What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Is that somehow "abnormal"? Does there come a point when you have missed the boat for ever, so to speak, and you might as well accept you will never find anyone and are destined to face a life alone?
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Oh, I would not think that is so. My cousin never fell in love and married until she was in her late 40s.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
medicinehat1;1324990 wrote: Is that somehow "abnormal"? Does there come a point when you have missed the boat for ever, so to speak, and you might as well accept you will never find anyone and are destined to face a life alone?
If a relationship is truly important to you then I think it would have happened. My guess is that a relationship is not a high priority for you and there is nothing wrong with that.
Are you male or female-------------Hard to tell from your prior posts and you list no data in Profile.
If a relationship is truly important to you then I think it would have happened. My guess is that a relationship is not a high priority for you and there is nothing wrong with that.
Are you male or female-------------Hard to tell from your prior posts and you list no data in Profile.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Why have you not been in a relationship?
What are your circumstances?
Provide some background.
What are your circumstances?
Provide some background.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Could you elaborate.?
It's difficult to reply.
Thank You
Patsy
It's difficult to reply.
Thank You
Patsy
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
medicinehat1;1324990 wrote: Is that somehow "abnormal"? Does there come a point when you have missed the boat for ever, so to speak, and you might as well accept you will never find anyone and are destined to face a life alone?
You'll get what you expect to get. My only advice would be to start having some great expectations.
You'll get what you expect to get. My only advice would be to start having some great expectations.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
medicinehat1;1324990 wrote: Is that somehow "abnormal"? Does there come a point when you have missed the boat for ever, so to speak, and you might as well accept you will never find anyone and are destined to face a life alone?
heavens no, 33 is young.
Perhaps you should join some meet-up clubs like I did, I met a very nice man and I'm a lot older than you.
heavens no, 33 is young.
Perhaps you should join some meet-up clubs like I did, I met a very nice man and I'm a lot older than you.
Life is just to short for drama.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
flopstock;1325051 wrote: You'll get what you expect to get. My only advice would be to start having some great expectations.
not always, it all depends on circumstances, sometimes having great expectations can leave you devastated.
Being positive about one's self is a major key.
not always, it all depends on circumstances, sometimes having great expectations can leave you devastated.
Being positive about one's self is a major key.
Life is just to short for drama.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
OK - Medic !!
I say your fishing since you failed to elaborate. and yes, you were on your thread & decided not to reply.
So, I'll reply as the first time I read this : Yes, I find it abnormal. no doubt about it.
and Never say Never.
I'm sorry - but to be 33 and you haven't had a relationship for 1 yr. 2 yrs .?? 6 months? weird.
Hope my imput was helpful.
Patsy
I say your fishing since you failed to elaborate. and yes, you were on your thread & decided not to reply.
So, I'll reply as the first time I read this : Yes, I find it abnormal. no doubt about it.
and Never say Never.
I'm sorry - but to be 33 and you haven't had a relationship for 1 yr. 2 yrs .?? 6 months? weird.
Hope my imput was helpful.
Patsy
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Depends. Are you rich? if so it does not matter how long you wait.
if however you are broke, too late, it's over. sorry
if however you are broke, too late, it's over. sorry
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
never been in a relationship? does the other person know you felt that way?
or do you mean never been in love? ......again does the other person know you felt that way .....I'm personally finding that hard to believe.
or do you mean never been in love? ......again does the other person know you felt that way .....I'm personally finding that hard to believe.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
I expect to Medic to post a link to a dating site soon for those over 30 crowd looking for love in all the wrong places. !! sorry just my hinky meter on alert.
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MOTTO TO LIVE BY:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming.
WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
Lady at work here had never been in a relationship and was almost 40. After her father passed away she 'came out'. She went online and entered a relationship. That's 5 years ago and they just bought a house together. I think it's cool that she is happy, but kinda sad that for years she was miserable.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
CARLA;1325106 wrote: I expect to Medic to post a link to a dating site soon for those over 30 crowd looking for love in all the wrong places. !! sorry just my hinky meter on alert.
:wah: I've been waiting for that also Carla. Guess great minds think alike:-6
:wah: I've been waiting for that also Carla. Guess great minds think alike:-6
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
After splitting from my Ex husband, I certainly was not looking for a replacement, In-fact I reveled In being able to live my life without control. I met Peter when I was not looking and he was not looking. It started off as friendship and then became serious later. We have been married for many years very happily so my advice to any-one Is just get on with your life and that Special One will come along when you very least expect It.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
I haven't replied as I haven't really been on here all that long since making the original post, but here is some background.
I am 33 as said, male, and live near London, England.
