If You Want To Be Loved.

Post by **jones jones** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 5:26 am

Adapted from Lessons of the Lotus, by Bhante Y. Wimala (Bantam, 1997).

A woman once came to the author of this book, saying, “Bhante, I have been alone too long. Would you please pray for me? Pray for the right man to come to me. I know he is out there.

Find out what this Buddhist monk and teacher told her, here:

Bhante Wimala says:

“The woman described the type of man she was waiting for: a kind, caring person who would love her unconditionally and accept her for who she was. She said that he should be an unselfish, honest, and generous person. After listening to her for a while, I said to her that the best I could do was to pray, not for the appearance of that man, but for the discovery, and maybe cultivation, within herself of all those qualities she wanted in a man. I told her that once she experienced those qualities within herself, there would be plenty of good men who would be attracted to her.

I encouraged her to spend time looking within and working on herself, instead of waiting with anxiety and frustration for the ideal man. I said, ‘Maybe the wonderful man you are looking for is waiting for a wonderful woman. Are you ready now to fit into that spot? If not, are you prepared to do what is necessary so that you become the one qualified to fill the spot?’

I often meet people who are selfish, uncaring, unhappy, and aggressive. I see men who have a very poor image of women and women who are angry with men. They are looking for a relationship with someone who is unselfish, caring, happy, and gentle. They go on blaming others for their not being loved. If you believe that men are terrible, how are you going to attract a good man? If you believe women are detestable, how are you going to attract the right woman?

We have a saying in Sri Lanka that a flower that is full of nectar does not have to beg the honeybees to pollinate it. The bees will know how to find the flower so long as it has nectar. Once they find the flower, they will also be very careful not to destroy it.

If you want to attract human ‘honeybees,’ you need to be a flower–not just a beautiful flower but one that also has nectar, a sweet essence. For the bees, the outside of a flower does not matter much, because they know the sweetness is in the essence. For human beings, spirituality and love constitute the nectar of life, the sweet essence within.

Post by **jones jones** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 5:53 am

koochikoo;889263 wrote: Nice post Jj :-6

The "honeybees" are pretty sparse here though, might have to ship us over a hive or two

hey kooch honey ... you just be yourself and the bees WILL come a abuzzing ...

believe me!

Jj :-4

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 6:15 am

Sure, that sounds wonderful and everything but what about that biatch that refuses to share her nectar juice ? Speak to us of this grasshopper. Why is this ? Is it hidden so deep within the flower the bees cant find it ? Are the bees not good enough for the queen ? Oh sure theyre just worker bees right ?

How does one pollenate the nectar-less ?

How does a bee become enlightened when the bee never gets credit for anything ?

The queen gets all the glory....whatever dude !

Post by **Betty Boop** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 6:36 am

Cool post JJ :-6 The buddhists make so much sense.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 6:42 am

My home is where my hive is.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 10:29 am

that is just beautiful Jj! :-6

but i kinda agree with Koo, we can be as beautiful a flower as we can, but what if there are no honeybees?

Post by **jones jones** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 12:28 pm

Hope6;889415 wrote: that is just beautiful Jj! :-6

but i kinda agree with Koo, we can be as beautiful a flower as we can, but what if there are no honeybees?

hey what the matter with all you guys in the deep south and aussie?

jeez ... i can't be everywhere at once!

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 1:39 pm

jones jones;889550 wrote: hey what the matter with all you guys in the deep south and aussie?

jeez ... i can't everywhere at once!

:wah::wah::wah: that's just it! What guys? :wah:

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 1:54 pm

Nomad;889276 wrote: Sure, that sounds wonderful and everything but what about that biatch that refuses to share her nectar juice ? Speak to us of this grasshopper. Why is this ? Is it hidden so deep within the flower the bees cant find it ? Are the bees not good enough for the queen ? Oh sure theyre just worker bees right ?

How does one pollenate the nectar-less ?

How does a bee become enlightened when the bee never gets credit for anything ?

The queen gets all the glory....whatever dude !

Shutupaya face biatch & do what J tells ya :sneaky:

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:46 pm

buttercup;889592 wrote: Shutupaya face biatch & do what J tells ya :sneaky:

:eek::eek: