Devastated

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sun May 11, 2014 2:46 pm

There are such joys in being a mother and then there are such devastations. My dear cousin....we grew up like sisters, lost her son to a freak accident on his job, he was 23. We were so close I feel like he was my own child, I watched him grow up, babysat him when he was little. I am beyond words but I just can't get his mother out of my mind. The horror of having to bury your child and the day before mother's day. To say I am not doing well would be to put it mildly but I wanted to say, don't take a moment for granted that you have with those you love because we never know what tomorrow will bring.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Sun May 11, 2014 2:50 pm

OMG!!! That poor woman . that is horribly devastating ......... my thoughts are with your cousin and yourself today.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun May 11, 2014 3:06 pm

First of all, my sincere condolences to you cousin and you R.

It has to be the very worst pain anyone can endure. No-one ever envisages that their children will go before them,

At times like this, It's so difficult to know just what to say.

A neighbour 4 doors down from me had to bury her 17 year old last year, a car accident. Like your cousin no doubt, this Is a woman who just did not deserve this.

Often she'll come round just to chat and for a coffee and I just find It so hard to know what to say. We let her talk and she'll rant and cry. Over the year I've watched her go through various emotions, the shock, the disbelief, the anger, the sorrow which Is perfectly normal I'm told. Your cousin and yourself will also. But there Is one good thing, If you can call It that... you are a lovely, caring, sensitive woman R and your cousin has you to help her.

I wish you and your cousin all the very best In the future months and what will be hard times.

xxx

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Sun May 11, 2014 5:42 pm

Hope my dear I am so sorry.

This experience will take a piece of your heart

If you need to talk - we're here.

My condolences to you & all.

Patsy

High Threshold · Post by **High Threshold** » Sun May 11, 2014 10:55 pm

Hope6;1453827 wrote: ..... I wanted to say, don't take a moment for granted that you have with those you love ......

I agree. At least once each and every day I am spontaneously overwhelmed that I am married to the most fantastic woman in the world, and that she thinks I'm worth it.

However, dwelling on what has gone before and what might happen tomorrow will only serve in preventing getting over the pain of past devastation. Withdrawing from life for fear of the immediate future is not good. You don't have to smile and laugh and go dancing, but you still must go to work, do the shopping, get yourself up in the morning, shower and get dressed. The smiling, laughing, and dancing will come of its own accord when the time is right.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Mon May 12, 2014 7:45 am

Hope, I am so sorry to hear this. Very sad. My condolences to you & your family. (((Hope)))

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon May 12, 2014 1:58 pm

So sorry to hear your news, Hope. I'm thinking of you.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Mon May 12, 2014 4:03 pm

My sincere condolences. I wish I could be with you to give a hug.

My first son died on May 5, 1972, just a week before Mother's Day that year.

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Mon May 12, 2014 7:36 pm

Thank you for the reminder, Hope. I try very hard not to take anyone for granted, ever.

There is something very comforting about knowing the last words someone heard was you

telling them you loved them. It happened a little over a year ago with my sister, and several

years before that with my best friend of 33 years. Both of those deaths taught me NOT to

ever put off visits and declarations of love.

Many, many hugs to your, dear lady.

:yh_flower

Post by **Betty Boop** » Tue May 13, 2014 1:20 pm

Condolences to you all, will be thinking of you Hope. :yh_flower

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Thu May 22, 2014 4:45 pm

Thanks you guys. It's just so hard to believe. Another guy in the shop was hammering on something with a sledge hammer and a little piece of the hammer about the size of a dime, broke off and flew over and struck him in an artery in his neck. It just goes to show that you never know what tomorrow will bring. We can be somewhere minding our own business, doing our job and something can come right out of the blue and that's it. I've thought about it and all I can figure is it was just his time, God was ready to call him home I guess.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Thu May 22, 2014 6:12 pm

Well I thought I would stop by, but there doesn't seem to be anybody here. It's been a terrible couple of weeks but we're progressing on as best we can. The neighborhood have banded together to help the family get their tobacco planted. They have 90 acres, much bigger farmers than I am. We've finished planting ours as have a lot of the neighbors but my cousin and her family since losing their son just didn't have the ability it seemed to get going on theirs. So a lot of folks from our community have pitched in to help. Like one guy said, it's what we do around here, if someone needs help, we go help them.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 03, 2014 11:43 am

Hey you guys, how is everybody?

Post by **LarsMac** » Tue Jun 03, 2014 12:58 pm

Glad to see you back.

All is well, here.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:06 pm

Hope6;1456335 wrote: Hey you guys, how is everybody? How are you doing?

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:00 pm

Hey Lars, glad to see you too.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:01 pm

Hi Oscar, I guess I'm doing okay.

cars · Post by **cars** » Wed Jun 04, 2014 7:35 pm

Hope6;1455102 wrote: Well I thought I would stop by, but there doesn't seem to be anybody here. It's been a terrible couple of weeks but we're progressing on as best we can. The neighborhood have banded together to help the family get their tobacco planted. They have 90 acres, much bigger farmers than I am. We've finished planting ours as have a lot of the neighbors but my cousin and her family since losing their son just didn't have the ability it seemed to get going on theirs. So a lot of folks from our community have pitched in to help. Like one guy said, it's what we do around here, if someone needs help, we go help them.

Just dropped in here after a long spell Hope, and read about you & your cousin's tradgey, so sorry for your loss. My depest condolances. May he R. I. P.

They say, time heals all wounds, this one is going to take some time due to his tender age.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Jun 05, 2014 6:26 am

Time doesn't necessarily heal all wounds, cars.

cars · Post by **cars** » Thu Jun 05, 2014 7:36 am

AnneBoleyn;1456486 wrote: Time doesn't necessarily heal all wounds, cars.

Some wounds will never heal, hopefully though, they will lessen in time.

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Thu Jun 05, 2014 7:06 pm

OMG!!!!! CARS!!!! I'm so glad to see you here! How long has it been??? (((((((HUG)))))))

cars · Post by **cars** » Fri Jun 06, 2014 1:05 pm

Hope6;1456523 wrote: OMG!!!!! CARS!!!! I'm so glad to see you here! How long has it been??? (((((((HUG)))))))

Too long Hope, sorry it had to be on such a sad occasion.

It's great to see you too, I will try to get in here more frequently. (((((((((big HUG back))))))))))

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Sat Jun 14, 2014 6:23 am

I hope you do come back more often Cars it will be good to have you around.