depress/lonley

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Mar 05, 2005 4:53 pm

hello and welcome to FG ....i am sure you know how to make friends at the age of 39, even though you say you are shy, there are lots of ways. organizations, through colleagues, churches, extending yourself into volunteerism, going places, like museums, galleries, wherever your interests lay. whatever you enjoy doing , a sport, anything, is an opportunity to meet people with the same interests. just say HI to people, and smile, most people would like to meet you too i am sure.

capt_buzzard · Post by **capt_buzzard** » Sat Mar 05, 2005 4:58 pm

Hello and Welcome to Forum Garden.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Mar 05, 2005 5:23 pm

tazziewoman wrote: l always been shy,and shy to talk to new people.so how can l make new friends that way?

well i have listed a few ways and places, but it's up to you, to have friends you must meet people halfway and BE a friend. it means overcoming your shyness and reaching out to others. people may be reticent around you because they mistake shyness for disinterest. practice smiling and talking to people you meet in everyday life. it works! ask about them and their interests and before you know it you'll be in a conversation.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Mar 05, 2005 5:53 pm

WELCOME..

First thing you have to do is get out of the house. From there just be yourself, and see how it goes. People won't bit your head off.. Just smile, nod, and make eye contact.

Do you work, any friends on the job..??

Like LadyCop said.. Go to places that are to your liking, classes, museums, shows, stuff that you like to do.. that way it's easier to talk if it's a subject you like.

Your old enough to know how to comunicate like an adult.. so GET OUT THERE AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS, YOU WILL BE SO GLAD YOU DID..

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat Mar 05, 2005 7:04 pm

I think being on a forum is a great way to learn how to speak up. If you participate in a number of threads you find out how to get to know people and communicate. It is still a leap to post something in the other threads but a lot easier than real life because you can sit and stare at the screen for a while before you say anything and no one gets embarassed because no one knows you are staring. You get a chance to reread what you are saying before you post it, unlike real conversation where whatever is said is said as it occurs. You can even go back in and edit it if you suddenly think you made a mistake or said something "wrong". If you participate here you will gain some skills to help you outside the virtual world.

If you only ever had one REAL friend in life you would be doing okay. I have more acquaintances than I would prefer but only a small number of real friends. Three, I believe. And that is after working in the film industry where I was forced to become social. That you are gay is only important if you wish it to be. I have been hit on by a number of women regardless of my sexuality. If you love yourself and appreciate who you are others will too.

Welcome. BTW I have a feeling you're kinda cute.

rachelg · Post by **rachelg** » Sun Mar 06, 2005 7:02 am

Hi, I was PAINFULLY shy the first 25 years of my life. I am still reserved, but I will talk to people now when I want to, and I'll call up a friend to talk when I'm lonely. The main thing that helped me to get out of it was working in the public at a major retail store. You probably have an office job, but you can nearly always get a part-time job working evenings in the mall stores. When your job requires you welcome every customer and you get involved helping them match up outfits (or pick out dog toys, or find the right tool, etc), you start getting in practice for conversations. The more you practice, the easier and more natural it becomes. Plus being out in public, you may meet potential friends.There are probably other ways you could practice conversing, but this is an easy way and it made me come out of my shell. :-6

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Sun Mar 06, 2005 8:42 am

Hi, you are not shy, you gave much information about yourself. Here is a place where many people will talk to you...they talk to me? keep coming here and you will enjoy very much discussing everything from flies to elephant dung.

Post by **kensloft** » Sun Mar 06, 2005 9:41 am

Welcome to the forum tazziewoman. Jump in and talk to your hearts content in any of the threads and you will find your ideas and words being responded to by many fine people. Have fun.

amale · Post by **amale** » Sun Mar 06, 2005 11:00 pm

Think....I am your friend.....even though I am far away...

there is always a friend.....the creater himself......

dont get get depressed.......lots of love