Family Secrets

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 12:36 pm

Now, what do you do when a family member tells you a hush-hush secret? Do you honor their confidentiality, go to another family member right away and try to find out if it is true, or just wait it out?

I heard a happy one today, I tend to just wait it out until it is officially announced.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 12:55 pm

chonsigirl;831063 wrote: Now, what do you do when a family member tells you a hush-hush secret? Do you honor their confidentiality, go to another family member right away and try to find out if it is true, or just wait it out?

I heard a happy one today, I tend to just wait it out until it is officially announced.

Did you agree to confidentiality before you were told - if so your hands are tied.

Generally wait it out unless it could hurt someone else by being hidden.

In this case, congratulations on the good news.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 12:56 pm

Happy sad just wait it out let them break the news to the family.

[QUOTE]I heard a happy one today, I tend to just wait it out until it is officially announced.[/QUOTE]

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:01 pm

Oh yes, I promised not to tell. It is a happy secret.

Oh Bryn, if it was something that would hurt someone, that is a different thing altogether.

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:35 pm

I would keep my word too. I wouldn't though if I thought they were in danger!

Chookie · Post by **Chookie** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 1:51 pm

You keep your mouth shut - somebody else will tell you.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 2:07 pm

I'm with jennyswan....I'm the keeper of secrets unless I feel the person will hurt themselves or others...keeper of tissues , beach badges and phone numbers....just call me....:wah:

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 2:49 pm

Your daughter is pregnant.

Congratulations :-6

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 3:27 pm

I was think the very same thing Nomad.

[QUOTE]Your daughter is pregnant.

Congratulations [/QUOTE]

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 3:51 pm

I am happy for your happy secret!!....those are the best kind.

I used to be a blabber mouth, but learned my lesson a long time ago....so I do keep secrets, I have a big one that I've known for years and I have vowed to never tell one person in the family....it would hurt them deeply and probably change their life completely.....would be devastating, so...Wendy keeps her big trap shut!!!

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 6:03 pm

Oh, I wish that was the secret-one day I will be a granny.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 8:37 pm

The last conversation I had with my Dad's mother was probably 7 years ago. She told me my dad has a half sister. He doesn't know but he knows her. I told Mom but haven't and won't tell dad.

dimples · Post by **dimples** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 9:49 pm

This happens so rarely, that I don't know. Hmm no one has ever told me anything big that I would have wanted to tell someone else

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Tue Apr 08, 2008 9:55 pm

KB.;831444 wrote: The last conversation I had with my Dad's mother was probably 7 years ago. She told me my dad has a half sister. He doesn't know but he knows her. I told Mom but haven't and won't tell dad.

Mine is similar to that.....can I ask why you have decided not to tell?? would it hurt your dad or were you asked not to tell?

the secret I carry, there are MANY people in the family that know, I found out by the slip of a tongue when I was 30 years old...and got confirmation of its truth, the person that it is about doesn't know until this day, yet many of us do....I won't tell because of who the secret started with.