I had a happy time at primary school (elementary school in the USA?) and a miserable time at secondary school where it wouldn't be far off the mark to say I was severely bullied. That's why I have a life-long hatred of anyone who tries to get their way to the top, so to speak, by intimidating and belittling other people.
The only time I felt particularly happy was in my second and third years at university, my third year being when I spent a year for my degree in France, a country that is close to my heart. The six and a half years I worked in my previous job before being made redundant are also a time when I was happier than I had been for a while as I got to know many great people who I have the utmost respect for. Now I have moved away from where I was before to my new job and essentially it's a case of starting all over again.
It is perhaps my past which has made me, by my own admission, a very closed person which plays a role in why I have never let someone into my life. Most teenagers, going back to the school period again, have their first kiss, their first fumblings, that sort of thing as a "rite of passage". I never experienced any of that. At the moment I am, through various means, being helped to see it in context in order to move on if you will, in other words to find out the "why" of it all.
I try not to give up hope and want to believe that there is a reason to be hopeful. Nonetheless, it is frustrating to find that woman after woman after woman that I speak to is already either in a relationship or married, even if people say "you can meet people through others". Furthermore, when people you know are getting married and having kids it does bring it all home to you. Maybe it's a case of that you should just live your life and you will meet someone when you least expect it (if you find yourself in the appropriate circumstances) if there is any truth to that?
Hope that makes sense - it is late here (nearly 1am) and should be heading to bed as early start tomorrow.
I am 33 as said, male, and live near London, England.
I had a happy time at primary school (elementary school in the USA?) and a miserable time at secondary school where it wouldn't be far off the mark to say I was severely bullied. That's why I have a life-long hatred of anyone who tries to get their way to the top, so to speak, by intimidating and belittling other people.
The only time I felt particularly happy was in my second and third years at university, my third year being when I spent a year for my degree in France, a country that is close to my heart. The six and a half years I worked in my previous job before being made redundant are also a time when I was happier than I had been for a while as I got to know many great people who I have the utmost respect for. Now I have moved away from where I was before to my new job and essentially it's a case of starting all over again.
It is perhaps my past which has made me, by my own admission, a very closed person which plays a role in why I have never let someone into my life. Most teenagers, going back to the school period again, have their first kiss, their first fumblings, that sort of thing as a "rite of passage". I never experienced any of that. At the moment I am, through various means, being helped to see it in context in order to move on if you will, in other words to find out the "why" of it all.
I try not to give up hope and want to believe that there is a reason to be hopeful. Nonetheless, it is frustrating to find that woman after woman after woman that I speak to is already either in a relationship or married, even if people say "you can meet people through others". Furthermore, when people you know are getting married and having kids it does bring it all home to you. Maybe it's a case of that you should just live your life and you will meet someone when you least expect it (if you find yourself in the appropriate circumstances) if there is any truth to that?
Hope that makes sense - it is late here (nearly 1am) and should be heading to bed as early start tomorrow.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
medicinehat1;1325243 wrote: I haven't replied as I haven't really been on here all that long since making the original post, but here is some background.
I am 33 as said, male, and live near London, England.
I had a happy time at primary school (elementary school in the USA?) and a miserable time at secondary school where it wouldn't be far off the mark to say I was severely bullied. That's why I have a life-long hatred of anyone who tries to get their way to the top, so to speak, by intimidating and belittling other people.
The only time I felt particularly happy was in my second and third years at university, my third year being when I spent a year for my degree in France, a country that is close to my heart. The six and a half years I worked in my previous job before being made redundant are also a time when I was happier than I had been for a while as I got to know many great people who I have the utmost respect for. Now I have moved away from where I was before to my new job and essentially it's a case of starting all over again.
It is perhaps my past which has made me, by my own admission, a very closed person which plays a role in why I have never let someone into my life. Most teenagers, going back to the school period again, have their first kiss, their first fumblings, that sort of thing as a "rite of passage". I never experienced any of that. At the moment I am, through various means, being helped to see it in context in order to move on if you will, in other words to find out the "why" of it all.
I try not to give up hope and want to believe that there is a reason to be hopeful. Nonetheless, it is frustrating to find that woman after woman after woman that I speak to is already either in a relationship or married, even if people say "you can meet people through others". Furthermore, when people you know are getting married and having kids it does bring it all home to you. Maybe it's a case of that you should just live your life and you will meet someone when you least expect it (if you find yourself in the appropriate circumstances) if there is any truth to that?
Hope that makes sense - it is late here (nearly 1am) and should be heading to bed as early start tomorrow.
If you stop any look at the folks around you, they all have baggage they are carrying with them, just like you are.
