Did I say something wrong?

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat May 21, 2005 12:29 am

Betcha he's thinking along the same lines you are. Maybe he is nervous about calling you again, thinking he will seem pushy. I'd say go for it and call him. Regret the things you do, not the things you wish you'd done. If you clicked, give it a shot. What's the worst that could happen? I mean, you haven't even met this guy face-to-face. Take a deep breath, and pick up that phone. Good luck, and welcome to FG!! :yh_peace

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat May 21, 2005 12:52 am

Dont let this chance slip through your fingers,if you dont call him he may think that you're not interested in him.

Do you have a friend that can dial the number then hand you the phone? that way you'd have no option but to speak to him.

Once you get over that initial shyness about calling him you'll be fine.

I do hope that it works out for you, please let us know how you get on.

GOOD LUCK X.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat May 21, 2005 4:04 am

ok. let me be blunt as usual... this guy is married. forget all the angst. he's married. he's full of shite.

persephone · Post by **persephone** » Sat May 21, 2005 4:49 am

How did you come to that conclusion LC ???

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat May 21, 2005 5:16 am

Why would a married guy repeatedly ask her to call him?

Wolverine · Post by **Wolverine** » Sat May 21, 2005 5:51 am

match.com is a safe sight. I have met several people there. None turned into relationships, but i do consider them to be friends.

Now, Rusty. Do yourself a big favor and BREATHE. Ok? You're fine. He's fine. things will be all right. I am sure he's thinking along the same lines as you. Not wanting to appear pushy or anything. Just go slow and take your time. Good Luck this weekend!

Do NOT listen to LadyCop in this case, that is her protect and serve mantra. Normally I would tell you to pay attention to her, but not this time.

john8pies · Post by **john8pies** » Sat May 21, 2005 7:27 am

Humans are mixed up people with mixed up emotions, and they usually carry a load of baggage with them in the shape of identity crises, work or college problems, relationship worries, health scares, money probs and the like. PLUS just to complicate things their opinions and stuff on things can change from day to day, and other people can also impact on them. So he may well be genuine (or perhaps not) but may have changed his mind, had a problem or reconsidered his situation (think about some people you know, or read some literature and you`ll see what people are really like!) I suggest you think about what you want from this potential relationship, give him a phone call, try and get it all sorted out and get all the information you want from him without first revealing too much about yourself. Good luck!

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat May 21, 2005 11:19 am

letha wrote: How did you come to that conclusion LC ???just my gut. of course i could be wrong. but he's too evasive and sounds like a game player.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat May 21, 2005 11:45 am

Well not sure if he is married, but I do agree with LC he is holding something, not sure what it is. Odd that he won't call you, you have to call him.

Just back up a bit, and let him make the calls, let him set the date, and you set the place. Just take it slow, don't go head over heals over the first match.

I was a member of MATCH.COM I found it to be a honest site, but people can lie till the cows come home on dating sites.. the pictures they post may not even be them, and on and on. The internet is the easiest way to meet people, and play games with them, and their minds. :-2

Just relax, keep your HINCKY METER UP (mean: something ain't right) and see what happens.

USE SOME COMMON SENSE, DON'T SIT BY THE PHONE WAITING FOR HIM TO CALL.. OH!! by the way don't tell him your always available, your not, your a very busy women, with a hundred pressing things to do, he need not know a damn thing about how you spend your time, or with who..

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat May 21, 2005 3:55 pm

He called her in the first place. Maybe he wants her to call him as a sign she likes him too? He didn't call or email you back? What time limit are we talking here? That day? The next day? The next week?

koan · Post by **koan** » Sat May 21, 2005 8:42 pm

Not sure but I got the feeling he is playing. Somewhat suspicious that he is "calling" more than one woman. If you meet him be careful about how far you go on the first date. That might be all he is looking for.

next12win · Post by **next12win** » Sat May 21, 2005 10:04 pm

If he's married I doubt he'd tell you to call him, he'd always want to be the one to initiate the convos so you don't get him when his wife is nearby.

I say give him a call. See what happens from there.

beyelzu · Post by **beyelzu** » Sun May 22, 2005 2:26 am

not so odd,

I make it a point to not repeatedly call anyone. It is a necessary step as I have a pretty overbearing personality.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sun May 22, 2005 1:33 pm

Usually the people who are married only call or e-mail at odd hours or at the same time each day. Go ahead and call him. Remember - in dating - you usually have to kiss a lot of frogs - or frogettes - before you meet someone you want to spend time with. By kissing - I mean talking - not actual kissing.