AARRRGGGHHH!!! I am SOOO fed up with online dating. The irritating part is that I wasn't even trying to find anyone. I created a myspace profile last year that I rarely update, but I do check my messages every now and then. Years ago I joined match and went on numerous first dates, no seconds. I joined again a few years later and it was the same, tons of dates, no second dates.
My myspace profile isn't even a "dating" profile, it's mainly to keep in touch with my friends. Anyway, I checked the other day and I had a message from a nice sounding, decent looking guy wanting to know if we could "talk". I figured what's the harm so I responded and said "sure, I don't have IM but we can talk through e-mail". So he wrote back and said that was fine. He also gave me his work e-mail because myspace is blocked there and he couldn't check his messages. I wrote to him at his work address and he acted surprised, then we ended up chatting back and forth for several hours.
He finally asked me out for Sunday (tonight) and gave me his home, cell and work numbers, and practically begged me to call. I called the next day and he called me back at least 10 times throughout the night (from work). I was visiting my parents at one point and when I returned I had 3 missed calls, a text message asking me to call him, and an e-mail saying he was worried sick that he had said something to scare me off. I called him back and everything seemed to be fine, he said that he might come to work a little early the next night (last night) and that maybe we could meet somewhere and talk.
He called about an hour and a half before he had to go to work and asked if I wanted to meet somewhere, so we met at a convenience store and talked for about 30 minutes before he left for work. The problem is, he only called once tonight, he talked less than 3 minutes, and mentioned something about them changing his schedule but then acted as if they didn't after all, and then said that if he didn't call me back tonight (this was 11pm and he doesn't get off until 6am) that he will cal tomorrow and arrange a time for us to meet for dinner.
Now this might not sound like a big deal, but trust me...this guy was calling non-stop until we met. One less than 3 minute call afterwards with a mention of a schedule change doesn't feel like a good vibe to me. What could I have possibly said or done in a 30 minute meeting to totally change his mind (He's 37, I'm 35, just FYI so you don't think we're teens)?
I guess there's a 10% chance that I'll actually hear from him today but I'm honestly not expecting it.
First meeting do's and don'ts
First meeting do's and don'ts
Maybe he was'nt attracted to you, just bite the bullet and ask him.
First meeting do's and don'ts
Maybe THAT instant attraction thing/ chemistry didnt happen...You can be drop dead gorgeous and have a great personality but not press someone buttons. We are all different and like different things in life........If he dont call. his loss and move on I say:-4
First meeting do's and don'ts
Did you meet up in the end? What happened?