What if you aren't the least happy person in your immediate vicinity? I went and read your other posts on the board - I like that person. That person exhibits varied interests ..... I mean seriously -sports, religion, euro/american relations, personal relationships and you aren't 20 posts into this site yet. There are folks out there that have no outside interests whatsoever. You aren't one of them.
Quit worrying you'll never get anyone. I'm an idiot and I've found someones throughout my life. I think mostly though, they've tended to find me when I'm happy with myself and my world... and that usually only happens when I'm less focused on what might be wrong with me and more focused on enjoying myself.:-6
I am 33 as said, male, and live near London, England.
I had a happy time at primary school (elementary school in the USA?) and a miserable time at secondary school where it wouldn't be far off the mark to say I was severely bullied. That's why I have a life-long hatred of anyone who tries to get their way to the top, so to speak, by intimidating and belittling other people.
The only time I felt particularly happy was in my second and third years at university, my third year being when I spent a year for my degree in France, a country that is close to my heart. The six and a half years I worked in my previous job before being made redundant are also a time when I was happier than I had been for a while as I got to know many great people who I have the utmost respect for. Now I have moved away from where I was before to my new job and essentially it's a case of starting all over again.
It is perhaps my past which has made me, by my own admission, a very closed person which plays a role in why I have never let someone into my life. Most teenagers, going back to the school period again, have their first kiss, their first fumblings, that sort of thing as a "rite of passage". I never experienced any of that. At the moment I am, through various means, being helped to see it in context in order to move on if you will, in other words to find out the "why" of it all.
I try not to give up hope and want to believe that there is a reason to be hopeful. Nonetheless, it is frustrating to find that woman after woman after woman that I speak to is already either in a relationship or married, even if people say "you can meet people through others". Furthermore, when people you know are getting married and having kids it does bring it all home to you. Maybe it's a case of that you should just live your life and you will meet someone when you least expect it (if you find yourself in the appropriate circumstances) if there is any truth to that?
Hope that makes sense - it is late here (nearly 1am) and should be heading to bed as early start tomorrow.
If you stop any look at the folks around you, they all have baggage they are carrying with them, just like you are.
What if you aren't the least happy person in your immediate vicinity? I went and read your other posts on the board - I like that person. That person exhibits varied interests ..... I mean seriously -sports, religion, euro/american relations, personal relationships and you aren't 20 posts into this site yet. There are folks out there that have no outside interests whatsoever. You aren't one of them.
Quit worrying you'll never get anyone. I'm an idiot and I've found someones throughout my life. I think mostly though, they've tended to find me when I'm happy with myself and my world... and that usually only happens when I'm less focused on what might be wrong with me and more focused on enjoying myself.:-6
I expressly forbid the use of any of my posts anywhere outside of FG (with the exception of the incredibly witty 'get a room already' )posted recently.
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
Folks who'd like to copy my intellectual work should expect to pay me for it.:-6
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
medicinehat1;1324990 wrote: Is that somehow "abnormal"? Does there come a point when you have missed the boat for ever, so to speak, and you might as well accept you will never find anyone and are destined to face a life alone?
In my life I find that the more I look and search for things the more I do not find what it is I'm looking for.
My advice is to live your life being yourself and nothing outside of that viewpoint could possibly render you unhappy. Worrying is a leading cause for gastrointestinal problems you know!
In my life I find that the more I look and search for things the more I do not find what it is I'm looking for.
My advice is to live your life being yourself and nothing outside of that viewpoint could possibly render you unhappy. Worrying is a leading cause for gastrointestinal problems you know!
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Worrying is a leading cause for gastrointestinal problems you know!
Speaking of which.................back in a minute.
Speaking of which.................back in a minute.
What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
#1 You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone.
#2 Stop looking. It will find you.
#2 Stop looking. It will find you.
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What if you're 33, still single and have never (literally) been in a relationship?
flopstock;1325282 wrote:
Quit worrying you'll never get anyone. I'm an idiot and I've found someones throughout my life. I think mostly though, they've tended to find me when I'm happy with myself and my world... and that usually only happens when I'm less focused on what might be wrong with me and more focused on enjoying myself.:-6
I was told that just recently.............. the happier I am with myself the more people will be drawn to me. Weird that .
Quit worrying you'll never get anyone. I'm an idiot and I've found someones throughout my life. I think mostly though, they've tended to find me when I'm happy with myself and my world... and that usually only happens when I'm less focused on what might be wrong with me and more focused on enjoying myself.:-6
I was told that just recently.............. the happier I am with myself the more people will be drawn to me. Weird that .