MATURE

cars · Post by **cars** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 1:30 am

AT WHAT AGE DID YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF MATURE"? :-2

(I know some of you may not ever want to or will be mature) :wah:

Cars :driving:

pink princess · Post by **pink princess** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 2:15 am

i dont know really, id say im mature but i think wisdom comes with age....

ive always been more mature than my years, especially when growing up but i dont actually think its done me that many favours.....

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 4:27 am

Never.. I suffer from Peter Pan syndrome... I ain't never growing up.. nope.. I refuse to....

Agnes · Post by **Agnes** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 4:52 am

mature, its a matter of opinion. this is a question a mature person needs to answer for us all, because most of us are not qualified as mature? the experts would describe this the best, they are probably resting right now.

Jika · Post by **Jika** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 5:06 am

Gee, this is hard to pin-point, I'd say late 20s was when I truly, sincerely started listening to people.

Respecting and valuing older peoples input, especially regarding their life experiences and opposing points of view was a gift that came with time.

It was like a whole new dimension for me, an insight thing, where I just stopped being defensive, relaxed some, and absorbed the wisdom and knowledge of older, wiser folk.

When I think back to being 19, Arrgh... It was such an arrogant age...'Don't tell me', 'I know-it-all' , 'I'm in-charge', I was so headstrong, proud, doggedly independant, untouchable.

Having said that, whilst the wisdom of elders lights the path 'so to speak' it's actually a blast and awe inspiring to chat with children too b/c their take on the world albeit simplistic, is usually hysterically funny, refreshing, and ultimately grounding which is what so many of us need in this fast-paced, disposable, dog-eat-dog world of ours.

What's that old saying; "Drunk men and children speak the truth."

I believe if you're truly willing to listen and empathise with points of view, from all age groups, you can't go to far wrong.

polycarp · Post by **polycarp** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 5:32 am

I have reasons to believe that I became mature in my mid twenties after my gradauation from the University and got my first job. The experience of earning wages and planning how to use my income to fend for myself gave me that feeling of maturity.

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 6:16 am

At 19 when I moved out and started to pay rent I thought I was very mature. Now, looking back on it, I don't think I was very mature at all...sure did feel that way though.

jahamaa · Post by **jahamaa** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 7:40 am

Excellent question cars.

I scanned this thread and then moved on, not being really interested in this kind of reflection but I couldn't stop asking myself the question.

I've always tried, to one extent or another, to meet my responciblities but at the same time I must admit if I had been truly mature most of the problems I have had in my life would not have happened.

Do I now act as I do because I have learned it is the best way to avoid trouble or have I " seen the light" and now am mature enough to know how to act?

Most of my views of life have really not changed that much over the years.

Is gaining the wisdom to get through life maturity?

Reading the previous threads suggest not all people measure it the same way.

Deep question if you really look at it. And to be honest at 52 years of age, I am not sure, that in many ways, I am mature.

Bothwell · Post by **Bothwell** » Mon Apr 11, 2005 7:58 am

I think it must be 48, i am 47 and don't feel it yet, so maybe next year.

On a seroius note people I have spoken to feel it most when they lose their parents, they suddenley become the head of the family so to speak and that emotional crutch has gone.