White Daughters and Black boyfriends

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 10:01 pm

A friend of mine asked me what I would do if my 13 year old daughter (who is white) wanted to date a black 13 year old boy.

Personally, I have no problem with it. My parents, on the other hand, would completely disapprove....good thing I care NOT what they do or do not think.

If the relationship lasted for awhile, and turned into something long term, I might discuss some hardships that interracial couples have had in the past, especially in the area i live in.. mostly to prepare them for what they might be faced with.

Thoughts?

Snowfire · Post by **Snowfire** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 1:45 am

My daughter had a relationship some years ago with a young Asian boy. He didnt come in to the house for months, so terrified of the image I supposedly portrayed (very large lump of a man with shaved head and goatee beard ) despite my daughters assurances. I looked like the sterotypical racist, he thought, so I must be. I was interested in only one thing and that was how he treated my daughter and he was a polite, well dressed, good natured young man.

Unfortunately I only found out very recently that he was a bully but thats another story.

Thankfully I wasn't bought up amongst any racist attitudes, from either my parents or grandparents. We had grown up within a large Hindu/Sikh community. My stepfather, however, while welcoming my daughters boyfriend into the house, scoffed at any prospect of marriage but was soon scowled back by the rest of us

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 3:02 am

devist8me;1324099 wrote: A friend of mine asked me what I would do if my 13 year old daughter (who is white) wanted to date a black 13 year old boy.

Personally, I have no problem with it. My parents, on the other hand, would completely disapprove....good thing I care NOT what they do or do not think.

If the relationship lasted for awhile, and turned into something long term, I might discuss some hardships that interracial couples have had in the past, especially in the area i live in.. mostly to prepare them for what they might be faced with.

Thoughts?

I wouldn't care one bit.As long as they were happy.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 3:26 am

Why, there is nothing wrong with it.

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 3:53 am

Ya, I would not approve of my 13 year old daughter dating anyone at that age.

She would need to wait another year or two.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 5:41 am

White, black...whatever.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 6:38 am

Wouldn't matter to me at all just treat each other with respect that is what counts. 13 does seem a bit young to start dating that is what I would have an objection to.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 7:29 am

I'm heartened by the acceptance my high school students show toward superficial differences. As more and more of us old farts die off it becomes less and less of an issue.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 7:59 am

I have a white son with a Mexican girlfriend, luckily my favorite food is Mexican. Anyone for a tequila and a hat dance?

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 8:09 am

My eleven year old is crushing on an eleven year old boy named tre' - real name pedro. She says she is too young for boyfriends. I agree. Her dad is thinking maybe after she's 18 she can start dating...lol

But tre is in advanced classes with her and seems like a nice kid. That's really all i care about.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 8:14 am

flopstock;1324172 wrote: My eleven year old is crushing on an eleven year old boy named tre' - real name pedro. She says she is too young for boyfriends. I agree. Her dad is thinking maybe after she's 18 she can start dating...lol

But tre is in advanced classes with her and seems like a nice kid. That's really all i care about.

I don't look at color as long as the person is nice. But, if I did have a daughter, which I don't I would NOT wanting her dating at 13.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 11:21 am

The life of a girl of 13 would be enriched with the company of good friends from any race. But dating? At 13? Too young.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 8:54 pm

The topic I was mostly interested in was race but appreciate the extra info about dating practices.

cars · Post by **cars** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 5:25 am

Everyone is so politically correct these days, but no one really knows how they would really react/feel, until they were actually confronted with the real life senerio. We as a nation, have a ways to go yet for full unbias acceptance. Say what you will, but . . . . . like Acc said, in time, when the old farts die off, then there will be no difference, and then full acceptance.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 7:44 am

flopstock;1324172 wrote: My eleven year old is crushing on an eleven year old boy named tre' - real name pedro.

But tre is in advanced classes

Sounds to me like youre thinking ahead to hopping onto some kind of gravy train. "go for the smart one honey hell bring in the $ then mommy can retire"

Ill reserve judgement except to say "wow"

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:31 am

i keep going back to this thread...

here is what i think..color? hmmmm

who cares..in this day and time if that is the question you are doing good

what if Melanie brings home Melissa as her life mate..

johnny likes charles.

or the big one..what do you mean..you are six months pregnant..living in my house..and dont know who the parent is...lol

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:40 am

If our daughter dated someone of a different race, it wouldn't bother me as long as he treated her well. My husband, on the other hand, would have a fit. If either child wanted to date someone of the same gender, wouldn't bother me either as long as they are happy.

fae · Post by **fae** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 9:46 am

A good person who my daughter loves is what matters, not race or gender..... what bothers me most is segregation, by whichever race...