meet on this site, we were matched by the site here after we had split. When the match came to me online there were NO pics of Jr Minks in it. I suspect he thinks I would never see his profile again cause it's not a lookie see site it's like matchmaking. We do not have the ability to search through candidates.

Mia · Post by **Mia** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:35 am

What an *******,you are well rid of him Minx.I think Spot is correct in what he says. I would not contact him at all,but go through the site.I know you are angry and want to give him a mouthful,but as they say there is more than one way to skin a cat.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:38 am

He has no right to put your children's pictures on the internet!

definitely contact the site and let them know.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:41 am

AngelEyes82;681124 wrote: omg!!! I can't believe he did that!! WTF! I would def get ahold of him!! He has no right to put your childrens pictures on the internet.. :-5

part of me wants to tell him I know what he did then ask him to remove the pics and suggest if he chooses not to I would take it up with the site.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:44 am

All good advice from everyone so far Minks.

I can't blame you for being upset. He is probably tring to make himself seem kid frindly,or just friendly to others. I'm sure you know the truth.

Tater Tazz · Post by **Tater Tazz** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:49 am

I would be pis*ed too. You need to tell him to get those pictures of the kids off. Who knows what weard people look at those.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:55 am

Minks

Be happy your not seeing him anymore - using these pics, from all the pics to choose from? IMO is weird and a bit scarey.

Patsy

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 11:22 am

Patsy Warnick;681144 wrote: Minks

Be happy your not seeing him anymore - using these pics, from all the pics to choose from? IMO is weird and a bit scarey.

Patsy

exactly patsy exactly. My daughter is a very pretty girl, she is 16 it's just wrong.

I think he needs to hear directly from me first then I will immediately contact the site and blast them for allowing these pics on the date site.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 12:45 pm

minks;681127 wrote: part of me wants to tell him I know what he did then ask him to remove the pics and suggest if he chooses not to I would take it up with the site.

Go for the throat - no warning, just a complaint to the site admin stressing that he has not received your permission and mentioning that you are considering how best to take legal action against him.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 12:50 pm

Hi Mel,

I would be furious. We have to protect our children. He had not right to do that. If Admin won't help you, I'd call the police. Seriously, I would :-5

Chookie · Post by **Chookie** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 1:04 pm

Do what Bryn said - to start with. If that doesn't get the result you want, get the police, the lawyers and the media involved.

Take no prisoners.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 1:47 pm

minks;681127 wrote: part of me wants to tell him I know what he did then ask him to remove the pics and suggest if he chooses not to I would take it up with the site.

Did he ask you if he could put your childrens pictures on the net? No!

Just contact the site and complain...complain..complain.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 3:20 pm

i would do what spot said complaine to the site cheeky bugger

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 5:59 pm

minks;681127 wrote: part of me wants to tell him I know what he did then ask him to remove the pics and suggest if he chooses not to I would take it up with the site.

M, he didn't ask you if he could put them up.

I wouldn't ask him to take them down, I'd go through the site and risk his account.

I'm sure he'll know it was you behind it.

He had no business doing this.

Mystery · Post by **Mystery** » Fri Aug 17, 2007 6:51 pm

I think you have every right to be absolutely furious. He has no right putting pics of your children up (on a damn dating site no less). I don't think he deserves a personal request - cut him off at the knees with admin. I hope that gets worked out for you.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 3:42 am

I would be paralyzed with anger. What a set of**** Dont talk to him, just report him.

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 3:46 am

cut him off in his prime

john wayne bobbit style

Patrick · Post by **Patrick** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 6:52 am

Get the admin. If you have to and if you can afford it only communicate with this mouth breather through a lawyer. Don't give him the satisfaction of hearing you upset.

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 7:10 am

Minks I am absolutely furious to read this!

That is a complete invasion of privacy.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 8:17 am

Take spot's advice and contact the admin at that site. Your daughter's pic and yours should not be up there!

minks · Post by **minks** » Sat Aug 18, 2007 9:19 am

Ok I sent a letter to the admin of the site and explained the situation and asked them to kindly remove the pictures. I shall not contact the ex it's not worth the grief.

I shall keep you updated. Thanks everybody for the support.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Aug 19, 2007 6:36 am

Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I'll go over to the persons house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I'm gone, but you know what I've left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of it's head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done.